Along the way, I kept meeting and parting with other people.
Coming and going, stop-and-go, everything is predestined.
Instead of struggling with bad memories, it is better to let go of all experiences.
As Shakyamuni once said:
"Whoever you meet, he is the one who should be in your life and will certainly teach you something."
Good people make life better; passers-by make the will more tenacious.
So never blame anyone in your life!
1, help your people to make you grow
Life is alive and meets a thousand people.
Not everyone will take care of your feelings; not everyone will take you to heart.
Someone once said:
"The warmth of the heart is what everyone craves, and this warmth is always very little."
In this world, it is most difficult to treat each other sincerely.
That is why those who can give us help and warmth in the midst of the bleak years are all the more precious.
Some time ago, watching the variety show "Actors Please Take Place", there was a scene starring Wen Zhengrong and Huang Mengying.
Compared to Huang Mengying, who does not have much acting experience, Wen Zhengrong is obviously able to understand the role faster.
So when filming, she was both a director and an actress, teaching Huang Mengying when to leave the scene and when to speak.
Even pulled Huang Mengying dressed in a costume, rehearsing over and over again, striving for every look and every limb in place.
In the end, with the help of Wen Zhengrong, the two completed the whole work excellently, and were greatly praised by the judges and directors.
In an interview afterwards, Wen Zhengrong said the following sentence:
"Filming is like playing table tennis, it is a one-time, helping Huang Mengying is also helping myself."
The best relationship between people is to complete each other.
If you are fortunate enough to meet a person who can pull yourself at a critical moment, your life situation will inevitably be a surprise.
There is a poem that says, "At the end of the road, when the confidant is confidant, the stomach is hungry and comes to eat." ”
Those who help you in life are those who come to cross you.
They reach out when you are down, accompany you when you are sad, help when you are poor...
Not only give you material help, but also give you spiritual encouragement, stimulate your motivation, and illuminate your life.
It is precisely because I met them that I learned to be grateful, learned to be strong, and gained growth.
2, hurt your people to give you experience
In this life, no one can have a smooth sailing.
Someone loves you, someone hates you; if someone helps you, someone hurts you.
Ups and downs, stumbling, is the norm of life.
But there is a saying that goes well: "If you don't experience wind and rain, how can you see a rainbow?" ”
Only when people have experienced betrayal can they learn to mature; when they have experienced lies, they can learn to distinguish; and when they have experienced hurt, they can learn to be strong.
The so-called bath of fire quenching, nirvana transformation.
I've heard such a story.
A woman, after the death of her mother, suffered from the betrayal of her lover and the estrangement of her brother and sister, so she was devastated and washed her face with tears all day long.
It wasn't until she was alone that she realized that she had to free herself from her pain.
She actively searched for materials, read hiking guides, attended first aid training classes, and prepared to embark on a difficult trekking trip.
In the end, after 94 days, she completed the 1800-kilometer hike goal of the Pacific Roof Trail, becoming the "Queen of the Pacific Roof Trail" in the eyes of everyone.
She's Cheryl. Stred.
It was that bad experience that gave her more courage.
After that, she revived her dream of writing and wrote her autobiography, Out of the Wild, which swept 17 annual book awards.
There is a saying in the book: "Great disillusionment should give birth to greater hope." ”
Deeply. All the injuries in life will eventually turn into armor and become the strongest place in their own bodies.
Therefore, there is no need to complain about those who hurt you, because in them, you can get experience.
When I met them, I honed my mind, enhanced my wisdom, awakened my self-esteem, and stimulated my potential.
Although you don't have to be grateful, learn to let go.
After all, it is those experiences that make our lives more fulfilling and tenacious.
3, love you people to give you warmth
The years are merciless and life is desolate.
But there are always some people, across the vast sea of people, with warmth; there are always some people, through the cold and warm of the world, with your gentle companionship.
In the darkness, they lend a helping hand, giving comfort and encouragement; when they are sad, they do not abandon, giving care and love.
This kind of love makes people warm.
As the writer Xue Xiaochan once said:
"The further you go, the more you find that to be with a warm person, he gives you energy, gives you time, and makes you feel grand in this world." 」
Some netizens once told me about an experience of their own.
Every day she commutes to and from work, she passes through a street.
There is a Chinese restaurant there, and every morning, the owner of the restaurant will take a small gas can to burn the pig's trotters.
It was particularly loud, and the sparks that came out were frightening.
So every time she passed, she covered her ears and walked fast.
About a week later, when she passed by again, she saw the boss with a pig's trotter in his left hand and a musket in his right hand, standing there looking around.
It wasn't until he watched her walk a long way before he began his spray roasting work.
At that moment, the girl's heart was injected with a warm current.
That feeling, like the March breeze, gently blows on the cheeks, without a trace, but warms the heart.
The greatest blessing in life is to be loved by others.
No matter how cold the world is, as long as there is this love and warmth, it is worth our tears and laughter to live.
Never blame anyone in your life.
In the human world, all encounters are fate.
They will surely teach you something, whether it is good or bad, it will become an indispensable part of your life.
So there is no need to worry, there is no need to obsess.
What should be left will not be scattered, and those who should leave will eventually go far.
The only thing we have to do is to learn to look down, not to tangle, not to complain.
In the face of people who help themselves, know how to return and be grateful; in the face of people who hurt themselves, know how to let go and turn around; face people who warm themselves, know how to pass on and cherish.
In this way, in the rolling red dust, time and shadow can be used as a medium to seek perfection.
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