The Financial And Business Education of Jewish Mothers
Salad
Relay Press
The experience of salad is unique and not easy to replicate.
Salad's feelings and thoughts are also unique and not easy to replicate.
A unique experience that has made her unique feelings and thoughts. When these unique feelings and thoughts are placed in front of us in the form of books, it will give us a very different reading experience.
I've heard her talks, had close conversations with her, and listened to her coming-of-age story. I found that she was very good at perceiving and refining extraordinary truths in the ordinary, trivial, and unconscious details of life, which often gave people a refreshing feeling because of their transnational and universal origins, beyond a single temporal and spatial structure and educational model. This requires a sensitive heart with both a fraternal character and a rational spirit. In turn, when she tells you, these truths are not at all blunt, but melt into the delicate, vivid and even poetic descriptions of life stories.
She was essentially a poet. Look at the world with a keen and tender eye, see all kinds of beauty and specialness in the world, and tell the profound truths of all kinds of rationality with the vividness of emotional poetry. This kung fu is not easy to grasp. She is also a master of storytelling, up and down, ups and downs, dark ambush pen, back and forth fit... Surprise you suddenly in an unexpected place! This also requires a certain amount of talent. The biggest difference between her and many educators right now is that she has a "soul"! It is this "soul" that makes her story vivid and touching, and makes her truth warm and pleasant.
In the era of industrial civilization, education is easily "externalized", and the products produced by the industrial model - knowledge, skills, norms, achievements - are worshipped as the "inner" of adults. When our education generally loses its heart and "loses its soul", Sarah's book can awaken, reflect and enlighten us.
"Jewish Mother's Financial And Business Education" is one of the "Special Hearts and Special Love" series, which embodies the basic style of "salad education", the core concept is: "financial management is to manage life." ”
Salad said —"
The purpose of the Jews in raising their children to be rich and intelligent is not to reduce them to money-making machines and slaves to their money. Instead, they see "financial education" as "moral education" or "humanity education" to help children develop the correct values they need in life. After living in Israel for so many years, I can tell you without hesitation: financial management is to manage life, and the basis of all financial management comes from a person's understanding and choice of life. For example, how to choose and how to deal with things, only by mastering the correct way of coping, can we take a step ahead of others, go further than others, and be better than others in the future financial road!
Financial wisdom is contained in the wisdom of life. Financial management also starts from the rational life, if even life is not clear, there is no financial management. Taking care of one's own life is more enjoyable than making a lot of money with one's mind, and it is also more able to contribute to society.
Chinese society now attaches great importance to financial and business education, and various financial and business training courses and financial and business activities are emerging in an endless stream, but it is this emphasis that worries me. In my opinion, financial quotient cannot be achieved quickly, and true financial and business education runs through the entire process of life, which is a long-term process. The best financial education for children is in life, and parents are the best financial and business teachers for children.
Salad integrates external wealth - money, assets, interests, into the framework of inner wealth - human nature, morality, values to think, the management wealth and business life at the same time to plan, the financial training and daily life, which is the basic feature of her financial and business education.
Under this big framework, she also put forward more specific educational concepts and methods such as "paying attention to numbers and logic", "opening personal accounts for children", "paying for life", "not demanding perfection", "winning and losing, making and losing are relative", which are both highly grounded and grounded.
Here we should discuss a question in passing: why is "rich but not more than three generations" a more common situation in family inheritance? Reading the book Salad will also have some insight into this problem.
I heard such an interesting passage -
The daughter asked her father, what is love?
Dad said: "Love is that Dad has nothing, and Mom is still married to Dad." ”
The daughter asked again, so what is family affection?
Dad said, "Affection is that Mom will never let you marry someone who has nothing." ”
The daughter asked her mother again, what is love?
Mom said: "Love is daddy has everything and still loves mom." ”
The daughter asked her mother again, what is family affection?
Mom said, "Affection is that Dad will never let you marry someone who has everything but doesn't love you." ”
This passage can be extended and explained from several angles. What I think of is that as first-hand witnesses of the process of success, moms and dads have experienced simple love that is not related to other conditions, they do not regret this experience, and even pride themselves on having this experience, but they, as the guides of future generations, do not accept (or, to put it mildly, do not want, do not yearn for) this experience to appear in children. This seems to be a personality difference that often arises as a witness and as a mentor.
Many of our successful politicians, entrepreneurs, generals, writers, artists... But he does not want the Son to inherit his father's business. This is intriguing. Why are we willing to endure and bear what we ourselves, but we are not willing to be endured and endured by our children? Does this explain why "three generations of wealth" and "three generations of learning" cannot be learned? We ourselves have experienced uncertainty and crawled out of the thorns of uncertainty and out of the pool of blood, but we are afraid that our children will also experience uncertainty, hoping that children can spend their lives along a path of success that is both clear and safe.
Fearing and rejecting uncertainty and striving to improve the "success rate" may be the mystery of the degradation of the successful genes of the descendants of the successful generations who are not as good as the generations.
Each generation wants to add a certainty chip to the next generation to ensure success, and strives to reject and reject uncertainty, which actually deprives each generation of the increased generation of more possibilities for exploration, which is what quantum theory calls "superposition collapse".
On this subject, Salad's insight is: "Tribulations are also the wealth of life!" This is thought-provoking, and it is also the place where the overall title of this set of books, "Special Heart, Special Love," deserves our careful taste. Why is "special love" often expressed through "special cruelty"? Because "special love" has the nature of original love and fraternity, it goes beyond the general "small benevolence and small love", beyond "preference", "doting love", "narrow love" and "persistent love", so it is deeper in the heart, sees thoroughly, thinks far, opens up, dares to let go of the child to the self-reliance road full of uncertainty and "insecure", is willing to see the inherent wealth of the child's life grow naturally, and obtains and experiences freedom in the growth of wealth.
This may be the vision that a mother who can be responsible for three generations should have.
(Author: Chen Jianxiang, Professor, Faculty of Education, Beijing Normal University)