Xiaomei is the front desk of our company, sweet-looking, made a handsome boyfriend, took a long vacation a while ago, and the two cultivated positive results and stepped into the marriage hall. But early this morning, the groom suddenly found the company to take Xiaomei away, and Xiaomei roared angrily: "I will not go back, I will always be an ugly duckling in your house!" ”
When the two were married, they invited relatives and friends of both sides to a banquet, and a few colleagues and I were invited to drink happy wine because we usually had a good relationship with Xiaomei.
On the wedding day, both parents are present. When the wedding was ready to proceed, there was a pause of ten minutes in the middle, and when it started again, Xiaomei's parents changed their clothes and lost their original smiles on their faces.
When the wedding was over, we heard that the groom's parents felt that the family was not dressed enough, so they temporarily changed their clothes. At this time, a few of us knew that the economy of the two families was so disparate, and the future life would not be good.
It's just that today's scene makes us feel too fast.
From the day she became a daughter-in-law, Xiaomei has been trying to please her in-laws. There is a nanny at home, and the housework does not need Xiaomei to do, Xiaomei wants to accompany the two elderly people more, occasionally buy some small gifts, and occasionally bring some small souvenirs.
But no matter what she did, Xiaomei didn't seem to have been recognized. On the contrary, sometimes some personal small habits are accused by the mother-in-law, and their husbands are on the side of the mother-in-law and do not say anything for themselves.
Originally, I thought that I would put up with it, but my in-laws and mother-in-law repeatedly pointed out the problem of Xiaomei's parents' dress, living habits, and even sometimes asked them to change with a disgusted tone. This also made Xiaomei finally intolerable, chose to go back to her mother's house, and then there was today's scene.
Is it important to be a doormat?
Since ancient times, China has had the concept of marriage that pays attention to the door-to-door pair. We have seen a lot of dramas on TV that are not right at home, and we have seen a lot of them in real life, and it seems that they are rarely harmonious at the beginning, which also makes us more convinced of the importance of door to door.
Some people believe that the strength of the two families in all aspects is equal, and only then can the husband and wife stand on the same line, can they form a unified point of view, and the life of the husband and wife can be harmonious.
Some people think that the door is not absolute to itself, if two people really love each other, family problems can be solved, and today's parents are very open-minded and will not interfere too much in the marriage of their children.
In fact, we all understand that marriage is not only the marriage of two people, many times it also involves the combination of two strange families, fortunate to become a relative, in fact, we should know how to cherish, even if we can't get along, don't be too demanding, after all, the last thing to live together is the small family in the middle.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-center-line" > concentricity is key</h1>
The two came together as a rather difficult fate in itself. It is necessary to go through acquaintance, acquaintance, and love, and then enter marriage and become husband and wife. The Buddha said that encounters are five hundred times of looking back in past lives, and that being able to become husband and wife is the fate of several lifetimes.
And two strange families becoming relatives because of two people is also a kind of fate in itself.
Both sides can be right at home, and we are naturally happy. But this balance is not forever, as an intermediary between two strange families, the first thing to understand is that marriage is a matter for the two of you, and then it is a matter for two families.
Husband and wife are in the same heart, even if the two families can't get along, but the parents love themselves after all, they also hope that they can live happily.
When problems arise, the husband and wife must stand on one front to deal with the problem. We must understand that we can maintain a good little home in order to maintain everyone.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-center-line" > think in a different position</h1>
As children, we must also understand that the starting point of parents many times is to be better for themselves, and to understand this starting point with their hearts than hearts can better communicate with their parents.
As parents, we also need to understand that today they are their own children, and tomorrow they will also be the parents of their grandchildren. Being able to set the right example for them is the most fundamental thing.
If you don't get along with your family, you can't force it, but your children's life can't cause regrets because of yourself.
As a husband, you must understand how much love and hardship your husband and mother-in-law have worked hard to raise their daughters, and then handed over their daughters to their own hands, so they must double their love for their wives.
As a wife, you must understand that it is not easy for your father-in-law and mother-in-law to raise a son, you must try to understand and understand your husband, and living together requires mutual care and mutual support.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-center-line" > know respect and know gratitude</h1>
Husband and wife live together, and the future days are the lives of two people, but also the lives of two families.
Husband and wife get along harmoniously, which is the greatest comfort for their parents. There is no parent in the world who does not want their children to be happy.
Juniors should respect their elders, which is a traditional Chinese virtue. The so-called world's parents' hearts, you are good to the other half, but also let the elders experience.
Sometimes we can't change the thinking of our elders, but love alone will not disappear. People's hearts are all flesh, and your respect and dedication will also touch the hearts of elders.
Elders also need to respect each other, and this respect will affect the harmony of their children's small families, which is an example and a kind of love.
Husband and wife can know how to respect each other, but also the best way to manage the feelings of husband and wife, everyone wants to be respected, especially people who live together every day, husband and wife are emotionally stable and can solve a lot of problems.
At the same time, we must also know how to be grateful, whether it is in-laws and mothers-in-law, or old fathers-in-law and mother-in-law, mutual understanding of each other's parents, in daily life to know how to return with a grateful heart, which can not only make their small family more harmonious, but also make each other's parents feel warm.
Door-to-door pairs are often more of a matter between two families, and two people together, more often should consider the feelings between each other, couples who can go longer and farther, often not because of the door-to-door pair, but between the two people to care for each other, mutual support, mutual pay and mutual respect.
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