#情感上头条 #
You pay attention to me, I accompany you to love
Wen Shu Xuan Xiaolei, also known as Mo Yang
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Life will face many choices, and each choice may determine the direction of life. But once you've made a choice, regardless of the final outcome, try not to regret it.
Because falling into the emotion of regret will affect your life in the present, and only by facing the present with all your heart will you not regret it again.
Some people say that I never regret it, because without the mistakes of the past, there would be no me now.
It makes sense to say that, as if I didn't regret making some choices that many people thought were wrong. For example, if you have excellent grades but choose to drop out of school, when you become a teacher, you choose to leave your job, and you have been in love for many years but choose to give up...
Although I sometimes feel that I have done something wrong, I feel that there is a more satisfying part of my life in the moment.
Some people also say that people who do not regret it are people who live better than before, or people who have finally lived the way they want to be.
It's not exactly like that.
Like there was a time when I was still single in my thirties, and life certainly wasn't perfect. Being single at an older age is a regret in the eyes of many people; not being rich may barely reach the level of moderate prosperity.
At that time, there was no house, no car and no love, but I never regretted walking those roads when I was young.
At that time, I was waiting for my parents, who gave me enough understanding and support, and gave me meticulous care and help. At the same time, I feel that having complete freedom to arrange work and life independently is a very satisfying thing for me.
Up to now, with marriage, with children, this is also what you once did not want, but it is like being pushed by the torrent of fate to this step, some people say that marriage is complicated, children are tired, do you regret making such a choice for a while.
After all, marriage and children have brought me a lot of troubles, but at the same time they have brought me a lot of happiness.
I accept the gifts and beauty of it, and at the same time I accept the other imperfections it brings.
For example, when we choose a life partner, there will always be a situation where things are not in order, even if we find someone to love, we don't know how long it will last.
This is a fickle era, an era when marriage and love are extremely fragile, we are often helpless and go with the flow to face love and life, often can only go to which step, experience which step of happiness, solve which step of unhappiness.
People say that "single or married, in the end will regret", in fact, can be said in reverse, that is, whether single or married, do not regret, you must experience the pleasant part of it yourself, dissolve the unpleasant part.
The movie "Jane Austen's Regrets" interprets the life of Jane Austen in the form of a storyline, she longs for love, but gives up love because of financial problems, but she hesitates when faced with a marriage with only bread and no love.
We all want her to meet a Darcy, as she wrote in Pride and Prejudice, and love each other while living a life of abundance.
When bread and love can't have the best of both worlds, we can choose not to, like Jane Austen, to live on our own. Although her life is poor and poor, her mind is free, and her body is free, although she is also contradictory and wandering.
Perhaps because she did not meet love, she put her body and mind on words, which she could not only rely on to survive, but also gain comfort from it, and resist the loneliness and desolation of being alone.
But if you encounter love, enter into marriage, after the honey period, and then face triviality, you must also calmly and wisely solve your dissatisfaction, balance and reconcile, and you can't just regret irresponsible regrets, so as to choose to escape.
We don't know what kind of people we will be with in the rest of our lives, but we should know that even if there is wandering, even if there are regrets, we must follow the heart to choose a life of love, even if the love is short-lived.
Or the freedom to choose the body and mind, regardless of the opinions and opinions of others, to feel absolute purity on those sunny days.
There is no housework, no noise, no interference, no concerns, no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, no conflict between husband and wife, so that you can live as you want.
However, if the person we love appears, no matter how much rain it rains, we should still be brave enough to meet it. Just don't set how long he's going to stay, whether it's for a while, or until the end of his life?
The only thing we can do is to choose and decide according to our hearts in the moment, without regret. Helplessness and dissatisfaction are the norm when we ask for perfection.
If we accept an imperfect life, we should weigh between love and marriage, economic materiality, and spiritual freedom, and choose the part of the heart that we want the most and accept it.