Good boys: People grow and change

The Good Boys is an R-rated movie.

R level = restricted level, generally contains content that is not suitable for minors to watch, including Xing, Bao Li, suction Du, Luo Lu and other scenes and Zhang dialect content. Therefore, children under the age of 17 must be accompanied by a parent or guardian to watch.

The protagonists of this R-rated movie are three post-05 boys. According to the film rating system, they can't watch the movie themselves. In a trailer for Good Boys, producer Seth Logan also made a joke about this: You can buy Du goods in the movie and burst the Cu, but you can't watch yourself do it in the movie.

In the film, Max, Thor, and Lucas are good friends with each other and form a group called beanbag boys. They want to be together forever and be each other's best friends, Beanbag Boys Forever. One day, Sauron, the cool boy at school, invited them to a kissing party. In order not to lose people at the party, they embark on an adventure trying to figure out what kissing is.

There are a lot of very funny clips in the movie, such as:

In order to figure out what kissing is, 3 little boys went to the Internet to search for Porn (shame movie), but they were frightened by the shyness clip, and there was no kissing inside;

In order to help Max practice kissing, Lucas moved out of his father's CPR doll, which is actually an adult Xing love doll, and then Max practiced on the Xing love doll;

Because he was too young to buy wine, Thor put a bottle of wine in his crotch, pretending that it was his own JJ, hoping to get through the confusion, and the white eyes of the same policeman uncle would be turned to the sky...

I started thinking this movie was an R-rated comedy movie that offered a hilarious experience. Until the following scene:

Bean Bag Boys = Max + Thor + Lucas; Older Girlfriend Sisters = Hannah + Lily.

Lily: I remember my first kissing party

Hannah: Who did you kiss?

Lily: Manus's sister

MAX: Wait a minute, you (Hannah) didn't go there?

Hannah: I didn't go, we weren't acquainted yet, although we were in the same grade, but we were only close in the 8th grade

Max: Oh, I thought you'd known each other for a long time

Lucas: Yeah, my best friends were all in kindergarten

Hannah: No, you only became friends because you lived close together

Lily: Or maybe your parents are friends

Max: No, we were together because we liked each other and we stayed close together

Lucas: Our parents were friends too

At the end of the conversation, the expressions of the three bean bag boys were a little heavier. Up to the duck frowned, found that the movie is not simple.

The movie is like a cunning boy, making you hahahahaha laugh, when you laugh and laugh and relax, he suddenly said a sincere word to you very seriously: people grow and change.

The film uses Lucas's conversations with his parents to express them more bluntly.

Father: Remember your hermit crab?

Lucas: Herman?

Father: Yes, Herman. Remember how he died?

Lucas: You said the hermit crab ran away!!

Father: Yes, he escaped at first, and then he died.

Lucas: Oh my God, how did you die?

Mother: Herman died because the hermit crabs grew up, they needed to find a new shell, and if they couldn't find it, they would die

Lucas: So Herman died because of you?

Mother: The point is that you and your friends are growing up and changing, and you both need to find new shells

The bean bag boy found the right shell. Max throws himself into a one-time relationship and chases after the love he loves; Thor embraces his love of singing and returns to the cabaret stage; Lucas continues to play his favorite Genesis game and joins the anti-bullying league.

People grow and change, this sentence is very important.

This means that we do not have a stable self, but a renewed self that continues to grow and change. For example, you before reading the article, and after reading the article, you have already undergone some changes. The philosopher Heraclitus said that one cannot step into the same river twice. Nor does one become the same self for two consecutive days.

Accept that you are growing and changing, not static for a lifetime. When we accept this, we look at ourselves more flexibly and flexibly. You can also start reflecting around yourself:

What kind of person am I now?

How did I grow up to be where I am now?

What kind of person do I want to grow into in the future?

……

Others also grow and change, and some thinking can be done around others:

What kind of person am I seeing?

How did he grow up and change to what he is now?

If I want ta to be a different person, what can I do?

Because people grow and change, relationships must also grow and change.

Agree with this and not be surprised by the changes in others in the relationship.

"Oh my God, you've changed"

"Yes, I have changed, and I will remain changing until I usher in the final change – death"

The relationship of growth and change is not equal to the bad relationship, growth and change is certain, and good relationship is also growth and change.

So there can also be some reflection around relationships:

What is our relationship?

How did we establish this relationship?

How do we want this relationship to evolve? Aligned goals with each other?

Sometimes we see negative examples, some people are always trapped in the same dilemma and can't get out, such as:

Always meet scumbags

Always very inferior

Always unable to make your voice heard in relationships

Always care too much about other people's evaluations

Growth and change are normal, and it is abnormal to maintain the same, so for these phenomena, we can also think:

People are growing and changing, why has the "problem" of ta not changed?

What did he do so that the changes that would have occurred naturally never happened?

Psychologist Karen once said: Born with a tendency to self-actualization, if the obstacle is removed, people will naturally develop into mature, fully realized individuals, like an oak seed growing into an oak tree.

Accepting people grow and change, they grow into themselves with peace of mind, just as a tree seed grows into an oak tree.

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