In the real wave of educational anxiety, many children are forced to join the "arms race" of education, and are "bent over" by the heavy responsibility of further education and psychological distress, and a small number of children even have extreme situations. The reporter interviewed the reporter in the half moon and found that many parents and schools pay more attention to the curriculum results and are absent from the class of children's life education for a long time.
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There are complaints of suffering, and some children "run with weights"
According to the "2020 Public Mental Health Insight Report", 37.23% of the adolescents surveyed said that the level of stress was above moderate, and 22.85% of the adolescents said that they had depressed emotional feelings. "In recent years, the number of adolescents who have self-harm and self-harm behaviors and need to seek psychological counseling and psychotherapy has increased year by year, and the situation is not optimistic." Wang Chunyi, a psychology lecturer training instructor of the Science Popularization Committee of the Chinese Psychological Association, said.
Many experts said that the reality of increasing physical and mental pressure on adolescents has exposed the social shortcomings of the lack of life education.
"Life education is indispensable for young people, but it has not attracted enough attention from parents and the education community in many places." Wang Chunyi said that life education is not only closely related to the establishment of children's world outlook, values, and outlook on life, but also contains important topics such as how to understand the process of life, how to deal with the relationship with the surrounding environment, and how to accept oneself.
Sun Hongyan, director of the Institute of Children and Adolescents of the China Youth Research Center, said: "If adolescents lack a reasonable and complete outlook on life and cannot face death, disease and aging calmly, they will not know how to cherish life." Life education can not only make children understand the weight of life, but also teach young people to love life more. ”
2 Why is it difficult to carry out life education classes?
In the family, school and all aspects of society, the development of life education courses is facing many difficulties.
——It is difficult for parents to "take the pulse".
Many parents said that the usual work pressure, limited time to accompany their children, coupled with the children's exposure to network information is mixed, they do not have a good understanding of the child's psychological state and emotional needs, so it is difficult to achieve "the right medicine" and timely identification and communication on the topic of life education. A number of psychological counselors said that when some parents realized the urgency of life education and brought their children to consult, their children had already experienced self-harm and depression.
Wang Yunling, associate professor of the Department of Medical Psychology and Medical Ethics of the School of Basic Medical Sciences of Shandong University, believes that Chinese parents are influenced by traditional ideas, and are often reluctant to mention death in the process of life education, or even deliberately avoid, and want to create a fairytale-like greenhouse environment for their children, which is actually not conducive to children forming a scientific understanding of death and establishing a correct concept of life.
- The strength of the school is limited.
Wang Chunyi and other industry insiders said that although psychological counseling rooms are set up in primary and secondary schools in many places, there is a lack of full-time psychological teachers, and teachers often wear multiple jobs, and it is difficult to carry out life education work in a comprehensive and normalized manner in primary and secondary school classrooms. "At present, some better primary and secondary schools will be equipped with one or two psychology teachers, and usually also serve as class teachers, language teachers, etc., but in more places, the industry talent itself is insufficient, it is difficult to introduce teachers with psychology backgrounds or corresponding qualifications, and teachers often feel 'more than enough and not enough'." An elementary school teacher said.
-- Lack of educational carriers.
Half Moon Talk reporter searched for "life education" on a book sales platform, removed the same kind of repeated books sold by different businesses, and counted that there were only more than 40 (sets) of picture story books under the classification, of which more than 20 volumes (sets) were translated versions of foreign picture books.
Experts said that at present, there are still few life education books for adolescents and children in society, either "there is no way to have stories", or they are too dogmatic and not vivid, and their role in children's scientific understanding of the value and meaning of life is limited. "In addition, the excessive number of imported products and the serious lack of localization are also important defects, and when some picture books are introduced into China, Western religious culture and values are also blindly introduced, which is not conducive to the understanding and acceptance of China's young children and the formation of values that are consistent with traditional Chinese culture." Wang Yunling said.
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Multi-party synergy injects strength into life
"Life education is the foundation of all educational behaviors, and its core goal is to make everyone become 'myself' and realize the life value of 'me for me'." Mei Jie, a psychology teacher at YueyangDao Primary School in Heping District, Tianjin, suggested that consideration could be given to opening life education courses in a spiral through overall planning, concretizing the knowledge, skills and emotional content that students in different school sections need to understand and master, so as to facilitate teachers and students to teach and learn.
Elementary school students experience screaming catharsis in the catharsis room of the mental health counseling station Wan Shan Chao photo
"The field of education needs long-term investment, can not rush to achieve, it is recommended that government departments increase support, establish a life education 'regular army', produce interesting and valuable educational carriers and products, and build a propaganda position on the network platform popular with young people to further strengthen the popularization and promotion of life education knowledge." Wang Chunyi said.
Mei Jie believes that it is necessary to increase the training of talents in the industry, strengthen the continuous and effective skills training of full-time and part-time psychological teachers in primary and secondary schools, establish an evaluation and feedback mechanism, and improve the level of teachers' life and education ability while promoting early intervention in students' psychology and moving the threshold forward.
Many experts said that parents also need to increase the importance of life education. Sun Hongyan, Wang Chunyi and others suggested that life education should be carried out according to the characteristics of children's cognition and acceptance, and exchange and interact on an equal footing on the basis of respect for children. At the same time, it can also help parents master more skills and knowledge of life education by establishing a long-term and stable "parent classroom".
"Parents should find the right time to teach their children how to deal with hurt, and don't avoid talking about life and death because they are afraid of their children's sadness and fear." Sun Hongyan said that topics such as the change of seasons, plant growth and decline, and Qingming Festival are all educational opportunities to discuss the meaning of life with children, and we must use these opportunities to guide children to cherish life and live a good life.
"Half Moon Talk", No. 14, 2021 Original title: "How to let children know how to cherish life?" Life education is indispensable》
Source: Half Moon Talk