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I found that the fact that there are elementary school students at home is not very conducive to the physical and mental health of middle-aged women, especially primary school boys.
Let's just say eleven, we had a "wonderful" life.
Seven days off, half of the time it rains, and the other half of the time I have to explain to elementary school students: why can't I go out and travel abroad.
At first, the conversation between the two of us was like this.
Rice: Why can't I go out on vacation? Beijing weather is not good, just go to the field ah!
Me: The teacher said try not to go out of Beijing, if there is something wrong with the destination, at least 14 days of isolation, you still can't go to school?!
This sentence worked, successfully shutting rice grains, but the consequence was that he knew he had missed the opportunity not to go to school.
So, the "heart machine" rice grains went online, and the conversation between the two of us became like this.
Rice grain: As a citizen of the Republic, I can go wherever I want!
Me: You're underage.
Rice grain: You can't restrict my personal freedom, it's against the law!
Grain of rice: Do you want to go out and let the wind out? What is the rain in Beijing, our family can not overcome this difficulty?
Me: Okay, let's go to a mall.
You see, this little bit of wisdom of the grain of rice is used to fight with me.
I think that this time his words are very fresh, and he actually talked to me about "law", and the regulations used were quite correct.
I thought, do we want to stop studying more, popularize the law? At this age, we should also understand society.
So I found a documentary called "It's Like This, Judge", and watched it with the whole family on the weekend.
This documentary is all a living trial scene.
The father only gives his son more than 200 yuan a month in child support, and he has two cars in one room;
Cheating in marriage, borrowing money to gamble, but saying that he loves his wife the most and gives everything;
The nanny played Lai and attacked the police, but she was aggrieved and asked for fairness and justice.
……
The truth makes our family shatter and tremble.
However, the way the case is narrated is very interesting, even quite funny, and the grains of rice are fascinating.
After reading it, I also sighed, man, you still have to have legal awareness.
Hahaha, there is no better parent-child time than this, it is really worth it!
So today I'm going to give you this documentary, Amway.
Stop loss in time for this matter
How hard it is
There was a divorce case that made me laugh.
Here's the thing.
The wife, as the plaintiff, filed a lawsuit with the court and filed for divorce on the grounds that the couple's relationship had broken down.
The husband who is the defendant is very excited, and he is in love: I don't want a divorce, and our relationship has not broken down.
Immediately after, there is a deep confession of "swinging qi and intestines":
We've been married for 14 years, and although there have been some minor arguments, it's all my personal bad habits that have her off.
She beat me and scolded me, and I endured and spoiled me, and never fought back.
Until now, it has always been me who cooks, because I am afraid that the oil smoke will make her old.
Then I want to think about a period of self-reflection:
I wasn't disciplined enough, and some of my vices haven't changed.
The judge interrupted directly and asked: What vice?
The husband said straightly, let's have an affair!
Hearing this, I want to roll my eyes directly, all like this, do you still confess affectionately?
▲Across the code, I can see the white eyes
The wife really couldn't listen to it, and went straight to the stone hammer:
In 2014, when the child was almost 3 years old, he found out that he had cheated;
In 2016, a second infidelity was discovered;
In 2019, a third derailment was discovered.
Do you think this husband will admit it?
People don't.
The judge asked him how many affairs he had.
The husband frankly said that there were two psychological cheaters, but in fact there were none. I did it, I didn't do it, I didn't hide it. I'm just too serious about this person.
Oh, then hit a rake upside down:
My wife's character is flawed, of course I have unharparably responsible, who makes me not good at words.
This big brother, don't be modest, you have to be bad at words, how do other men live!
The judge couldn't listen anymore and entered the evidence stage ahead of schedule.
The court played a video of the husband cheating provided by the wife.
In the video, it can be clearly seen that the husband is in and out of the house of several cheating objects and stays overnight, there is no psychological cheating at all.
His wife said that he often did not return at night, how many times he communicated was useless, humbly accepted, and resolutely did not change.
As soon as the husband saw that his "affectionate" personality had been debunked, he began to set up a "top pillar" for himself.
Saying that all his salary was handed in, he did "yours or yours, mine is yours" to his wife.
He also secretly accused his wife of caring only about money despite her own fatigue.
The result was debunked by his wife in a few words: Then why do you have money to play mahjong? Why borrow so much money? Why should I still be?
The "top beam and pillar" human design collapsed in an instant.
Do you think your husband is out of luck? As soon as the people's words turned sharply, they set up a "prodigal son turning back" persona:
It is not easy to form a happy family, there are mistakes, and a slap cannot be made.
People live, to bear for their children, filial piety for their parents, my love for my wife is always the original heart, if I can not divorce, I will do my best to cherish.
▲The husband also wrote a letter of guarantee
To tell the truth, I was shocked to see this.
Under such a stone hammer, I can still say that I am affectionate and unrepentant, I really want to see you.
Don't talk about me, even the judge said, I have been in court for so many years, this is the only man who can say such a beautiful thing when his wife files a divorce lawsuit.
Some people may ask, this man's scum is like this, how can his wife spend more than ten years with him, and not simply divorce him earlier?
There is one saying that when there is a problem in marriage, most people's first reaction is to tinker, rather than just give up, especially women.
Many wives in the process of repairing, will also reflect on whether it is really because they are not good enough, marriage has come to this step.
If two people still have children, it is even more impossible to make a decision to divorce immediately, and they must have been hurt many times before they will be completely dead.
So, I especially understand why my wife dragged on for so many years before she made up her mind to get a divorce.
Speaking of which, I have to give the judge a thumbs up.
Although she did not award divorce (the first time she sued, the judge rarely decided directly), she did mention her husband:
Your marriage has come this far because you have no sense of responsibility for this family. I tell you, there is only marriage that cannot be married, there is no marriage that cannot be divorced.
You have not grown and changed, and people can come back in half a year.
I don't know if the couple will come back (the documentary doesn't say it), but I do feel the difficulty of women in marriage again.
Court
It doesn't solve all the problems
In fact, in the civil court, family litigation cases are not generally many.
Some cases are not said to be solved satisfactorily legally and reasonably, because the emotional maintenance must also be taken into account.
In this case, for example, the son sued the father and demanded that the father pay maintenance.
18-year-old Xiao Wu is going to take the college entrance examination, because the tuition and make-up fees are not enough, and hopes that his father can pay the maintenance fees up to adulthood, a total of more than 270,000.
Father Wu disagreed.
The reason is that his monthly salary is less than 5,000, and his son wants more than 200,000 yuan to bear it, which is forcing himself to sell kidneys.
Moreover, the maintenance stipulated in the divorce agreement was given on a monthly basis, and a lot more was given, and there was no reason to give it again.
Doesn't it sound like your son is unreasonable?
That's not the case at all.
The couple divorced when the child was 2 years old (2005).
At that time, the two agreed that the child would be raised by the woman, and the man would pay 1,000 yuan a month in maintenance.
But the man was unwilling, and the woman did not want to do more pestering, so she agreed to the request of 100 yuan a month of maintenance.
It is said that more child support was given, and the total of these 16 years was more than 40,000, which is equivalent to only giving 260 yuan per month.
The rest is borne by the mother herself.
Is that the father's ability is limited, or is there any difficulty?
Nor is it.
Wu has a downtown property, a jeep of 460,000 yuan, and a motorcycle of more than 100,000 yuan.
The motorcycle was bought in full
The judges can't stand it, hundreds of thousands of cars say buy it, and the son's tuition fees can't afford it? (Spoke my mind)
Wu said that I have other debts, motorcycles are not open, and the maximum sale is 40,000.
The judge went on to say that it was just the time to sell the motorcycle, and it wouldn't be nice to give child support? Can you pull a hand when your child is critical?
Wu Mou replied happily, he couldn't bear it, he had to follow my ability.
As soon as these words came out, the grain of rice almost didn't jump up, how did this father do this? Or my dad is good.
Also, his own son is going to take the college entrance examination, for the sake of the child's future, it is reasonable to help.
This dad is selfish to this point, and there is no one left.
But when the words come and go, can just condemn him and put pressure on him to help the child get maintenance? Obviously not.
First, because the husband and wife divorced and signed a maintenance agreement, which has been fulfilled, and now they are requiring additions, which cannot be legally supported;
Second, if the child wants to take the college entrance examination, the parents tear their faces, which will affect the results of the child's examination.
You force the other party to be anxious, people don't give a point, you can't help it.
But if it is good to talk about it and push the other party into the pile of good people, the day can still go on.
You see, this is the dilemma of life.
No matter how reasonable you are, the other party pinches your weak ribs, and you have to restrain yourself and negotiate a solution.
Fortunately, Xiao Wu's mother can carry it clearly and knows that the future of her child is the most important.
After the judge's mediation, Wu was willing to pay 40,000 yuan in maintenance first, and then 2,000 yuan in maintenance every month until Xiao Wu graduated.
Do the wrong thing
It's not that you admit it and you're fine
To say that the most profound case of rice grains is that the nanny Liu Mou is suspected of obstructing official business. (According to the judge, this is a celebrity in the court.)
This is a woman that judges feel tough.
The officer who was scratched by her had more than a dozen blood marks on his face, which was very frightening.
Many people may not believe this.
Liu Mou, because of a labor dispute, lay in front of his employer's door and did not leave.
After the employer reported the case, the police rushed to the scene to take Liu back to the office to investigate.
According to our ideas, we went to the police station to make it clear, Liu Mou was biased, frantically struggling unsuccessfully, and directly scratched the face of the police.
This was considered obstruction of official business, and he was directly detained administratively.
Human and physical evidence form a complete chain of evidence, and only by admitting guilt can they be given a lenient punishment.
But Liu's reaction, no one expected.
People felt that they had been wronged, insisted that the police insulted and beat her violently, and scratched and injured the police out of self-defense, letting the judge decide for himself.
The prosecutor was helpless and kept reminding her that a truthful confession could be a lighter punishment.
Liu Mou's face was aggrieved, and he couldn't threaten and seduce me.
Seeing this, my father and I looked at the rice grain at the same time.
The grain of rice pretended not to see.
Let's go back to Liu.
The prosecutor directly played the surveillance of the elevator and the police station, providing testimony from the police.
It turns out that Liu did not have a word of truth in his mouth.
The next scene was completely unexpected by everyone.
Liu Mou said, Respected Presiding Judge, I remember, sorry I was wrong.
But, one asked her for details.
People say, I forgot, I don't know, I'm in so much pain.
Obviously, Liu Mou saw that he could not deny it, and began to pretend to be pitiful and sympathetic.
But the law is not to admit that you are wrong, and to shed two tears is finished.
In the end, Liu was sentenced to 1 year and 10 months imprisonment for the crime of obstructing public service.
Some people may ask, why is the sentence so heavy?
Because Liu had beaten others before, he had been administratively detained twice.
If there is a bad deed of administrative punishment and lying in court, it will be severely punished.
The case was almost over, and My father and I looked at the rice grain in tacit understanding.
The grain of rice finally spoke, what do you two see me doing? I didn't break the law.
I said that those who make mistakes must accept the lesson, refuse to admit it, and those who intend to fool the pass will be punished heavily in the future.
Usually I say a sentence of two sentences of rice grains, but I did not speak, and continued to watch the film silently.
I really didn't expect that after watching the popularization documentary, I also successfully got a grain of rice.
The documentary is not long, a total of 10 episodes, and it is currently updated for most of it, and it can be watched in a few hours. Behind the light-hearted humor, there is an exploration of human nature.
In fact, I also hesitated, this depth of film is not suitable for primary school students to watch. But a news I watched on the Internet a while ago made me a little frightened.
A mother in Huai'an, Jiangsu Province, was wrapped around her neck by a code lock by her child, and she did not know the password, and she did not open it for more than an hour.
Finally, the firefighters cut the lock with insulating scissors.
The whole process is very dangerous, and it is reasonable to say that children should be well educated.
As a result, the mother laughed and said that the child just thought it was funny, and now that she is sleeping at home, there is no need to tell him.
I can't take it anymore, you don't let the child know what can and can't be done when he is young.
He didn't know what the consequences were, whether he could bear it!
Only by repeatedly establishing boundaries will he grow up to have the correct three views and behavior.
Of course, we can achieve this in the process of interacting with children.
However, if there is a documentary, it is also a good choice for children to understand the rules of society and the consequences of doing wrong things.
After all, kids end up going into society, don't they?
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