I remember an earthy love sentence that said: "Karen Mok's cloudy day, Sun Yanzi's rainy day, Jay Chou's sunny day, it is not as good as you and me chatting." ”
Being able to chat with people you like is indeed a sweet and happy thing, but chatting also requires skills, if it is very awkward at the beginning, then even if they like each other, it is difficult to talk freely.
Just like watching a movie, a good opening can instantly catch people's eyes, let people have the desire to continue watching, chat is the same, only the opening is good, two people have the desire to talk, chat is more pleasant.
Choosing a good opening statement is the premise of effective communication between two people, but Xiaojing found that most men will always use "in" to open when chatting with women.
Maybe men will feel that they should ask tentatively first, and if they get a response, they can continue to talk to women. But in fact, what women don't like the most is such an inquiry.
Hearing a man ask "Is it here", a woman's first reaction is that the man is very serious and seems to be about to say something important, which can't help but make her nervous.
Men bring a sense of nervousness to women from the beginning, how can women talk to you happily? Men can't even do the simplest opening, and it's no wonder they can't catch up with the woman they want.
In fact, when talking to women, smart men don't start with "in". For smart men, these opening statements are the best choice.
"I dreamed of you last night"
If a man wants to have a pleasant chat with a woman, he needs to arouse the woman's curiosity at the beginning and make her interested in this chat.
It is because smart men understand this that they will not start with "in", but use "I dreamed of you last night" to arouse women's interest.
Although dreams are false, when they hear others say that they dream of themselves, most women will have a strong curiosity and want to know what they really look like in other people's dreams.
Men use this sentence to open the scene, not only to arouse the interest of women, but also to provide a good topic for each other's chat. If we continue to talk like this, the two people will have a more pleasant conversation.
Whether men really dream of women or not, you can use this sentence to open. The simple phrase "I dreamed of you last night" is much more effective than "in it".
"I want to invite you to dinner, when are you free"
The last thing women like to chat is that two people chat for half a day, but they have not spoken about the right topic. Talking like this will make her feel like she is wasting her time.
Talk to women, men are better straightforward, first explain the purpose of your contact with her, let her know clearly what you want to do, she will selectively talk to you.
If you just use the phrase "are you in", there's a good chance that women won't take care of you. But if you can ask "I want to invite you to dinner, when are you free", the woman will answer you very seriously.
Opening in the way of inviting women to dinner and asking women for time is actually to find an entry point for each other's chat. With this entry point, even if the matter is over, the two people can continue to talk.
The reason why a smart man can chat with a woman smoothly is because he has mastered this way of opening, and only a stupid man will always waste time on invalid openings.
"How's it been lately"
On busy days, women don't casually chat with a man who has nothing to do, only with a man who cares about themselves. If a man wants to successfully talk to a woman, he must let her feel your care.
Caring for women is actually very simple, and a sentence of "how have you been lately" is enough. While it's a very common greeting, for a woman, it means you're thinking about him.
In the face of a man who cares about himself and cares about himself, women are embarrassed to refuse. You start with something like this, and even if a woman is busy, she will take the time to respond to your concerns.
There are many old friends who like to start with "how have you been lately", and in the process of explaining their current situation, new topics may arise. With a new topic, can't you still talk about it?
Smart men are using "how have you been lately" in the opening scene, you should also study hard, stop just hoping for "in".
Conclusion: Only when there is a good opening can there be good communication; only with good communication can there be feelings.
Men want to inspire women's love in the chat, the premise is to let the chat continue, and the guarantee for the chat to continue is the opening statement.
Some opening statements are too serious to make the chat pleasant; some are too perfunctory to attract women's attention. Only when men find a good opening statement, they will not fall on their heads from the beginning.
Observations have found that when talking to women, smart men don't start with "in", only stupid men are still stubborn.
If you want to talk to women smoothly, don't limit yourself to the opening statement of "in it", and replace it with some opening statements that can stimulate women's interest, and it will be easier for you to do so.