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Ten years of repair to cross the same boat, a hundred years to repair to sleep together, in the vast sea of people to meet and marry, is a great fate, is how many times in the previous life to look back to exchange for the marriage.
To seriously manage a marriage, you have to do it and cherish it. But sometimes although married, the other party may not be the one who is related. After going through all kinds of things, it is still not the end, and can only go their separate ways.
The origin and extinction of a marriage is by no means instantaneous, it should be traceable and progressing little by little. When it is on the verge of destruction, there are already obvious signs.
Many couples, when they can't live a long time, and finally accuse each other of becoming a couple, they don't even know where the problem is.
In fact, a good marriage needs to be managed, envy others have a happy and happy family, it is better to carefully manage the marriage from the beginning, find that any point of damage to the marriage, are resolved in time, rather than allowing the contradiction to ferment, and finally breaking through the marriage.
Whether men or women want to live happily ever after, they must learn to manage and take to heart whatever little happens in marriage.
If these three situations occur, then be vigilant and don't take it seriously, because this shows that your marital relationship has come to an end and cannot be recovered.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >01, no common discourse, lack of communication</h1>
When you are in love, there will always be endless sweet words and endless leisurely lovesickness.
After the feelings disappear, they gradually lose the idea of communication and are no longer so intimate.
This is actually a relatively normal phenomenon, but if there is a long-term lack of communication, then your marriage may have problems.
The combination of husband and wife may initially be because of each other's appearance, personality, etc., but being able to get along for a long time is undoubtedly because they are like-minded and have a common language, so as to lay the foundation and form the desire to live together.
When the idea of communication is lost, when there is no more words to say than what is necessary in life, when the words with the other half are more and more scarce, then there will be a rift between husband and wife.
Maybe you are not so important in each other's lives, so he or she does not want to communicate with you too much, you gradually go to two opposite paths, the spirit also lacks resonance, and the family atmosphere will become more and more cold and lonely.
Obviously, two people are in the same room, but they are as cold as an ice cellar, and they exude an atmosphere that they do not want to communicate.
What quality is there in such a marriage? How many points of your emotions have been consumed?
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >02, picky and disgusted with each other</h1>
As the saying goes, "the lover's eyes are out of the west", when the affection is long, even if the person in front of him has more shortcomings, even if there are more places worth criticizing, he will automatically ignore it because of the aura of love.
Even when others talk about the other party's bad points, they will refute it and want to defend the other party. This may be the power of love, but also the courage of countless lovers to choose to enter marriage.
However, with the passage of time, with the wear and tear of feelings, when the flaws in marriage are revealed little by little, how much love is there to speak of?
What was once appreciated will become a shortcoming, and what was once appreciated will become dislike. This is human nature, because familiar places do not have landscapes.
However, if the desire to capture the good is completely lost, the marriage has also entered a dead end and will never return.
Couples whose fate has been exhausted will infinitely magnify each other's shortcomings and accuse them mercilessly.
What was originally a trivial matter will cause an uproar, the old thing that was originally a rotten sesame seed will be turned over and mentioned over and over again, and what is a small dispute will turn into a quarrel and a fight, and the last bit of love will be consumed.
At this point, can we still break the mirror and reunite? I'm afraid that separation is the best comfort.
< h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >03, completely independent, without any involvement</h1>
Modern marriage is no longer bound as in the past, like a vine attached to it; but independent of each other, equally rival, like oak trees and kapok, sharing cold tides, wind and thunder, and thunderbolts; sharing fog, flowing land, and rainbows together.
However, in the final analysis, husband and wife are a community, if there is no involvement at all, everything is clear, rejecting intimate contact, completely without the intimacy of husband and wife, is such a marriage truly happy?
This is a cold home, a home that lacks humanity, everyone spends their own money, no involvement, a green onion and a piece of paper must be calculated clearly, in the family expenditure is also a clear distinction, afraid of their own loss or being taken advantage of, is this in the operation of marriage?
I'm afraid that partnering in business is more intimate and friendly than this.
When I came to this step, I believe that in fact, the siege of marriage is already a high wall, and the husband and wife are disgusted and reject it from the heart.
So, to this point, it is better to tear down the wall, not to be bound, and some can still become friends.
Since we have exhausted our feelings and have not even had a little involvement with each other, why should we force each other? It is better to separate from each other and let go of yourself.
The proximity of two hearts is the beginning of the close relationship between husband and wife, and when the two hearts are separated, it is a sign of weakening feelings.
When two people have the same bed and different dreams, or even different beds and different dreams, men no longer trust women, women no longer rely on men, and they hold up a piece of the sky for their children, perhaps the feelings of husband and wife are really drifting apart and cannot go back to the past.
Although it is said: "It is better to demolish ten temples than to demolish one marriage."
However, the perception of marriage, such as people drinking cold and warm self-knowledge. The lessons of the outside world can only be used as a reference, and when the fate is over, nothing can be undone.
When these three situations appear, it means that there is a major crisis in the relationship, the marriage is already in danger, rather than struggling to maintain, it is better to let go of the pursuit of the sea and the sky.
In fact, sometimes, letting go of each other is also letting go of themselves, since two people together, there is no emotion to speak of, since being together has become the biggest torture, in fact, it is meaningless to continue, isn't it?
It is better to let go of each other, and for the rest of their lives, each of them is fine.