Xiao Juan: "After being sexually assaulted, I became the wrong person"

Has it been found that rape or sexual assault in the country is generally not punishable by the death penalty, but rather by fixed-term imprisonment, unless the circumstances cause the death of the victim?

Some people are puzzled by this, thinking that if the death penalty is imposed, will it be possible to prevent this kind of thing from happening?

This is not the case, combined with psychology and sociology, if the prisoner is sentenced to death, there is a greater probability that the victim will be in greater danger.

What is the difference between rape and sexual assault?

Rape is the act of forcibly having sexual relations with a woman against her will, either by force, coercion or other means.

Sexual assault encompasses a relatively wide range, as long as it is against his will, and he can carry out sexual activities, as to whether there is no limit between the opposite sex, whether there is no limit to sexual relations. As long as it is a sex-related activity.

The biggest difference between the two: rape must be sexual assault, but sexual assault is not limited to rape.

Xiaojuan is a high school senior born in Hangzhou, and when the good sisters got married, she went to be a bridesmaid, and as a result, the unexpected events that happened during the wedding became her lingering shadow...

Xiao Juan: This happened three years ago three years ago when my friend got married, and then I was going to be a bridesmaid, of course, it was like this, that bed was in this place, and then I sat here very close to the door, the groom sat there, and then a large selfie, and then the groom kept looking at me, and then he suddenly got up and started to walk this way, he touched my leg when he passed me, and the most exaggerated thing at that time was that I sat with the bride, and the bride's shoulders or shoulders were leaning together. No one found out about it again, and I was dumbfounded, stunned, that it was his wedding. His wife was still sitting next to me, and we were friends we'd known for seven or eight years.

I wanted to say that I really wanted to, if I followed my usual temper, I would just rush over and slap him. But at that time their wedding, everyone was there again, and I was going to tell my mutual friend and the bride, of course

After these friends, their opinions are also that this matter is not easy to talk about, so our final decision is whether to say or not to talk about these things.

Me: So you chose to be patient and then protected the bride.

Xiao Juan: I don't think it's protection, I think it will be a problem sooner or later.

Me: What effect did the groom's touching of your leg affect you?

Xiao Juan: There will be a little more doubt about marriage, that is, although I have seen many examples of happy marriages in marriages, if unfortunate marriages occur around me, I still have doubts about the whole thing of marriage.

What happened to me, I can digest it myself, but more people can't digest it, and what really should play a role is our environment, our public opinion and our legal system, but now it seems that I think this situation is a very bad thing.

Me: Doesn't every girl have this experience when she grows up? to your understanding;

Xiao Juan: More or less, in fact, there are many such phenomena, and everyone does not seem to say it.

Me: What kind of mentality do you think this is?

Xiao Juan: Other people may feel that it is a kind of humiliation after they know it, and more people choose not to talk about it, so they will more or less have a bit of shame.

Me: So to this day you haven't figured out exactly how to deal with this.

Xiao Juan: I feel very helpless for me, because I don't know if telling others will have any results, or even the result may be that you are questioned and besieged, because his original image of that person must be very good.

In order to reduce the occurrence of such obscene sexual assaults, it is still necessary for women to protect themselves and to ensure that women can punish the perpetrators through the weapons of the law. It is also necessary to reduce prejudice against the victim, such as bad words such as losing virginity, and avoid secondary harm to the victim. When women dare to stand up bravely, when the law can effectively guarantee their enforcement effectiveness, then those who seek misconduct will feel afraid.

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Author | YETI Xiaojuan

Reference: Interview with Xiao Juan under a pseudonym

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