Recently on the short video platform brushed a small animation, let me completely fall in love with Jin Weiqi's "Bride A Flower" song, repeatedly watched this short video dozens of times, each comic is hidden in the small details of life, every lyric is so simple but still has the "magic" that makes people tear up! Many girls can't help but have such a thought: "Afraid of becoming a flower, but afraid that they are not as good as a flower"!
People who have heard this song should know that the lyrics describe the story of Ah Hua and Ah Fa after they met each other, and this life seems to be a flash! I believe that even if I have not personally experienced such a story, I must have heard it from friends around me, a 28-year-old girl "A Hua", at the urging of her family, was introduced to a man aged 30+ "Afa" on a blind date. That's where the story begins.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="13" > are the 28-year-old "A Hua" and the 30-year-old "Ah Fa" experiencing "talking about marriage"? </h1>
The topic of "blind date" can be said to have gone through thousands of years in China, and the allusions of the old red bride have always been passed down from generation to generation, and even the marriages of our fathers and fathers are mostly brokered by matchmakers. However, today's young people are more under the "urging" of their parents, and they can't be with the people they love, so they will compromise and choose to go on a blind date. So what exactly is the parents urging marriage?
1. Urging children to get married can release the anxiety in the hearts of parents
Parents, as elders, have an instinctive desire to protect their children, so for some uncontrollable factors that exist in the future, they have a certain anxiety in their hearts, and it can even be said that they are uneasy. Children are not married, not smoothly transformed from a "child" role into a "human wife" or "husband" role, which means that no one can accompany the child and the child to support each other in the wind and rain, parents are afraid that the child will grow up farther and farther away from themselves, the good news does not report the worry, can not face all kinds of pressure alone, only the child finds the right partner, in spirit and life there are personal people worth trusting, to accompany them can not accompany the rest of the child's life, parents can return to the state of inner safety.
2, behind the marriage is actually urging the children to grow up
Children do not become a family for a day, parents feel that they are really just "children" one day, and always feel that children have not grown up and cannot independently bear the storms of life. Subconsciously, I feel that the child is only married, with the other half, the change that I feel can make the child have more responsibilities on the shoulders of the child, and there is also one more person who can share the storm of life, so I can't wait to get married.
Therefore, rather than saying that "marriage urging" is an anxiety-relieving behavior for parents, it is better to say that "marriage urging" provides a possibility for children to grow up quickly. The best way to solve the marriage is to find a person who is still good in all aspects under the introduction of the family.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="18" >if "Afa" has no house, no car and no leather sofa, will there be a follow-up with Ahua? </h1>
With the development of society and the progress of the times, people's standards for partners have become different, some people pursue spiritual mates, and some people think that people who are more equal in all aspects are suitable for marriage. Every "A Hua" will think about it, the blind date "A Fa" conditions are not bad, there is a house and a car and a leather sofa, just want to find someone to start a family, even if he is not the old love "Zhiming", nor the unforgettable "A Zhong", but in the end he still chose to put on a white veil for him.
1. Is having a house, a car, and a leather sofa necessarily the standard of marriage?
See a lot of talk about marriage on the Internet, there will be netizens in the following message said: Now women are too realistic, if there is no house, no car, no bride price, there is no way to get married, some people think this is a criticism of women, some people feel that this is the truth, after all, the economic base determines the superstructure, if not even these, then the cost of living after marriage, children's education, parental medical care may become the last straw to crush the marriage of two people.
In the face of the requirements of "having a house, a car, and a bride price", many partners with a white head oath have gone their separate ways, but the situation is not the same, some people are really powerless to meet each other's vanity and unreasonable requirements, through the marriage theory to recognize the difference in values of two people and choose to break up, there are also people who are really selfish, obviously have the ability to meet each other better, but are unwilling to pay for each other.
2. Does the ring finger shine with "the vow of love" or the "vanity of love"?
Some people think that "poor couples are sad", so they will have this doubt: if "Afa" has no house, no car, no leather sofa, there may be no follow-up. This may also be another possibility of the story, after all, economic strength is indeed one of the important reasons why many young people are discouraged from getting married and starting a family.
Before getting married, two people will definitely go through the process of proposing, and the necessary thing for marriage proposal is a diamond ring, I believe many people will have such a question, why do women have to buy diamond rings when they get married? Wouldn't it be nice to use the money from a diamond ring to buy a suitable set of furniture or a decent appliance?
In 1953, Marilyn Monroe sang in the movie "Gentleman Loves Beauty": "Diamonds Are A Girl's Best Friend." This sentence alone binds the diamond to the woman forever. Therefore, the woman who wants to buy a diamond ring is not necessarily vain, because the diamond not only symbolizes a romantic sense of ceremony, but also symbolizes a lifelong commitment and responsibility.
Material conditions may be the conditions for many people to choose a mate, but this is not a prerequisite, no house can rent, no car can take the subway, no diamond ring can have a commitment. After all, what two people want to get along with is each other's companionship, understanding and tolerance, more is the spiritual level, perhaps "Afa" has no house, no car, no leather sofa, but I also believe that as long as "Afa" loves "Ahua" enough, their story will still have a follow-up.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="80" > three dishes and one soup, "A Hua" and other "A Fa" go home, such a life is both "ordinary" and "happy"</h1>
In the lyrics at the end of the song: "Ah Fa buys breakfast and goes home in the morning, soy milk is hot and hot blossoming mist", which reminds people of a line in "Beijing Meets Seattle": "He is the best man in the world, he may not take me to take a yacht and eat French food, but he can run a few streets for me every morning to buy my favorite soy milk and fritters."
1, who unfortunately became a "flower" and did not marry love
Choosing "the person I love" or "the person who loves me" is actually a false proposition in itself, because whether it is married to love or marry someone suitable for marriage, it will eventually end up with three meals a day, a plain life of chai rice oil and salt. But everyone hears a different story in this song, some people hear the smile of happiness in the heart of "Ah Hua", while some people hear the sigh of "Ah Hua" who compromises to life after choosing to marry "Ah Fa".
2, who has the honor to become a "flower", plain and plain, with a hair to accompany a peaceful life
Most ordinary people's married life, will think that the person who works together for a lifetime, than the unforgettable "he", to let people understand that more should be cherished, in the movie "Your Wedding", the girl who let the boy grow up has finally become someone else's bride, and perhaps this boy will also become "A Fa" in the future to marry a "Ah Hua" who will join hands with him for the rest of his life. I hope that every "A Hua" can meet his own "A Fa", not because he will be there, but because he can enjoy this bland happiness together!
I think the original intention of the creation of this song should be to inform those couples who have love or are about to have love: a lifetime is only a blink of an eye, meet the right person, please give each other more tolerance and understanding, be good at discovering each other's beauty, care for each other and work together for a lifetime.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="95" > conclusion</h1>
The parents who urge marriage do not have any malicious intentions, but they are just worried that you alone will not be able to cope with the wind and frost and rain and snow in the future. However, the young people of this era do not like to be arranged for life, so they also ask the elders to urge marriage to the end, because the times are developing, the way of life will be more diversified, whether to get married, who to marry is the freedom of the child, after all, the child is happy is the most important thing is not it?
Finally, Adam would like to say: even if it is not an unforgettable old love, even if the prince does not ride a white horse, even if the girl's dream has been deposited yesterday, the daily bland three dishes and one soup are still worth having happiness. It's good to be a "Ah Hua" or "Ah Fa", what do you think?
I am Adam, and I hope to use warm words to record the fireworks I feel in the world.