Although everyone knows that this relationship of extramarital affairs is not right, it is absolutely not recognized and blessed by the outside world and public opinion.
However, the real world is so complex that many people do not have enough sense of responsibility and lack a sincere respect for the major life choices they make.
Therefore, society is full of extramarital affairs, which is undeniable.
But an extramarital affair has a characteristic: although it happens violently, it cannot be maintained for a long time, and it usually ends with a dark breakup.
So, after a man leaves his lover, will he rekindle his old feelings for her?
01. Mr. Du
I think it is better for men or women not to easily engage in extramarital affairs.
I am not from the moral high ground to say such a sentence, but I have betrayed marriage and family, until now I have not been freed from the shackles caused by such an extramarital emotion, so that I still feel very troubled, so I have a feeling.
It can be said that such a feeling is definitely not called happiness and happiness, on the contrary, the more you go back, the more you feel that your heart is particularly restless, and you don't know how to be good in the future.
I was with my extramarital lover two years ago, and after a long time, the temperature of the relationship between the two people decreased very quickly, so it ended naturally.
But after the separation, I feel empty inside, it seems that there is no one to fill an empty piece, maybe it is still my own need for emotions is more intense, so the two people are entangled again.
What is the situation between us now? Let's put it this way: on the one hand, I feel that I can't do without her, on the other hand, I am afraid that my wife will make a fuss about divorcing me after she finds out, and I don't have a day of peace in my heart, and I am always hanging.
Although I can't leave this relationship that is not blessed by the outside world, on the other hand, I am also afraid of losing my marriage and family, and my heart is particularly entangled.
If you know that cheating will put you in a dilemma, it is really not as easy as the original plain, living a little of your normal married life and being calm.
02. Mr. Hong
I used to think that marriage is so plain, life is so long, if you want to live comfortably and happily, couples should not be too tight on marriage and on the other half.
There can be sparks in life, but there can be no fires. The spark is the kind of appreciation and respect you maintain for the opposite sex outside of marriage, or there may be a little bit of goodwill and closeness on top of it.
But as long as you know how to abide by the bottom line of the exchanges between the two sides and do not cross it casually, it is understandable.
Once both parties develop into an extramarital affair, it will cause a fire, and it will naturally burn your marriage and family.
It was because I believed that I could stick to my principles, so I would let the sparks splash in the first place, and I never thought about the consequences.
At that time, I thought that a little brilliant fireworks bloomed in the sky of my life would beautify my life and bring more happiness and happiness to myself.
But now I understand that sparks are the signal that causes fires, as long as you have a good feeling for each other in your heart, you will breed covetousness, then the fire will come sooner or later! Until I understood what the nature of an affair really was; why would a woman outside of marriage approach me?
And after facing the huge blow to my marriage and family, I finally woke up and ended the abnormal relationship that almost caused my life to change dramatically.
Fortunately, my wife did not insist on divorcing me when she looked at our former love and the face of our children, and now the two of them are still relatively peaceful.
Do I ask me if I will have a renewed love affair with a lover outside of marriage? My answer is that there is no such idea at all, and I definitely do not dare to take any more risks.
03. Mr. Dong
I also had an affair, and now you ask me if I still miss my former lover? My answer is: I have forgotten it!
For me, the so-called extramarital affairs, for men, are mostly for the sake of lustful freshness.
This relationship is just a matter of taking what you need: men may just like women's young beauty, and women are more for the sake of men's money and materials.
Everyone understands what such a relationship is about, and naturally it will not be so serious.
No matter what other men think, at least men like me would never divorce for such a relationship. Only later did I find out that I had provoked the other party, and it was not so easy to get rid of it.
It was because she was once unable to clean up, and my wife has been divorcing me since she knew.
After being caused so much trouble by her, I was even more completely indifferent to her.
Although she acted quite fiercely, showing a kind of thought and willingness to marry me to be satisfied, but what about me? Because I had already got her, I didn't want her at all.
epilogue:
After a man leaves his lover, will he rekindle his old feelings for her? In fact, through the answers of the above men, everyone must be able to clearly understand a rough idea.
After men get some women other than their wives, the sense of freshness and care may be only short-lived.
After that, it will change because the feeling between getting along with each other becomes more and more flat, and many problems and ambivalence between the two sides will change.
Moreover, on the other hand, because such a relationship affects his marriage and family, brings a lot of unnecessary trouble and distress, and will also disappoint and annoy men, he is bent on going!
Therefore, in the end, most of the men and women who engage in extramarital affairs are not naturally in such a state of breaking up because of the complete disappearance of feelings, or because the extramarital affairs are exposed, resulting in a fire in their backyard that is particularly unbearably noisy and forced to end hastily.
Therefore, such a relationship is often quite painful, quite anxious, and quite difficult to solve easily in the later stages.
Many men may learn from such an experience after going through it, and henceforth be insensitive to it, unwilling to touch each other, let alone miss it.
It can only be said that the nature of such a thing as an extramarital affair determines that it is difficult to have a particularly good and particularly happy ending, but on the contrary, both parties may be troubled and deeply hurt by this, bringing great uncertainty to the rest of their lives.
Therefore, I still want to advise all married men and women: you must know how to cherish the happiness in your own hands, and do not do something that cannot be cleaned up.
In that case, I am afraid that I will regret it very much in the future!
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