I know that some people ask: How to judge a person's character?
At the bottom, there is a high praise reply: "Many times, it is useless for you to see anything, just to see a little useful, that is, to see how he looks at the lowest point of life." ”
When people are in high places, they try their best to show the good side, and others often can't recognize his true face.
And at the lowest point, he will show everything inside. At this time, the character of a person can be most seen.
As Mr. Yang Dai said: "Only when you are humble can you have the most chance to see the truth of the world's human condition." ”
A person of a high level, even at the lowest point in life, can retain good qualities.
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Kant once said, "To be angry is to punish oneself for the mistakes of others." ”
When people are angry, they will always do some extreme behavior. I thought I released my emotions, but I actually let myself suffer.
Some time ago, I watched such a news: a woman called an online ride-hailing car in the early morning, because the positioning was inaccurate, the driver did not see her at the designated place.
The lady said that across the road, drunk and some discomfort, hoped that the driver could turn around and pick up. But the driver did not agree, and she had to cancel the order.
The driver was a little angry, he found the lady standing opposite, rolled down the window and began to insult her.
Seeing that the lady was still using her mobile phone to take pictures of her license plate number, he was even more annoyed, got out of the car and slapped the lady, and then drove away.
What the driver did not expect was that the lady called the police and reflected the incident to the online ride-hailing platform.
Not long after, the platform banned his account, and the police also demanded that he apologize to the lady and compensate 3,000 yuan.
It was a small thing, but because of impatience and irritability, it made things serious.
Sometimes, the emotion of anger "eats" the intellect and makes people lose themselves in the impulse.
However, a wise person, even if he is angry, can still restrain his emotions.
Wang Mian, a painter in the Yuan Dynasty, was poor at home when he was a child, and after three years of study, he went to help others herd cattle.
One day, he saw the lotus flowers in the lake blooming and wanted to paint this beautiful scenery. He was frugal and bought paintbrushes and paints.
It wasn't long before someone taunted him, thinking he was untalented and impossible to draw well.
Although Wang Mian was angry, he never responded, or insisted on painting lotus flowers every day.
After unremitting efforts, he drew as much as possible, and the lotus flowers on the paper came to life.
Later, Wang Tian's reputation spread far and wide, and he became a famous painter in the country. And those who mocked him, left nothing behind.
Napoleon said: "The man who can control his emotions is greater than the general who can take a city." ”
Interacting with people, it is inevitable that there will be friction. When angry, staying calm and not arguing is the best way to deal with it.
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The writer Robert once said: "Never be afraid to admit mistakes, it is like saying that you are wiser today than yesterday." ”
Everyone will make mistakes, and admitting mistakes is the process of constantly improving themselves.
At the 2010 Lantern Festival, Dong Qing misread the "day" of Ouyang Xiu's poem "Flower Market Is Like a Lantern Day" into "book".
After the writer Wei Minglun heard it, he quickly informed the media of Dong Qing's oral error.
A few days later, Wei Minglun received a text message from Dong Qing, saying that he thanked him for his correction and said that he would take it as a warning.
Later, someone interviewed Wei Minglun and asked him what he thought of Dong Qing's apology letter.
He said happily: "Dong Qing's attitude of daring to admit mistakes and dare to take responsibility makes me admire. ”
Through this incident, Dong Qing treated each task with a more meticulous attitude.
A person who faces up to his mistakes will seize every opportunity to correct himself and make greater progress.
Ji Xianlin, a master of traditional Chinese studies, was anxious to go out to teach one day and forgot to water Junzilan. So he instructed the nanny to help water it.
But when he returned home, Junzilan had withered, and he was very sad.
Originally, the nanny saw that there was enough sunlight outside, and she wanted Junzilan to absorb the sun, but she didn't know that Junzilan couldn't be in a high temperature.
Ji Xianlin's son Ji Cheng wanted to blame the nanny, but was stopped.
Ji Xianlin said, "I know that my aunt doesn't know how to take care of Junzilan, and I still entrusted this matter to her, and this is my fault." ”
Ji Xianlin found reasons from himself, so that the nanny was exempt from punishment, and to avoid similar problems next time, which was really a double win.
As the industrialist Li Ka-shing said: "Before correcting others, first reflect on whether you have made mistakes." ”
Not shirking responsibility when things happen, being willing to admit mistakes, is compassion for others, but also a supervision of the self.
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There is such a sentence on the Internet: "People who are really powerful are not afraid of being in a low position, they can bear the wind and rain, and they can pretend to be wronged." ”
A person with a strong heart, even in the face of great difficulties, can rise to nirvana.
Actor Zhou Caiqin, who went to the UK alone to study theatre performance when he was young, was 23 years old and became popular in the streets of Britain with the stage play "Suss Huang's World".
A few years later, she starred in 007's Thunder Valley, where she played against the protagonist, James Bond. The drama "Love for Love" starring her is even more popular every time.
Zhou Caiqin, who has gained fame and fortune, began to invest in real estate, but unfortunately, the Great Recession wiped out her savings and performance opportunities became increasingly scarce.
At the age of 40, Zhou Caiqin was poor and white. After 17 days of introspection, she decided to go to the United States and forget her old life.
She worked as a waitress in a restaurant, helped people move things and pasted envelopes at Harvard University, and volunteered at a public welfare clinic.
Even when she didn't have a good time, she would still take time to read and set up her room as a small "library."
In addition, Zhou Caiqin was admitted to Tufts University and obtained a master's degree in drama.
She then returned to England to work for the low-paid Cambridge Theatre Company. During her three years in the drama club, she conquered wave after wave of audiences with her superb acting skills.
It is this spirit of not accepting defeat that makes her reappear on the screen.
Thinking back on the previous days, she couldn't help but sigh: "That was the lowest point of my life, and it was also the time when my morale was the most high and the aura was the strongest." ”
Life is often unsatisfactory, can be calm, and will become more resilient in the future.
"The seeds of life will never sigh pessimistically, because only with resistance can there be tempering."
When in adversity, do not complain about the sky, do not give up on yourself, and work hard to precipitate in order to meet new vitality.
Whether a person deserves deep friendship depends on the appearance of his lowest character.
When angry and angry, do not hurt others, and treat them calmly.
When mistakes occur, do not evade responsibility and have the courage to admit mistakes.
When you fall to the bottom, don't complain about yourself, and fight straight up.
With those who can keep low, you can also get spiritual nourishment.
Author: Xinrui