Some time ago, the popularity of the TV series "All Is Good" caused the whole people to discuss the issue of "original family", and also made many mothers or expectant mothers think about the upbringing of their children.
Indeed, under the education of traditional concepts, the older generation of parents on how to educate and cultivate their children is actually a lack of cognition, the most important problem is that parents always like to educate their children as people who have come over, think that their experience is right, and intentionally or unintentionally establish their own authority, so that the growth process of children is not very happy.
Society is advancing with the times, the way of raising children is also constantly changing, under the concept of traditional parenting, take its essence, now many parents have rarely used their parents to educate their children in the way they were, most of them have known the importance of companionship, and children are cultivated, chat together, do games together...
South Korean internet celebrity Kim Tae-woo's video of participating in a parent-child program is widely circulated on the Internet, in addition to the family's high appearance, their living conditions have also become the focus of people's attention, in one episode, Xiao Tae-wu became interested in eggs, and the father told the child what the egg was by breaking the egg.
In fact, Xiao Tai Wu's father's parenting style with the color of "pit baby" is actually a new type of education method, we call it "experiential education"!
<h1>1. What is "experiential education"? </h1>
Baidu Encyclopedia explains "experiential education" as follows:
"Experiential" education is a new form of training and education, which is based on the goals of moral education and the psychological and physiological characteristics of minors and individual experiences to create relevant scenarios, so that minors can experience and feel in real life, form personal moral consciousness and ideological qualities through reflective experience and experience internalization, and accumulate their own ideological and moral behaviors in repeated experiences. Minors dominate themselves in various experiences, correct themselves, experience, feel, and build the patriotic feelings, national spirit, and collective consciousness that society and the times want them to have in their interactions with others and in their daily behavior.
Main forms: Adhere to the combination of experience methods such as "indirect experience - direct experience - reflective experience - experience internalization".
Indirect experiences are also known as character experiences. Using simulated society and life, multiple characters are designed for minors to experience indirectly.
"Direct experience" is to allow minors to overcome unexpected difficulties in the past to complete the relevant "mission" and get rid of the usual petite and arrogant atmosphere.
"Reflective experience" is to guide the experiencer to conduct in-depth thinking on the psychological feelings, emotional experience, behavior changes, activity processes and effects in the experience, strengthen the experience effect, and promote self-knowledge and evaluation.
"Experience internalization" is the deepening and improvement of experience reflection, emphasizing the need to clarify the relationship between the external behavior of experience activities and internal processes, and promote and deepen internal experience with the help of external activities. Experience can enable students to have extensive contact with society, taste the hardships of labor, experience the warmth of the world, and enhance their sense of social responsibility.
Experiential education consists of four stages:
1) Hands-on stage. That is, the stage at which an individual personally experiences something or a certain situation.
2) Into stages. That is, the stage when the individual abstracts and generalizes the above-mentioned personal experience process and forms a concept or concept.
3) Inspection stage. That is, the stage at which the individual examines the formed concept or concept in a new situation.
4) Reflection phase. That is, the stage of reflecting on concepts or concepts that have been formed, generating new experiences, new understandings, and constantly producing cycles.
Experiential education is to promote children to continuously produce new experience, new understanding, and thus develop children's ability to adapt to nature and society, form a positive attitude towards life, promote personality growth of the way of education, through experiential education, so that children experience the importance of collective life and cooperation, master knowledge, training skills, increase experience. All aspects are better developed.
<h1>Second, the impact of "experiential education" on children</h1>
01. Teach children to "adapt to society"
In fact, "experiential education" is exactly like this, it can make children better understand the world around them in the experience and exercise, enhance their self-protection awareness, improve their self-protection ability, and make children's childhood more colorful.
02. "Force" out the child's creativity
We always long for our children to have endless imagination and creativity, in fact, children are born with imagination, but with the maturity of cognition or the growth of age step by step wear, with the rich life experience, the accumulation of learning practice can open up the other side of the learning world for them.
Through "experiential education" can provide a favorable environment for children's creativity, let children complete a certain thing according to their own way of thinking, will continue to explore and play their unique innovative thinking, in this process, children's creativity has been fully exerted, teamwork spirit has also been exercised, isn't it just right?
03. Guide your child to take responsibility
"Experiential education" is often accompanied by a collective, and when children are collective, which can tolerate the occurrence of phenomena that undermine the honor and phenomenon of the collective? The cultivation of responsibility awareness is not a simple preaching can be solved, a specific thing to the child to complete independently, so that the child in the process of completing the task to learn to have a beginning and an end, learn to be responsible for themselves, responsible for the collective, in a small matter of the child's sense of responsibility slowly cultivated.
04. Fill your child's heart with love
"Experiential education" let children know that it is not easy to do anything, understand the good intentions of parents are to give themselves a better living environment, through the experience of various roles, let children know how to be grateful, "experiential education" can use love to fill the child's heart, can express their love for them to parents, but also know how to consider the feelings of parents, better understand parents.
<h1>Third, how to use "experiential education" to help children grow? </h1>
01. Give your child more hands-on opportunities
Now many parents are using the "experiential education" method to educate their children, such as Sun Li and Deng Chao as model parents in the entertainment industry, Weibo often posted some interaction with children, remember a Weibo sent by Sun Li a long time ago, with the text is "bought a box of paint, imagine that they can be quiet, and cute creation, but the truth is... How can they accomplish this (crying and laughing) This is the gap between ideals and reality! ”
Perhaps many people will feel dirty, but also to bathe and wash children's clothes, in fact, many times we are from the perspective of adults to consider the problem, it is better to change the thinking, with the child's eyes to see the world.
As children with limited cognitive ability and comprehension ability, touching with their hands and touching with their bodies is their way, and giving children more opportunities to use their hands is more appropriate than using any language to describe.
In fact, everything in life may be a child's experience of learning and increasing knowledge, planting a tree, raising a fish, dragging the ground once, wrapping dumplings once... Every time, it can be a small but vivid classroom, learning and using, unforgettable.
02. Use common sense to elicit knowledge
As the saying goes: it is better to read ten thousand books than to travel thousands of miles. It means that walking thousands of miles is complementary to reading, reading is static, walking is dynamic, the knowledge in the book is limited, and only the walking eyes and ears can make up for its deficiencies.
In the recent hit movie "Galaxy Tuition Class", the father played by Deng Chao gave us a wonderful lesson.
"The rain on the sky street is as moist as crisp, and the grass color is close but there is none."
Every child who reads has memorized this Tang poem by Han Yu, but how many of them can understand the scenery described in the poem?
Ma Fei's father did not want his children to memorize poems just to answer questions, he wanted his children to understand how poets create beautiful verses, and that the true meaning of writing was to express what they saw, heard, thought and thought.
So he took the child to the lawn and asked him to see it with his own eyes and touch it with his own hands. It turned out that looking at the past verdant lawn, approaching and crouching down, because of the sparse gaps, looked more at the yellow-brown of the dirt and grass roots in the eyes.
Ma Fei suddenly realized: "The grass color is close at a distance, but nothing is like this!" I never knew this was true! ”
Mr. Tao Zhixing told us that "as soon as life and life rub against each other, they immediately play an educational role. "Why not educate children? Let children learn knowledge through common sense, play middle school, learn to play, education is more meaningful!
03. Create an environment conducive to practice
Hundreds of years ago, Lu You taught his son that "on paper, he finally realized that he would have to do something about it." ”
A child is sharing his harvest with his friends:
"You know what? The noodles we eat are not directly grown, but ground out of wheat! ”
"The stalactites in that big cave grow a little bit taller every year, which is so amazing that my mother said I learned chemistry and knew why."
"I also saw the kind of big white goose with red palms plucking Qingbo!" That bigfoot really looks like a red fan! ”
It turns out that this parent has her own unique method of educating her children, not only did she not report a lot of interest classes to her children, but also took a month to take her children back to her hometown during the winter and summer vacations every year, so that children could discover the wonders of all things; stimulate their desire for knowledge; and vividly connect the knowledge in books with the real world.
The growth of children is not piled up in the blame and complaints of parents, but needs to grow up in the company and care of parents.
"Experiential education" should be early, take advantage of children's curiosity about nature, take advantage of children's lack of burdens, and lead and accompany children to explore this wonderful world together! Through "experiential education", children can have extensive contact with society, taste the hardships of labor, experience the warmth of the world, and enhance their sense of social responsibility.