How to give advice to others, Confucius said that there are five ways to do it

Let's share a passage from the "Sayings of Confucius", "Zi Yue: The Counselor of loyal subjects, there are five righteousnesses. One is the advice, the other is the advice, the third is the descending advice, the fourth is the straight advice, and the fifth is the wind advice. Only the Lord does what he does, and I follow his wind. The meaning of this passage is that Confucius tells us that loyal and upright ministers have five ways to exhort the king, and they must consider the other party's situation, distinguish between different situations, and adopt targeted methods. The five methods are: 谲谏, 戆谏, Descending advice, Straight advice, and Wind Advice. Each of these five methods has its own mysteries, so which is the most commonly used and effective method? Confucius later said, "I advise from his wind", that is to say, Confucius likes to satirize this way, and this method is the most used by him. What is irony? There are words not directly said, to borrow the topic to play, euphemistic reasoning, the commonly used method is analogous reasoning, and often with a strong humorous color.

How should this method of satire be used? I have prepared for you a very interesting short story recorded in the "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", and the protagonist of this small story is Jian Yong, a strategist by Liu Bei's side. Jian Yong was Liu Bei's Zhuozhou compatriot, and when Liu Bei raised troops from Zhuozhou, Jian Yong had always followed Liu Bei, and the two had a good relationship, and Liu Bei trusted Jian Yong very much. Jian Yong is humorous, open-minded and informal, and eloquent, especially good at debate. It is said that after Liu Bei took Xichuan, one year was catching up with the Xichuan drought, the grain harvest was not harvested, in order to save grain, Liu Bei issued a ban on alcohol, because brewing will use a lot of grain, from the political, military and people's livelihood point of view, this prohibition order is also a last resort.

Prohibition is very strict, and anyone who makes wine without permission must be arrested and punished. In the process of specific implementation, some officials went to the homes of ordinary people to inspect and found the tools of winemaking, so they used this as evidence to cure the common people of the crime of brewing wine. Because there are brewing tools to be convicted, the people are very opinionated about this, complaining, but Liu Bei supports and acquiescence to this practice. Jian Yong found that there was a problem with this practice, and he wanted to advise Liu Bei, but instead of going straight, he used a very effective method of satire.

One day Liu Bei took Jian Yong on a trip and met a young man and woman on the road, and Jian Yong said to Liu Bei very seriously that the two men and women should do something reckless, please arrest them and punish them for adultery. Liu Bei was a little confused by the second monk, and he asked Jian Yong very confusedly, Sir, how do you know that they are going to do something that is meticulous? Jian Yong replied very humorously at that time, because these two people had the tools to commit crimes. After laughing, Liu Bei carefully reflected on it, and then released the people who secretly hid winemaking tools and changed the policy of crimes caused by secretly storing wine utensils.

Everyone sees that This method of Jian Yong is a typical method of satire, direct reasoning has no effect, and it may cause the other party to resist and rebel, in this case, simply let's borrow the topic to play, borrow things to say things, in a relaxed and humorous atmosphere, we will say everything that should be said, and the reasoning that should be said is thoroughly explained.

It can be said that Jian Yong is indeed a communication master, in order to master the communication method of irony, you must learn to tell stories, and be good at observing life, good at thinking about reason, and practicing your own analog thinking. If you are like Jian Yong, plus a little humor and funny, the effect will be particularly good.