When people don't get something, they always want to get it. When you are going to get these things, you will be ecstatic, but once the enthusiasm fades, you will be less happy.
When faced with love, why not!
Qian Zhongshu said:
"Marriage is a walled city, and people outside the city want to go in, and people in the city want to come out."
When we have not yet stepped into the palace of marriage with others, we always want to hold hands with this person for the rest of our lives, but when we are really with each other, sometimes the other party does some things that make us want to strangle each other.
Sometimes we do something ourselves that makes the other person feel speechless, so at this time we say:
"It turns out that marriage is the graveyard of love."
So there are a lot of people who may compare their own objects with other people at this time, and sometimes you think that the other person is better, and it is precisely at this time that there is a chance, so you do something out of the ordinary.
In fact, after getting married, you have to control yourself, and people who have a family in the marriage are emotional to others, which is more appropriate.
That is: break off the relationship with the other person, take care of your lover, and make up for it.
01.
Don't let people who love you be sad
"Love is like pulling a rubber band, the party that lets go first is the easiest; then the party that does not let go will hurt very much in the end." 」
In life, don't let the people who love you be sad.
Being loved by someone is a particularly happy thing, when you love others, you have to keep giving, but when a person loves you, the other party keeps giving you something, at this time, you will feel happy and happy.
So sometimes you have to cherish a person who loves you, maybe after you miss this person, you will no longer find a person who loves you so much, there are many people who miss a person who loves themselves very much, always think that the talent they love is the most important, but in the end they find that they hurt their most important person, that is, the person who loves themselves.
There is no free love in this world, but a person can love you without reservation, which is enough to show your place in the other person's mind.
We must cherish those who especially love us, because they make us feel the warmth of the world, let us feel the beauty of life, and let us feel the greatness of the family.
Everyone will do something stupid because of their own momentary impulses, but some people know how to wake up after doing stupid things, and some people have strangled their ideas in the cradle before they have done stupid things.
Sometimes you must distinguish between the light and the heavy, the person who loves you is the most important, do not let the person who loves you sad, so you must immediately break off relations with those who are not in the outside.
02.
In feelings, we must not forget our original intentions
When some people are just about to be with each other, they say that they only love this one person in their lives, and they also plan how to live for the two people in the future.
But everything in the world is slow and changing, especially the human heart, so there are many people whose hearts are also easy to change.
Chen Xiaochun said:
"Once I get married, I will definitely not divorce, no matter what happens, I will think of a solution, so that the marriage can last, even if the other party has an affair, I will only put things on the table to think about solving, rather than impulsively divorcing." 」
After getting married, I thought about not divorcing the other party, but I couldn't resist the temptation, so I did something I shouldn't do.
When you're not married, when you feel like someone is having an affair, you feel like you can forgive that person because the other person hasn't done anything to be sorry for you.
But once the other party has done something sorry for you, then you will not be able to accept it, you will feel particularly wronged, so at this time you will want to separate from the other party.
Everyone should know that a relationship is especially difficult.
When the two of you get married and you feel that your relationship has become more and more flat, think about why you two were together before.
You have to think about some of the promises you have promised to the other party in the past, when you think about these, whether you feel that there is some intolerance in your heart, whether you feel that you have some sorry for the other party.
In the relationship, we must not forget the original intention, so that it is a responsibility to others, and it is actually a good attitude towards yourself.
03.
With a family comes responsibility
Humanity has long since bid farewell to the era when there was no sense of responsibility, and everyone has to be responsible for everything they do.
Feng Xiaogang said:
"How to choose marriage is wrong, and a long-term marriage is to be wrong."
When a person is married, they should know that no matter what happens, both people should live well, not mix with people on the outside.
Before we get married, we have to choose someone to spend the rest of our lives with, but after we get married, I don't have to go to the outside world to make choices, because we already have a pillow person, so we can't be half-hearted at this time.
However, some people always put the cart before the horse, and it is not advisable to marry casually before marriage, and then look for another person after marriage.
04.
Chaos and abandonment are not done by normal people
If a person is chaotic and eventually abandoned, then this is not a normal person, at least this person will eventually be abandoned by others, because when you abandon others again and again, you must understand this sentence: "Things are clustered, people are grouped", at this time, some people around you will be like you, and the person you choose in the back will also be like you, so you will be abandoned by others in the end.
So in life, we often see a phenomenon:
This person does not cherish his original wife, or this person does not cherish his original husband, likes to be with others, but in the end he is betrayed by the other party.
So sometimes don't do things that betray each other, if you have this idea, you must know how to stop it in time, once you do it, there may be no room for regret.
Ding Yangguo said:
"Marriage is the graveyard of love, and after marriage, we must not only prevent ourselves from moving the grave, but also prevent others from stealing the tomb."
Choose a trustworthy person before you get married, otherwise you will have a lot of trembling all day in your marriage, and you will not get what you want in this marriage, and you will end up with a special depression.