Falling in Love with You Through Time is a love science fiction film about a young man named Stewart who breaks into New York in 1876 by discovering the cracks in the tunnel of time and brings Leo, then a fallen aristocrat, back to the modern era. Just as Stewart is thinking of sending Leo back to his original world, Leo falls in love with Stewart's ex-girlfriend Kate. In the end, after Leo returns to his original world, Kate travels to his world without hesitation and continues to fall in love with him.
The film is a love fantasy film starring Meg Ryan and Hugh Jackman. It was released in the United States in 2001 and won the 74th Academy Awards and the 59th Golden Globe Awards in 2002. Many people say that the excellence of this film is that it shows a love that transcends time and space, satisfying people's fantasies about the great power of love. But in my opinion, this is a film wrapped in a traversal coat, but the core tells the audience that the most precious thing in the interaction between men and women is sincerity.
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Love, which turns out to be nameless, waits before meeting, is its name.
In "Falling in Love with You Through Time", Leo, duke of Albany, is still single at the age of thirty. His uncle advised him at a party that he had to choose one of the many women present that night for the sake of the family and declare him his partner.
Uncle: Take a wife and start a family
Leo: Marriage must have a love that is old and unchanging, and I can't even feel a moment of love
Uncle: You came from an aristocratic family, but you are pervertedly ashamed, sad. How sad my brother would have been to see it. You are not aristocratic.
Leo: Of course not, we are historical sites. The new aristocrats were the successful, inventors Edison, Diesel, Bell, Vestinghouse
Uncle: They are just a grass dweller, and you are a prominent person but have done nothing.
In this dialogue we can see that Leo was an aristocrat with new ideas. Unlike his predecessors, he did not want to marry for the sake of family power or money. For marriage, he insists on basing it on love and ending with keeping each other.
This was already very valuable at the time. In Pride and Prejudice, the British writer Jane Austen unveiled the 19th-century aristocratic view of marriage with this sentence: "All rich bachelors always want to marry a wife, and this has reached a universally recognized truth." Such a bachelor, whenever he moves to a new place, although his neighbors have no understanding of his temperament, opinions, and lessons, since such a truth has long been ingrained in people's hearts, people always regard him as a property that one of their daughters deserves. ”
In those days, the attitudes of men and women towards affection were surprisingly consistent: to maximize benefits. However, if love is lost as a foundation in the marriage, then the two people in the marriage are either torturing each other or strangers to each other.
In this fast-food era, a "I miss you" can be sent out instantly with a WeChat; even lovers who are two places apart can easily see each other by plane. However, the more developed the informatization, the more difficult it is to taste the sweet beauty of love. Therefore, people often say that they miss the original "once upon a time, the car was very slow, the letters were far away, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime." ”
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In "Falling in Love with You Through Time", Leo is a very ceremonial gentleman. He would seriously write a letter of apology and prepare a very ceremonial dinner when he made the heroine Kate angry; when Kate had just woken up from her sleep and walked into the living room, Leo would help her pull up a chair and serve bread with cheese and strawberries. Many people say that love dies in detail. But in this movie, it is the details that create love. I have to admit that Leo is a gentleman and a sense of ceremony, both erudite and dedicated, such a person is also the Prince Charming in the hearts of many women if he is now.
The heroine Kate is known as "the most understanding woman among men", because her fierce work style makes her not focus on playing her feminine charm like other women, thinking that marrying a rich man can get a superior life. And she is a woman who longs for innocence in her heart.
There is a scene in the movie where after dinner, after Leo confesses to Kate, Kate says that she has never known how to be a woman.
Because she has been focused on her work, she doesn't spend much time in intimate relationships, worrying that she won't be able to cope.
In intimate relationships, many people are afraid to disappoint the other party and dare not sincerely express their feelings, similar to the "flattering personality". But that's not true in the long run. Because sometimes if you don't express your feelings, you are not loyal to your heart. Although we have been told since childhood to "endure the wind and waves for a while", after a long time, you will feel that you are out of balance in the relationship between the sexes. The future will inevitably erupt into long-term grievances and dissatisfaction at a certain time. A truly good intimate relationship is the courage to express one's feelings, which is both respect for oneself and respect for the relationship.
Trust your partner, if he really loves you, he will not ignore your feelings, but is willing to accompany you to deal with the problem.
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In "Do You Know If You Should Be Green Fat Red Skinny", Minglan has an extremely wise view of love: "Staying with people, the ultimate reliance is still the lowest point of the character." ”
You want to know whether your partner is reliable in the end, and whether you can treat you well in the future depends on the bottom line of his character and whether he will do things that harm others and himself.
In "Falling in Love with You Through Time", Leo is not only a serious person for love, he is also very concerned about the interests of others. Kate invited him to do advertising endorsements, but when shooting the advertisement, he found that the product was good but the taste was too bad, and he felt that the product he recommended would mislead consumers, so he refused to continue shooting advertising.
Kate's persuasion was ineffective, and even there was an argument between them. But Kate loves him even more, because women know that this kind of man who would rather harm his own interests than deceive the public is trustworthy.
When a woman chooses a partner, in addition to appearance and conditions, the most important thing is to look at the character of the other party. It would be very unwise to ignore character simply because of appearance or the fact that the other person is very rich. Because his appearance is gone, his wealth is constantly changing, and whether he has a sense of responsibility and loyalty to you in a long life is an important condition that determines whether the two can go through a lifetime.
In this movie, it is precisely because of the sincerity of the male protagonist Leo that the rational heroine is willing to abandon everything in reality and cross with him without hesitation. This reminds me of the poem: "The mountains and seas that I love are all peaceful." ”
I am willing to accompany you across thousands of mountains and rivers, just because you are my most precious gift.