Foreword: "Hope son into dragon, hope woman into phoenix." Almost all parents expect their children to be very good and excellent, and grow up to be a great person. It's not wrong and understandable that parents have such hopes. However, if you want to make your child become productive when he grows up, he keeps putting pressure on his child, which is not right.
I don't know if the little friends have found that some parents are really too worried about their children's "not being talented", so they began to arrange various itineraries for him from a young age and arranged various interest classes.
There are many parents who hope that their children will learn more things and master more skills when they are young, which is conducive to the future, so there are many children who basically have no childhood happiness, and they only have classes and classes all day long. Is this really good? Have parents thought about it? After watching "The Man Who Does Housework" recently, Xiaobian had some insights from Nie Yuan's words.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="4" > Qin Ziyue Nieyuan took his daughter to calligraphy class</h1>
The latest episode of "The Man Who Does Housework" broadcasts the section where Nie Yuan and his wife take their daughter to a calligraphy class. Qin Ziyue, in order to make her daughter less active and calm down, she enrolled her daughter in calligraphy lessons.
But Qin Ziyue's calligraphy interest class for his daughter is completely "self-made and sentimental", because her daughter actually does not like it. After coming to the classroom, the daughter obviously resisted this matter, she did not want to learn, only wanted to play, was pulled by her parents to the class, she was reluctant and very funny. After seeing Nie Yuan's daughter's expression, the observers in the studio all laughed.
I have no interest in this matter, and naturally I am not serious when I am in class. When the teacher asked her to write calligraphy, she picked up a pen to write, while "deserting", sometimes looking left, right, sometimes yawning, sometimes thinking, in short, the class is very inattentive. Nie Yuan's daughter's state of class is like many people who are forced to go to class when they are young.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="28" > Qin Ziyue Met "Tiger Mother" type parents and chatted about the sky</h1>
The more Qin Zi saw his daughter's class status, he couldn't help but complain to the parents of other students around him. Who knew that as soon as she talked to this parent, she couldn't stop talking. What can be learned from the chat is that the student's parent is a "tiger mother" who is very strict about her son's education. How harsh is she? Take a look.
(1) She said that when the child practiced and cried, she did not compromise, she said that even if the child cries, she must cry and finish the piano, and the child cannot be too relaxed, and must be well managed.
She said that now the child is the primary school stage, this stage is too important, must develop a good habit, if you go to junior high school, you will not worry. If you don't manage your children well in elementary school, he always loves to play and make trouble in junior high school, and he can't manage it at that time.
(2) She has enrolled her child in interest classes since he was three and a half years old, and now she learns four classes a week, and the child has additional cram classes in addition to school every week.
The parent insisted that interest should be cultivated from an early age, so she had asked him to go to a lot of things when the child was very young, and now there are schedules every week, and there are extracurricular interest classes from Tuesday to Friday. When I heard this parent say so many courses, Xiaobian was a little distressed about his children, which had no extracurricular entertainment time at all.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="29" > Nie Yuan insisted on free-range growth: don't put too much pressure on your children</h1>
After listening to this parent say this, Nie Yuan quite did not approve of her approach, so Nie Yuan chatted with this parent, he told his own ideas, he said that he felt that he still had to let the child learn what he was interested in, don't arrange so many lessons for the child, Nie Yuan insisted on a point of view that the child should play in childhood, to be happy, he insisted on a concept of "free-range growth", do not give the child too much pressure.
Why did Nie Yuan always insist on "free-range growth"? Let's hear what he had to say. He gave several reasons. Take a look.
(1) Many times, children learn it when they are playing.
Nie Yuan felt that it was useless to report so many interest classes to the child, if the child was not interested, it was useless, if there was no interest, he did not care about learning anything, he went to the interest class was also a waste of time, and there was not much gain.
If you want to report, you have to see what the child likes, what he is interested in, and he learns the skills while having fun, but it is better. Many times children just learn things by playing, and being forced to learn has no effect.
(2) Childhood is only once, and children should not be burdened with so much pressure.
Every child's childhood is very precious, and there are only a few short years in life that you can play happily without any pressure and constraints. It is because childhood is too precious to give children so much burden and pressure, if his spare time is arranged to be full, is this not depriving him of a happy childhood?
(3) There is no win or loss in the growth of children, and we should not be afraid of children losing at the starting line.
In Nie Yuan's view, many parents are affected by a sentence, that is, "don't let the child lose on the starting line", many parents feel that other people's children are in interest classes, are well cultivated, and their own children cannot lose, so they must arrange these classes for their children. But they often overlook the point that every child has its own trajectory, what is the so-called win or loss on the road to growth?
Personal opinion:
Nie Yuan's rebuttal was simply too good, he put himself in the shoes of his children's happiness, stood in the perspective of his daughter, rather than looking at this matter from the perspective of a parent, is a very enlightened father! Nie Yuan's relationship with his daughter can be so good, presumably because he often puts his daughter's happiness first and respects her daughter's ideas.
Many parents should learn from Nie Yuan well, listen to the child's voice more, and cannot always think that everything they have arranged for the child is good, ignoring the child's feelings.
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