Only when we learn to heal ourselves will we know a new self and start again. What kind of living environment will create what pattern, you remember, you can use your own power to smooth out, live out your own bloom.
——Nico
You need to find a space inside you to fit the old self that you think is "not good enough." Accepting its existence, we can no longer expend energy in this acceptance to resist and condemn and escape.
Only in the calm can we move forward lightly and shape a new self.
The win or loss of feelings, not whether you have won him in the end,
It's whether you have lived as a self without regrets.
One has its own values and can live in its own values,
A person who is not affected by the actions of others and whose beliefs are shaken is a happy person.
The key is not to change others, but how we should live in such a world.
How to place yourself, how to define yourself, how to stick to your inner beliefs.
What kind of person you become, this sentence does not refer to what kind of you are in the eyes of others,
It's in your own heart what kind of person you believe you are.
In a world that you can't control, the real way to live happily and attain liberation is to agree with yourself.
Be a bystander of other people's emotions, not a savior, and don't take other people's emotions on yourself without moving.
If there isn't even a conversation about feelings in a relationship, who can such a relationship satisfy? Perhaps only the person who can be satisfied, "materialized" and "gone to the heart".
Don't always put things between you and the other person.
Instead, you can make feelings, emotions, experiences, flow between you and the other person. Give the feeling a time and space that can flow.
The child actually knows everything, and his subconscious is like a sponge capturing everything that is secret in the environment.
It is carved into one's own subconscious, forming a personality and forming a pattern.
We are used to wrapping our feelings in things.
Always talk about things, not about feelings.
Emotions that need to be dealt with,
I'm not looking for someone to deal with my things, but I'm always looking for someone to deal with my emotions.
Between different people, it is different subconscious minds that communicate, and the subconscious mind produces various chemical reactions.
The love that arises from each other and the reactions to each other's actions will be very different.
People with low self-esteem are often like this, first having the subconscious preconceived judgment of "I'm not good enough",
Then go and collect evidence to prove that you are inferior to others.
Because of human nature, in this world, love is not absolute and pure.
Neither 100% pure nor eternal, it will change with many conditions.
Before you feel that you are not loved enough, it is important to understand how much the person you are asking for love has.
The amount of love is not something you try to have, nor is it something he tries to give. Everyone has their own limits.
Perhaps, he treats you in a way that seems strange to you, that is, he is the ultimate in this relationship and even all of them.
For a response to love that is not good enough, you have the right to choose, to leave.
Why are we so lonely?
Because no matter how much you have, no matter what place you have, what you need most is that your heart can be seen and communicated.
Be sure to ask a man who has only a hundred dollars to borrow a thousand dollars,
Be sure to keep digging up evidence of love in a person who has no ability to love,
Nothing will be gained except to make yourself more and more miserable and disappointed.
Don't build your ego on the other person's unaffordable love.
While protecting your health, increasing your wealth, and raising future generations, you must also protect your soul, pay attention to your feelings, and don't let your soul dry up.
Many people simply do not have the skills to deal with feelings, express feelings, and accept feelings in relationships.
It is because, in the original family, at the beginning of his growth, his feelings were not well handled.
In our relationship, what we are looking for is actually a converter to deal with our emotions, and whoever has such a conversion function can bring more happiness to each other. May we all have the ability to provide "emotional value."
The unfortunate thing is not that you get less love than others,
Rather, you judge yourself as a soul that is not worthy of love.
Although we live in relationships, we cannot live for relationships. Although we so long for love, we cannot live only to receive love. We want to build ourselves and live for ourselves. Neither for relationships nor for love.
In the face of love, honest expression of yourself is far more important than gesture.
People who protect themselves too well in their feelings will eventually hurt themselves.
It seems like a paradox, but it's very real,
Because you may blame yourself for not trying your best in this relationship for the rest of the long time.
A person, if he does not see clearly and perceive his own vulnerability, does not see clearly that the system of transforming negative energy is actually weak.
If you are still in a relationship, constantly hollowing out yourself to provide positive energy to others without self-nourishment and replenishment, then the result is dangerous.
Some people will have a skill to hollow out others, control others, kidnap others,
In the name of love, in the name of giving, in the name of sacrifice.
Their instincts are well versed in this and do not require the deliberate planning of the mind at all.
Just like a baby sucking breast milk, it is an innate ability and a need that cannot be stopped.
The reason why we are used to working hard in a kind of self-blame and attack,
It's because when we were kids, we often worked hard in "blame and attack" rather than "encouragement and support."
With the inner label of "I'm not good enough" to work hard, your efforts are often half the work.
Negative thoughts, negative cues, unconscious subconscious patterns,
Not just dragging your successful hind legs, but actually firmly binding your two legs.
Many people think that as long as they achieve a certain goal, they can use a big price to go to others and redeem their lives, this big price is the obstacle you set for yourself, this big price, that is, the other person's opinion in your world, the degree of importance, this big price, is your heart, the degree of influence by this social trend.