Qilu Evening News Qilu one-point reporter Zhao Zhuoqi Lin Yuanyuan
When parents are having difficulty taking care of themselves, children are also at an old age. Unable to take good care of them around the time, they had to be sent to a nursing home and visited frequently. As a parent, I always don't want to cause trouble to my children, although I am worried in my heart, my mouth still says, "Don't come to see me, I am all right here." "The old people who live at the September 9 Nursing Center think more or less like this. They gradually began to forget things, and even could not remember their own age, but they could clearly say that the last time the child came to see was on a few months and a few days, and the next time the child promised to go to the park together, when would he stay...
Play a morning coloring game just to kill time
"I can't see clearly, and I don't know if I've painted it right." Zhang Xiuying, 78, smiled while drawing the drawing paper in her hand. In order to let the elderly cultivate more hobbies in their leisure time, the September 9 Nursing Center opened a painting interest class for the elderly, and the elderly are also happy to learn, and often come to "ask" to paint a painting. "This is my first time painting, I chose a small fish pattern, I feel very good- Zhang Xiuying said.
Due to cataracts, Zhang Xiuying underwent surgery, but her eyes after surgery were difficult than before. "Now my eyes are afraid of tiredness, sometimes sore, and easy to shed tears." The inconvenience of the eyes makes Zhang Xiuying have some difficulty in drawing, and after a long time, she will have to rest for a while, and the patterns on the paper can only be seen clearly by looking carefully. "I think it's fun to draw, but I can't see it." Zhang Xiuying chanted while drawing in her mouth.
"Just kill time, otherwise what?" Zhang Xiuying is a relatively young elderly person in the elderly apartment, and there are fewer people of the same age. "It's not much to talk to older people, and the TV looks at those programs." Zhang Xiuying said that every day she would find something to do by herself and relieve her boredom.
After a while, the prototype of the goldfish was drawn, although the eyes were uncomfortable, but Zhang Xiuying painted it carefully. "Actually, I still like to be lively." During the chat, Zhang Xiuying mentioned her former friends, and there was a hint of loneliness in her eyes. "I used to play chess with the old people in the courtyard, and I played it when I had nothing to do." Zhang Xiuying said that at that time, her chess friends often called her, everyone had common hobbies, and time passed faster. Later, the chess friends left, and there was no old man in the nursing home who could play chess, so she was idle.
On this point, Zhang Xiuying was a little disappointed. Originally, she loved to be lively, but now she is really not used to calming down, watching TV, taking a walk, "After painting, I still have to find something else to do, I can't stay idle." Although she said this, Zhang Xiuying never mentioned it in front of her daughters.
"They came to see me every three or five minutes, and I wouldn't let them come, I didn't have to worry about eating and drinking here, they came too late." Zhang Xiuying's four daughters, two of whom became teachers, two of whom did some business on their own, also had families and children. Maybe it is more empathetic to experience it, so Zhang Xiuying feels sorry for them, and she does not want them to come often. "I have to take care of the children and take care of the work, and I have to do everything well here, so I don't need them to come."
Tell the child to send a few months of bread, and after eating it, it will be a festival
Recently, Jinan is the time when autumn is high, the temperature is not high or low, and the weather is not cold or hot. On the morning of the 22nd, 85-year-old Li Wenlan sat at the door of the nursing center, holding a newspaper in her hand, looking down carefully, and the warm sunlight sprinkled on her gray hair.
"The eyes are not good, the small words cannot be seen clearly, and the title can be clearly read." Li Wenlan has been a primary school Chinese teacher, and his speech is very interesting, "Reading books and reading papers, I read the title and then look at the pictures, the content depends on guessing." Li Wenlan finished speaking, laughing himself.
Li Wenlan loves to chat and tell reporters about his experience when he was young, and every detail is remembered very clearly. "When I was young, I went north and south, and I went wherever the country needed me, and I never picked and chose my work." Li Wenlan said that when he was young, he was used to it, and when he got old, he could adapt to it everywhere and live comfortably in the apartment for the elderly.
Li Wenlan has a son and a daughter, both living in Jinan, and often come to see her. "Yesterday my daughter just came, took a shower and changed my clothes, and my son also came out of time to bring me food." Li Wenlan pointed to the clean clothes on his body and said that they were all cleaned up by his girlfriend.
This Mid-Autumn Festival, Li Wenlan plans to spend time at the security center. "What are you doing when you go home, the children are busy, and you have to wait for me when you wait for the little ones, how tired." Li Wenlan has already told his son to send her a few months of cakes, and it will be a festival.
Zhang Xiuying also plans to celebrate the festival at the center. "Last year's Mid-Autumn Festival went to the girl's home, there were too many people, her family had a big son, and the children were tired not lightly." Zhang Xiuying said that before the holiday, the child came to see her and chatted with her, which was the same.
Don't tell your children not to cause them trouble
The 81-year-old Wang Shifen does not remember many things very well, and when she told reporters about her children, she could not remember whether her children were sons or daughters. "Old, confused." Wang Shifen murmured.
Chatting and chatting, Wang Shifen suddenly became interested in the necklace worn by the reporter. "Your chain is really beautiful, where did you buy it?" Li Shifen asked, "When I was young, I looked very good and loved to dress up. As he spoke, Li Shifen himself smiled, "Now that I am old, my face is full of folds." ”
The staff chatted with her from the side: "Grandma, you are not old at all, you are still very beautiful." When your aunt comes over, I tell her to let her buy you a necklace. Li Shifen listened and quickly replied: "Don't say it, don't cause her trouble, she is very busy." ”
This year is the third year that Zhang Xiuying has lived in the nursing center, and she seems to be particularly content compared to her previous solitude. "Usually, we eat well, live warmly, and there are peers in the courtyard who can talk, which is better than being alone at home." The staff's patient care and careful care, Zhang Xiuying has long regarded this place as a home. "I don't want to go home during the Mid-Autumn Festival, but everyone is lively and lively here, which is very good!"
In addition to the comfortable environment, Zhang Xiuying has been hanging on her lips with her four daughters. "The four 'little cotton jackets' are quite stable and filial to Jinan, and they often come to see me." Talking about her daughters, Zhang Xiuying is always very excited. "There is no shortage of food and clothing, and girls often come to send it." She said that the daughters remembered her, and usually walked on the road to see who was dressed well and suitable for her, so they had to buy her back. "You see what I'm wearing, it's all bought for me by my girlfriend." Zhang Xiuying, who is lined with an embroidered red cape, has a rosy face and an open heart. "They are willing to dress me up young and think of me if there is anything good."
Zhang Xiuying clearly remembers when her daughter promised to come to see her and what she promised. "There was a park next to the nursing home, and when my daughter came and knew I was in a panic, she took me for a spin." Zhang Xiuying said that when her daughter promised her to come to see her in two days, she would take her there. "In fact, I just don't want to cause them trouble, but I still expect them to come." Speaking from his heart, Zhang Xiuying was still a little embarrassed. "Hello kids, just come and see me often." It's also like home, and it's well taken care of. Zhang Xiuying said with a smile that now she is very content.
After chatting with the reporter for a long time, Zhang Xiuying suddenly lowered her voice: "Talking and talking, I miss my girlfriend." But she never said to her children, "Don't trouble them."
(The names of the old people in the text are pseudonyms)
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