Text/Flying Fish
Not every relationship will have a good result, and not everyone you meet will fall in love with each other.
Between people, from encounters to come together, married, has more than ordinary people have a fate.
However, the deep edge of the edge is shallow, and the cause and effect of the cause and effect are all caused.
Many couples vigorously went to get a license, but soon after they were not happy. Or I don't feel like it, or I feel bored, or I'm tired.
Between husband and wife, the most easy to disperse is often because of these three things.
When you finish reading it, I hope you can understand the truth of marriage, so as to learn how to love someone and how to make love more lasting.
First, the couple who can't withstand the blandness will end dismal after the vigorous.
Thinking of Juan Sheng and ZiJun in "Wounded Death", one is an intellectual, the other is a lady from a large family, both of whom are eager to pursue a free life and to be liberated from their personality.
Two people met by chance, fell in love at first sight, goodbye to deep affection, the two people were very compatible at first, the feelings were touching, and they fell in love with each other.
In order to be with Juansheng, Zijun did not hesitate to oppose his family, and even fell out with his uncle who had raised him for many years, saying that no one was allowed to interfere in his life.
Zijun's actions also touched Juansheng's soul, and with tears in his eyes, he said that he would be good to her in this life, and on the spot, he knelt down on one knee and proposed marriage to Zijun.
Juan Sheng also broke off some friends in order to be with Zijun. In this way, the love of the two people has caused a sensation in the whole city, regardless of identity, regardless of opposition, and did not leave a way back for themselves, so they jumped into the life of chicken flying dog jumping.
After all, it is still young, can not withstand the blandness of life, and then the vigorous feelings eventually return to calm, and are not willing to be calm, can not stand the ordinary two people, and finally even get along with each other feel bored.
After the two people got married, after the sweet love period, Juan sheng began to feel that Zijun did not want to make progress and did nothing, and Zijun still felt that Juansheng's feelings for him had weakened.
Therefore, each other feels that they have changed, and the coldness of their feelings makes them lose themselves, and they do not survive the cold period, and they are not happy.
The most feared thing in the relationship is to be in the place, there is nothing to say, after the passion, only memories are left.
Some feelings are like this, when they love vigorously, when they don't love, even breathing is sinful.
Therefore, no matter who it is, if you want to maintain a relationship, it is not a passion for blood, but two people operating together, slowly, slowly, running into each other, enduring the ordinary, accepting each other's together, in order to go to the end.
Second, there is no sense of proportion, love is too full.
The best feelings, in fact, have a sense of demarcation.
Husband and wife two people get along together, in fact, it is also necessary to respect, each has space, do not invade each other's privacy, know how to respect each other, do not always test each other's bottom line, so as to maintain good feelings.
Many family breakups are actually because there is no sense of proportion and love is too full.
And the party who loves too much will often lose himself. Thinking of Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life", after she married Chen Junsheng, she sacrificed her career for the sake of her family and to take care of him and her children, and concentrated on being a full-time wife at home.
At the beginning, Chen Junsheng said to her, you stay at home, I will raise you beautifully.
So Luo Zijun put all his energy into the family, taking care of the children, dressing himself, and every day he began to think about how to make himself good and seem to please his husband.
However, after a few years, Chen Junsheng felt that Luo Zijun had become a burden to him, not only did not make money, but also spent money everywhere.
For the sake of the family, Luo Zijun gave up self-growth, self-management, and devoted himself to this family.
However, Chen Junsheng had someone outside and began to want to divorce Luo Zijun, Luo Zijun lost his self in love, and after knowing that he had someone else, he begged him bitterly, saying to him, If you completely broke off relations with that person, I would turn a blind eye to everything, when it never happened, so I asked him not to divorce.
Because Luo Zijun felt that he could not do without Chen Junsheng, without him, there would be no income, and he had been derailed from society for so many years, without a career and unable to be independent.
Sure enough, love is too full, and the last to be hurt will always be yourself.
In any relationship, it is not that you have paid completely, and you will be rewarded in return.
In fact, the most taboo thing in feelings is excessive exertion. Love one person, love seven points, three points to yourself. You don't have to love too much.
Third, without material feelings, it is an emptiness after all.
Any relationship into life is inseparable from material things.
Material is an inevitable demand, and the reason why many couples go to the dispersal scene is actually to lose to reality and lose to chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea.
Thana Chen Junsheng told Luo Zijun that if Chen Junsheng did not carry huge pressure on his work, he might still continue to indulge Luo Zijun to go out shopping every day, do beauty, and be a young grandmother. However, Chen Junsheng was also forced by life to breathe, and saw That Luo Zijun did not have to work every day, he lived so neatly, and he met a woman who was also a mother working hard in the workplace, so there was a gap, already sympathetic, and after contact with the female colleague, it resonated.
In the face of Luo Zijun, I felt that there was a contradiction. Chen Junsheng even felt that Luo Zijun could not help himself at all, but would only spend his money, and there was no topic with her.
Therefore, Chen Junsheng cheated on female colleagues and divorced Luo Zijun, but when Chen Junsheng and female colleagues came together, they would not face the pressure of chai rice oil and salt.
He saw the rise of Luo Zijun, and the female colleague became the previous "Luo Zijun", and suddenly felt a trace of remorse in his heart.
Feelings without material support, how far can they go, in fact, this is a very real problem.
Feelings are two people working together, want a good life, can not only be one person in the pay, the other person in enjoyment, if you can not stand the triviality of chai rice oil and salt, love without material basis, sooner or later will be stranded in the long river of years.
In the end, the fact that husband and wife can come together is actually a cultivation.
The two people who can go to the end must not only start from the appearance, but also be loyal to the three views. The three views are the same, and only then will they slowly run in and face the chicken feathers of life together.
Who wants to pursue romantic love, but after romance, it is still necessary to return to real life, because romance is always a dream, occasional romance can enhance feelings, when in the end, feelings still have to be refined into every bit of life.
The poet Shu Ting wrote in "To the Oak Tree": "We share the cold tide, the wind and thunder, and the thunderbolt; we share the fog, the flowing lan, and the rainbow." It is as if they are separated forever, but they are dependent on each other for life. ”
Husband and wife in life, only by mutual tolerance, mutual concessions, mutual compromise, mutual support, marriage can come to the end.
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