There are many single and unmarried female stars in the entertainment industry: some people no longer believe in love because they have been hurt, some people prefer to be absent because of the pursuit of soul mates, and some people lose confidence in marriage because their parents divorce.
Like Xu Huaiyu, a former civilian queen, she watched her mother suffer from two failed marriages since she was a child.
So after she experienced several short relationships as an adult, in the face of various reports of marriage urging from the outside world, she bluntly said, "You can do anything you want me to do, but I can't do it now, because marriage really pays attention to fate." ”
Perhaps, many people think that Xu Huaiyu, who has sung cheerful songs such as "I Am a Girl" and "Treading waves", should be a little girl with an optimistic nature and a free life.
But the reality is just the opposite, Xu Huaiyu not only had a tragic and unfortunate childhood, but her real life is more unsmooth and miserable than we think.
First, the unfortunate family of origin
Xu Huaiyu was born in an ordinary family in Taipei City, she is the eldest child in the family, but her birth is not a happy news for the elders in the family.
Because she was a girl, grandpa and dad didn't want to look at her, and my mother was also sneered at by her husband and father-in-law because she gave birth to a girl.
In Xu Huaiyu's memory, Grandpa not only likes to drink heavily, but also has a short temper and will beat people at every turn.
Especially when Xu Huaiyu was young, she didn't know why, and Grandpa would roll his eyes every time he saw her.
What makes her even more aggrieved is that as long as it is time to eat, her mother will secretly tell her, "At the dinner table, you must not eat meat." ”
The reason is simple, as long as her chopsticks reach the bowl with meat dishes, Grandpa will be furious on the spot.
Sometimes, the mother is distressed about her daughter, so she will secretly put the meat dish at the bottom of the bowl, and then cover it with white rice, so that Xu Huaiyu can stay in the basement and eat before going upstairs.
Things like this happened more than once in Xu Huaiyu's home, where she and her mother thought that as long as the mother could give birth to a younger brother, then their "suffering" life could be over.
However, when the mother really gave birth to her brother, their status in the family did not get half a "promotion".
One day, after Xu Huaiyu's mother went out to work, the drunken grandfather actually dragged the little Xu Huaiyu to the basement to prepare for action.
Fortunately, Xu Huaiyu's mother rushed back home early to prevent the tragedy from happening.
Like her daughter, Xu Huaiyu's mother was also beaten by her father-in-law.
In the most serious case, Xu Huaiyu's grandfather directly scratched Xu Huaiyu's mother's face with a broken glass piece, which eventually led to Xu Huaiyu's mother's face being stitched with 17 stitches and leaving a large scar.
In addition to treating Xu Huaiyu's mother and daughter with no mercy, Xu Huaiyu's grandfather treated his own children coldly to the end.
He not only sold his two daughters to others, but also forced Xu Huaiyu's father to sell du to earn him money for alcohol.
At first, Xu Huaiyu's father could not stand his father's constant persecution and had to embark on a crooked road.
But in the day-to-day condemnation of conscience, Xu Huaiyu's father finally plucked up the courage to show his father, not wanting to continue to harm others and himself.
Before his son could finish speaking, Xu Huaiyu's grandfather scolded his son and daughter-in-law, and then a few slaps hit Xu Huaiyu's father in the face.
In this desperate life, Xu Huaiyu's mother chose to divorce and left the family with two children.
A woman wants to support two children, and the hardships and pains are self-evident.
For the sake of two children, but also in order to find a reliance for herself, Xu Huaiyu's mother soon began a second marriage.
But tragedy happened again, and Xu Huaiyu's stepfather's temper was also very grumpy and lazy.
So after giving birth to twin daughters, Xu Huaiyu's mother divorced again with four children.
In the days that followed, Xu Huaiyu was the "father" of the family, and at a young age, she began to do various part-time jobs to help her mother support the family, and the burden of life of her three younger siblings was also on her shoulders.
It was not until Xu Huaiyu was 19 years old, accidentally entered the entertainment circle and "became popular overnight", that she ended her hard life of supporting her family while doing odd jobs.
After Xu Huaiyu published songs such as "I Am a Girl" and "Rush Forward" and was named "Civilian Queen of Heaven", she sent her younger siblings to study abroad, borrowed money to buy a house at home, and finally ended the family's turbulent life.
Two or three relationships that ended without illness
Xu Huaiyu, who is missing in family affection, is also not a lucky girl when facing love.
After so many years of debut, Xu Huaiyu's love history is not rich, and she has only three boyfriends who have publicly interacted.
The first is "Piglet", who had a very short and simple relationship.
When they fell in love with "Piggy", they were still unknown newcomers, because they attended classes with a singing teacher, and two young men and women of similar age had a good feeling for each other.
But the good feelings came and went faster, and after 7 days, Xu Huaiyu, who only held hands with the "little pig", took the initiative to end this pure love.
Many years later, when "Little Pig" was popular in various variety shows in the mainland, Xu Huaiyu, who had a bad career, even sang songs on the same stage as "Little Pig", but things are not human, and the situation of the two has been vastly different.
Interestingly, a few years later, Zhou Yangqing single-handedly made "Little Piggy" crowned the title of "Time Management Master", and his career in the mainland was also cool.
If Xu Huaiyu saw the various "emotional stories" of "Little Pig", he would probably be glad that he did not love too deeply when he was young!
After ending his relationship with "Little Pig", Xu Huaiyu fell in love with another playboy, Zhang Xiaoquan.
Zhang Xiaoquan has always had the title of "Little Prince of the Night Show" in Taiwan, and he has also openly stated that "I have been in a relationship with girls in the 12th constellation.".
Such a prodigal son of the love field is destined to be a man that Xu Huaiyu can't catch.
The reason why they can develop into lovers is because of Zhang Xiaoquan's flower heart.
Originally, Zhang Xiaoquan had a girlfriend Pan Huiru, and they were because of filming the TV series "Looking for Mr. "Right" is because of the drama.
And Xu Huaiyu also contributed to the TV series "Looking for Mr. · "Right" sang the theme song.
So during this period, Zhang Xiaoquan met Xu Huaiyu, who was five years older than him.
Stimulated by hormones, Zhang Xiaoquan and Pan Huiru proposed to break up and began to pursue Xu Huaiyu instead.
As the saying goes, "Men are not bad, women are not loved", Zhang Xiaoquan did not spend too much effort to successfully make Xu Huaiyu his girlfriend.
However, this sister-brother relationship lasted less than a year before it reached the end of the breakup.
Later, Xu Huaiyu and Zhang Xiaoquan became the most familiar strangers, and Pan Huiru publicly accused Zhang Xiaoquan of being the "most cruel man" in the show.
After more than ten years, Zhang Xiaoquan, who "read countless people", married a low-key woman outside the circle, and was promoted to become a grandfather at the age of 36, and since then he has also put away his play and stopped lingering in the flowers.
After Xu Huaiyu drew a line with Zhang Xiaoquan, he had a relationship with "actress killer" Wu Dawei.
Wu Dawei is also a famous "prodigal son of the love scene" in the entertainment industry, and his ex-girlfriends are not short of super beauties such as Meng Guangmei and Lin Xilei.
Xu Huaiyu and Wu Dawei met in 2004, when Wu Dawei was a variety show host, Xu Huaiyu participated in the program he hosted, and the two privately developed from friends to lovers because of their speculative chat.
However, after a long time of gathering less and leaving more, coupled with the difference in their personalities and three views, Xu Huaiyu and Wu Dawei finally broke up after less than 8 months in love.
After the breakup, Xu Huaiyu has been reluctant to admit that she and Wu Dawei had a relationship.
And Wu Dawei also did not shy away from saying that love is not important in his life, he loves freedom, but also afraid that marriage will be "hollowed out" by the other half of the property, so a "hasty" love for him, the end is not worth nostalgia.
David Wu's "no matter" attitude toward love and marriage continued until 2018, when the 52-year-old finally married a woman outside the circle in a low-key manner.
A year later, at the age of 53, Mr. Wu became a novice dad, officially ending his unfettered and free life.
After three failed relationships, Xu Huaiyu has experienced the "oppression" of two brokerage companies, and his career has since collapsed, and there has been no new news emotionally.
Until now, the 43-year-old Xu Huaiyu is still single and unmarried, and when it comes to the topic of marriage and having children, Xu Huaiyu is also more pessimistic, directly using "following fate" to show his attitude.
Looking back on the first half of Xu Huaiyu's life, there is no doubt that she is a good daughter and a good sister, but the attitude of her grandfather and father has cast the first shadow on her life.
Her mother's two unhappy marriages made her lose confidence in marriage from an early age.
Three imperfect loves made her not find a single security in her relationship.
The sudden collapse of her career not only plunged her into an economic crisis, but also made her star path rewritten.
Objectively speaking, Xu Huaiyu should be a "good person" in the public perception, she honors her mother, helps her younger siblings, strives to survive in the entertainment industry, and persists in rejecting various "temptations" in the end...
But she did not have much good luck, and it was easy to become famous and popular, but after less than two years of redness, the star was dim.
But where family affection, love, and career have become Xu Huaiyu's strongest backing, perhaps today's her view of love or marriage is another.
Not wanting to get married and not wanting to have children may be the most helpless choice for Xu Huaiyu after tasting the cold and warmth of the world, but I still sincerely hope that Xu Huaiyu, who has worked hard for most of her life, can meet another half who really treats her.
I don't want a lifetime or a couple, but I hope that a hot heart can warm a wounded heart.