What is a woman's greatest value?
This society gives women too many labels, and men measure the value of women to be a good wife, a good mother, and a good daughter-in-law. Out of the hall down to the kitchen.
A woman must always know how to show her worth at all times.
It was a pity that Qin Ziyue did not have such awareness.
She has low self-esteem and self-denial, and puts all her focus on her husband Nie Yuan.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="12" > the humble Qin Ziyue</h1>
If the husband, daughter, and career are sorted, how will Qin Ziyue choose?
Qin Ziyue put her husband first, her daughter second, and her career last. She believes that the man is the head of the family, he wants to earn money to support the family, it is very hard to work outside, and at home the woman must accommodate and tolerate him.
How humble was Qin Ziyue? First, Nie Yuan likes to truly present his life and does not want Qin Ziyue to make up and elaborately dress up at home.
In order not to make her husband angry, Qin Ziyue directly compromised. This compromise is mixed with heartache. On weekdays, Qin Ziyue puts his focus on the family, and he basically has no time to dress up at home.
This caused Nie Yuan to think that Qin Ziyue only needed a little makeup to dress up, and he didn't want Qin Ziyue to deliberately dress up in front of the camera, which was not real enough.
Second, Nie Yuan usually likes to sleep lazily, and the more times Qin Zi patiently knocks on the door and goes in, the more fruitless he is. As a result, the in-laws made a table of meals, and when it was 1 o'clock in the afternoon, Nie Yuan had not yet gotten up. Both his parents-in-law and Qin Ziyue were hungry waiting for Nie Yuan.
Qin Ziyue still stood humbly at the dining table, sandwiching a little dish to fill his stomach.
Regarding the whole family waiting for dinner, it was not that Nie Yuanfei let everyone wait for him to eat. Instead, Qin Ziyue had to wait for the whole family to eat for him.
This comes back to a problem. Returning to the roles of wife, mother, and daughter, Qin Ziyue's rating of himself is different.
As a wife, Qin Ziyue is very confident that she can score 120 points, and she puts all her energy and love on her husband. Nie Yuan couldn't even find clothes at home, Qin Ziyue had to sort out clothes for her husband in the cloakroom, and Nie Yuan even had to ask his wife every day when he got up and got dressed.
Qin Ziyue was very tolerant of Nie Yuan, and she believed that men who worked hard outside must eat well at home. Therefore, he would let his parents cook a large table of meals for Nie Yuan to eat.
As a mother, Qin Ziyue thought she had failed, scoring only 59 points. Every mom is the same and thinks she's not doing a good enough job. Qin Ziyue believes that he does not have enough time to accompany his children and cannot achieve 100% companionship.
The daughter is basically responsible for the pick-up and drop-off of the grandmother every day.
As a daughter, Qin Ziyue thinks that he can only score 30 points. Speaking of parents, The more Qin Zi cried, the more she felt ashamed of her parents. Because her parents put all their time into their daughter's family, the more selflessly the parents gave, the more uncomfortable she was.
Qin Ziyue was indeed ashamed of her parents, and in order to wait for her husband Nie Yuan to eat, she actually ignored the hunger of her elderly parents. Her parents helped at home, and she thought she wasn't doing a good job in her family and career.
Confidence is a beautiful word. A confident woman with her own light. Unfortunately, Qin Ziyue did not.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="31" > public chopsticks for eating</h1>
Nie Yuan's status at home is absolutely very high, which is also spoiled by his wife. Even his parents-in-law had to "awed" him for three points.
Near noon, my parents-in-law cooked together. At one lunch, my parents-in-law cooked 7 dishes, each of which was full. 4 adults eat 7 courses, which is obviously too much.
Qin Ziyue couldn't even eat half a stick of corn, and he was full without eating a few bites of food. As a result, a large table of dishes, two-thirds of the remaining dishes have not been eaten.
When it was time for dinner, one more daughter ate every day. Qin Ziyue prepared 9 dishes with his parents in order to allow her husband and daughter to eat well.
4 adults plus one child eat a total of 9 dishes. A large table of dishes is very hearty, with fish and meat and vegetables.
There are 2 details that are very direct attention. In the first detail, Nie Yuan and his parents-in-law used a male spoon and chopsticks to eat at the same table. The use of male chopsticks can actually be understood, and it is more hygienic.
There is one more detail that is difficult to accept.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="41" > is too extravagant</h1>
Let's talk about this detail. Qin Ziyue and his parents made 9 dishes, and as a result, half of the meal was left at the end of the dinner.
Generally speaking, the leftover meat dishes are basically left for the next meal.
Qin Ziyue's mother dumped all the leftovers. When Nie Yuan washed the dishes, her mother-in-law was bending down to pour leftovers into the garbage can.
Nie Yuan's family was really too extravagant and wasteful. It comes down to the fact that it's too easy for celebrities to make money. Remembering Su Mang's words, 650 yuan for a breakfast is not enough to eat.
In Beijing, there is a spacious 2-storey villa with a coat room and a powder room at home. These were all earned by Nie Yuan alone, no wonder Qin Ziyue wanted to accommodate her husband so much, everything went along with him.
The economic base determines the superstructure.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="50" > Nie Yuan was rude to his father-in-law</h1>
Compared with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the relationship between parents-in-law and son-in-law is relatively harmonious. Parents-in-law will feel sorry for their daughters, love Wu and Wu by the way, and love their son-in-law.
Qin Ziyue's parents were really good to this son-in-law, and the two of them were busy making a table of meals, and they had to wait for the son-in-law to get up before they dared to eat.
Nie Yuan's attitude towards his in-laws was very different. The mother-in-law is obviously more careful and loves her son-in-law. Nie Yuan went to bed together, and his mother-in-law reminded him to drink honey water.
Nie Yuan also intimately called his mother-in-law "Mom".
Compared with the closeness to his mother-in-law, Nie Yuan was obviously rude to his father-in-law.
Nie Yuan called his father-in-law "her grandfather", apparently in the tone of his daughter. At the dinner table, the father-in-law was delayed in coming to the table, and Nie Yuan asked his daughter to call grandpa, and the daughter did not give her father face.
Nie Yuan shouted a word: Eat. Even a "dad" was unwilling to shout, and it was obvious that nie yuan's relationship with his father-in-law was relatively weak.
When Nie Yuan slept at 1 o'clock in the afternoon, his father-in-law was also obviously a little unhappy.
From the beginning to the end, Nie Yuan did not hear nie yuan shout "Dad" from his father-in-law. This son-in-law, politeness is really not in place.
After all, it is still the parents who hurt their daughters. This is also the reason why Qin Ziyue feels ashamed of his parents.
Qin Ziyue gave herself a low score, on the one hand, she was not confident. She doesn't think she's a stay-at-home mom, she doesn't have any career success, and she doesn't have time to spend time with her daughter.
Family and career are not well balanced, and parents have paid for their late retirement.
I don't think I'm doing well enough. The more Qin Zi was inferior.
Qin Ziyue thinks that she is not humble, her husband earns money to support the family and loves her daughter, she is content. She believes that the most important thing at present is to run a good family, and the career can be abandoned.
Beautiful, elegant, family-oriented, and traditional Qin Ziyue's lack of self-confidence in his bones is an excessive attachment to his husband Nie Yuan. Lack of economic independence is a hard wound.
A woman's greatest value is not to be a housewife, and many women regard marrying a good man as an important goal in life. Some women think that they don't have to fight too hard, they don't have to work too hard, and they think that it is better to do a good job than to marry well.
The greatest value of women should be to have a career of their own, and women will become independent and confident when they have a career. Without a career of its own, you will do nothing and become a man's vassal.
Qin Ziyue has no career of her own, and she is contradictory between a full-time mother and a working mother. She thinks she's not doing a good job at both ends.
The greatest value of a woman is to know herself, rather than slowly compromising on life and the status quo in day after day, and losing herself step by step.
Qin Ziyue did not know enough about himself, nor was he confident enough. In fact, she is a particularly virtuous woman, longing for both the happiness of the family and her own career, but the reality makes her unable to take care of both ends. She wasn't really happy.
Women should remain truly independent at all times. Only when you are independent can you really have the courage to do only what you want to do.
An independent and confident woman is not attached to anyone, and her life will be free.