Have you ever had a moment like mine?
Obviously love your partner very much, but always make the other party sad and sad, and even want to run away from you.
It was hard to spend time with my parents during the holidays, but after three days, I was angry and disgusted.
Give all your energy and love for your child, but you can't understand it, and your child is getting farther and farther away from you...
Someone said:
Love, like a handful of sand in your hand, the more you want to grasp it, the faster the sand will be lost.
Love, not in the name of love, grasps the other person, but surrounds him like sunshine and gives him freedom.
Love to the depths, not "I love you", but...
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To love a partner, you must know how to be perfect
Two days ago, I saw a video to learn about the love between Yuan Quan and Xia Yu.
Yuan Quan and Xia Yu fell in love at first sight in the Middle Drama.
Later, the two people experienced quarrels, breakups, and circles, and finally found that they still loved each other. Therefore, from the school uniform to the wedding dress, hand in hand into the marriage, decades of love as ever.
One is a young film emperor, and the other is a literary goddess.
Yuan Quan always knew what he wanted, and even if he got married and had children, he never gave up the pursuit of his career.
Xia Yu understood her thoughts, supported her choice, and never asked her to sacrifice for her family. Yuan Quan went out to shoot a drama, and Xia Yu accompanied her daughter at home.
Once, Yuan Quan broke his collarbone and lay flat on the bed for more than five months. Xia Yu pushed off all the work, accompanied Yuan Quan, and took care of it carefully.
Today, Yuan Quan, who is in his forties, has turned red again, is still active on the screen, and lives more elegantly and calmly.
When Xia Yu attended the event, it was difficult to praise his wife and was proud of her.
Some netizens commented:
I saw the best look of love, really envious. Two people, for the common goal to struggle, grow each other, complete each other.
I love you, you are free.
Writer Ye Xuan said:
"Every man must grow up through marriage, to understand the rice, oil, salt, and triviality of life; every woman must also grow up through marriage, to understand responsibility and tolerance." 」
Happy marriages have one commonality: two people take responsibility together, grow up together, tolerate each other, and complete each other.
Unhappy marriages, each with its own misfortunes:
There are those who control each other in the name of love, and there are those who pick each other up in the name of being good, consume each other, and ultimately lose both.
A good marriage is that I understand your hardships, and you know my hardships. Love is the sunshine, understanding is oxygen, nourishing each other, perfecting each other.
To love your parents, you must know how to obey
I have a friend by my side, the only son in the family, with a gentle personality and filial piety.
Parents are older and don't want to live in the city, friends just repair the house in their hometown in the countryside, take the children back every week, and see them when there is nothing to do.
Two years ago, my friend's father wanted to plant walnut trees, and he knew that persuasion was useless, so he asked his father to plant them.
After two years, my father felt that it was inappropriate to plant walnut trees, and he wanted to dig up other trees.
The friend said, "Then let's dig." ”
Then, without a word of complaint, he accompanied the old father and dug up the walnut tree that had just grown.
He said, "The old man, the old child, just let him have his nature." He likes to toss how to toss, let him toss, as long as he is in a good mood, the body is naturally healthy and healthy. ”
He said that he had also had conflicts with his parents before:
Parents often eat leftovers, even if there are a few bites left, they will keep the next meal. He felt that eating leftovers was not good, persuasion was useless, he poured it himself, and his parents were distressed and unhappy.
The fruit you buy always eats the bad first, and then waits for the good to become bad again.
New clothes are reluctant to wear in the cupboard, and they are only worn once every New Year's Holiday to relatives.
For this reason, the family did not talk less, which made everyone unhappy.
In the end, he also wanted to understand that his parents had been saving all their lives, it was too difficult to change, and it hurt his feelings, so it was better to follow them and change his mentality.
My parents are now almost eighty years old, and the old couple is comfortable and comfortable, and their bodies are still tough.
Life Issei,One autumn of plants.
Goethe said:
We are considerate of the elderly and treat them like children.
When we were young, it was our parents who held our hands, taught us toddlers, taught us life, and taught us to be human.
Parents get old and gradually retreat into children. The lamb kneels and the crow feeds back. How can the grace of birth and nourishment be repaid?
Love for parents is not to change them, but to learn to obey.
Listen patiently to their nagging, repeating stories a thousand times; obey their wishes, tolerate their stubbornness, and respect what they do.
Filial piety is filial piety, and filial piety is filial piety.
Love children, know how to let go
Gibran has a poem:
Your child
Not your child
They are children born of life's desire for itself
He came into this world through you
But it is not because of you
……
We all love our children, there's no doubt about that.
There is a friend around him who is particularly doting on children and strict in discipline.
When the child writes homework, she sits next to it and stares at the child to do it.
When the child eats, she keeps putting vegetables into the bowl and eager to stuff the whole plate into the child's mouth.
The child plays with a good friend, and as soon as there is a disagreement, she immediately intervenes.
The results are:
She was not around, the child did not write a word, and the teacher reflected that the class needed constant reminders.
The child was twelve years old, overweight, and even found fatty liver.
Other friends go downstairs to play, and they will no longer call the child, thinking that his mother has too much to do.
Some time ago, the child cried and did not go to school, saying that her classmates excluded her, did not play with her, and had no interest in learning. Later, the child was diagnosed with moderate depression and had to take a break from school.
How many parents, in the name of love, are good for their children, but in fact control their children and cover up their anxiety.
How many parents, educating their children in the worst possible way, want to achieve the best results.
The child has his own vitality, and what kind of person you want her to become, you will become what kind of person first.
And, trust him unconditionally, learn to let go appropriately, and give him a chance to trial and error.
He may have spilled the milk today, tied the wrong button, and tomorrow he will be a little more careful.
Each of us has grown up in constant trial and error to gain what we call experience and experience.
Of all love, only human parent-child love is aimed at separation.
Parent-child love is to let go.
Flowers bloom in their own right, and every child is an angel.
Therefore, you may wish to be a little more patient, more trust, let the child become a child, let him be himself.
I believe that the child will definitely surprise you.
Love is as you are, not as I wish
We spend our whole lives searching for love and being loved.
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
The farthest distance in the world is not life and death, but I stand in front of you, and you don't know that I love you.
I would like to say that the farthest distance between us is not that we don't love you, but that I think I love you, but I don't know what the other person wants.
The love of husband and wife is to be perfect, to complete the lover to be ourselves, so that we can nourish each other and meet each other in a higher place.
The love of parents is obedience, obedience to parents to be children, we give the fate of this life, draw a satisfactory end.
Parent-child love is to let go, let the child become himself, live as he likes, and have the ability to be happy.
Don't let love become a pity, and don't let love not love discount love.
Love is as you are, not as I wish.
Author: Yi Fei, Source: Night Listening, For Love, Meet a Better Self.