Reporter Tian Weiwei / Comprehensive Report
Artist Dai Junzhu and Huang Huaichen have been married for 4 years, in June 2015, they won their daughter "Polly", the family life is happy and happy, the 1-and-a-half-year-old daughter is recently learning to walk, one day the family went out shopping, the daughter suddenly cried, the voice alarmed other people in the store, but a young woman sarcastically said in a sarcastic tone: "Don't let her (daughter) come down!" She was quite sad, and also caused netizens to criticize: "This kind of person really has no empathy."
▲ Dai Junzhu's daughter began to learn to walk. (Photo/Photo from Dai Junzhu Facebook)
Dai Junzhu's family recently traveled in Japan, 1 and a half years old daughter often asked herself to walk, one day in the store she was ready to check out, her husband was looking after her daughter who was walking around out of curiosity, suddenly the daughter cried loudly, at this time the woman in front of the line was not impressed by her husband's move to comfort her daughter, and laughed and said: "Where can I understand that child is so small!" Then Daddy looks miserable!" Think that parents should not let their children down and walk.
▲ Dai Junzhu believes that it is not possible to erase the curiosity of children. (Photo/Photo from Dai Junzhu Facebook)
Dai Junzhu, who was standing behind, heard the woman's complaint, very sad at the moment, but did not explain much, afterwards she restored the incident on Facebook, thinking that even if the children are still young, they cannot erase their curiosity or not communicate, "No matter how young the child is, she is an independent individual, we must respect her, not deprive or reprimand her!" In this way, it is hoped that everyone's empathy will be awakened, and that incomprehensible criticism and ridicule will not make the world a better place.
Dai Junzhu Facebook full text:
The age of one and a half years has begun to be uncontrolled, like to walk around by yourself, see things to be curious to touch, tired and stopped will only cry to express sad and angry emotions! However, as parents, do we want to let our children do nothing because we are afraid of trouble and tiredness?
These days in Japan, Polly often asks to come down to walk, we will also depend on whether the environment is safe and suitable and decide, that day in the store, I was in line to check out, my daughter was walking around the store curious Zhang Wang, Mr. Huang took care of her on the side, from time to time reminded her to pay attention to safety and not to take things, suddenly I heard her began to cry, the volume was so loud that the whole store heard, at this time, the girlfriend of the man in front of me came, Tell her boyfriend in a tone that seems to be mocking: There is a father over there who is reasoning with his daughter, please, where can that child understand it when he is so young! Then Dad looks miserable! And then the kid kept crying! Then don't let her go! (Actually, I said a lot, and some of them I didn't hear very clearly, in short, they were not kind words), just so they said Chinese, just right, I was standing in the back, just right, I was the wife of this wretched father, the mother of the crying daughter, just so, I almost heard her unintentional words! At that time, I was really sad in my heart, and I wanted to say to the young lady: I know that the child's crying will be noticeable, if it affects you, I am sorry, but the children of this age group are in the stage of seemingly understanding, I can't stop her because I am afraid of trouble, I am afraid of running after her, I am afraid of embarrassment, I will stop her, erase her curiosity, and I will not try to communicate with her because I think she is still young, I believe that children can understand, children are independent individuals no matter how young, we must respect her, rather than depriving or reprimanding her in everything!
However, at the moment, I did not open my mouth, I think the young lady should not have children, so there is no way to understand. Later, I walked over to the father and daughter, and the daughter was still crying, asking Mr. Huang what happened? He said that she was walking around very happy, suddenly saw the escalator, almost passed, he quickly pulled her, told her not to do this, too dangerous, and then the daughter began to cry, he first took the daughter to the side of the stairwell waiting for her to finish crying, trying to communicate with her, I sat on the stairs together, holding my daughter in my arms, told Mr. Huang what he just heard at the counter, he listened to it only faintly said: It doesn't matter, don't care what others say, children of this age are more active, and they will only express themselves in crying!
We can't get the understanding and recognition of others for everything, everyone has their own way of dealing with and nurturing parents, no one will let their own heart and liver baby be in danger, no one wants their children to cry, only hope that everything can be seen with empathy, do not understand the ridicule and criticism, will not make everything better ~