If a woman can live like Song Dandan is now, it is called true happiness.
In "Ace to Ace", which just aired yesterday, the 60-year-old announced that she will retire this year. From then on, she will enjoy life, spend ninety percent of her time with her family, and the remaining ten percent of her time, with the nature of "playing", to do what she likes, to shoot her favorite scenes.
In the "Ace to Ace" program, Jia Ling said that on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala, she was deeply impressed by the superb performance and unique charm of a comedian actress, this actress, that is, Song Dandan. Each of Song Dandan's works is a classic. Jia Ling said that Song Dandan cannot be replaced. Song Dandan has only one.
She spoke to the hearts of many people.
Looking back at Song Dandan's journey along the way, his life is really wonderful. She has experienced almost all the things that women have experienced, including sadness and joy, ups and downs, and has also made the mistake that women love to make, that is, too deep with affection. But in the end, with his own persistence and high emotional intelligence, he became the most beautiful appearance of a woman and got rid of a "woman's epic".
Look at today's Song Dandan, famous and rich, proud of the spring breeze, full of spirit, full of red light, and full of spirit.
What is the taste of sorrow? That's not a thing.
And when a woman eats well, sleeps soundly, sees openly, and thinks clearly. So what's not to like? This is not called happiness, so what is happiness?
Many people say that Song Dandan's life is really good.
So is she just living well? I don't see it either.
She just played the originally ordinary card in her hand very well.
One
Song Dandan was born on August 25, 1961, to an intellectual family in Beijing. Her father, Song Fan, was actually a celebrity, writer, and his ancestral home was a native of Penglai, Shandong, whose original name was Song Mingdong. Since 1948, Song Fan has successively served as a student of North China University, a teacher of Beijing Yucai School, a cadre of the Ministry of Education and the Propaganda Department of the Beijing Municipal Party Committee, the secretary general of the Municipal Writers Association, and the secretary of the party group, vice chairman and secretary general of the Municipal Federation of Literary and Art Circles. He began to publish works in 1950, including the prose novel collection "The Cold Moon", the children's literature novel collection "The Story of a Repeat Student", "Yonglu and His Little Donkey", "The Secret of His Brother", "Xiao Yan'er", and the anthology "Song Fan Children's Novel Selection". Among them, "Yonglu and His Little Donkey" also won the second National Children's Literature Creation Award. At the time, the impact was not small.
Song Dandan's mother, named Starfish, was an ordinary middle school teacher.
Song Dandan was not originally called Song Dandan, but Song Changying. Above her, there are two older sisters and an older brother, and she is the fourth oldest in the family.
In Beijing, "little girl films" like her are actually all over the street.
And when he was young, Song Dandan's appearance was not outstanding. In the eyes of her brother Song Beishan, The little four are small and inconspicuous, timid, dirty and always love to cry nose, yellow hair, and fat. Song Beishan often quipped to her for this: Why are you so fat? Song Dandan remembered it in his heart, and from then on he did not dare to eat enough, for fear of being looked down upon by his brothers and sisters again.
Song Dandan's older brothers and sisters are excellent and have good grades in school. His elder brother Song Beishan was a high-achieving student in the north, laying a good foundation for him to enter his career in the future. Only the little four Song Dandan, from childhood love to dress up, greedy, so the academic performance has been up and down, in the middle of the position. For this reason, the Parents of the Song Family are also worried about a lot, right?
Although he was the oldest and younger in the family, Song Dandan did not obviously feel the love of his parents. This made her quite frustrated. What girl doesn't want her parents to love herself a little more?
When Song Dandan was in high school, he already had his own careful things. Like all girls who have just opened their hearts, what she thought about most at that time was which boy in the class was more handsome? Which boy is in good shape? Which boy is better? But after looking around, I didn't find anyone I liked. Until Yuan Gang appeared.
Two
Yuan Gang is a transfer student.
When Song Dandan and her classmates were nervously preparing for the college entrance examination, he came to this class.
His appearance, like a strong wind, violently poured into the heart of 19-year-old Song Dandan.
Yuan Gang is a professional soldier, older than Song Dandan's classmates, so he appears mature and stable. In addition, he is tall, 1 meter 84 tall, and has undergone experience in the army, his temperament is resolute, very manly, not as ignorant as the little boys in the same class. So he quickly captured the hearts of many little girls, including Song Dandan. And he's also handsome. Later, a colleague of Song Dandan who works in Beijing Renyi said that Yuan Gang looked very much like Sun Honglei. It can be seen that at that time, the man with small eyes was already very popular.
Song Dandan said that as soon as Yuan Gang appeared, she had no intention of studying and had no intention of taking the college entrance examination.
It was the summer of 1980 and it was hot. But 19-year-old Song Dandan's heart is even hotter. At that time, all she was thinking about was Yuan Gang, she couldn't even sleep well, she couldn't eat well, and her academic performance also plummeted, falling to the point of being faceless to face her parents.
But when love comes, who can control the raging tide? Song Dandan simply didn't care, if he wanted to love, he would love, and he would love whoever he wanted.
She wrote a long letter to Yuan Gang to express her pain of lovesickness. Unexpectedly, I quickly received a reply from the other party. This made Song Dandan overjoyed. At that time, she felt that she was so happy that she was about to explode. She vowed to treat him well, she was going to marry him, and she wouldn't leave her even if he was crippled one day. She felt that they would surely become the happiest fairy lovers in the world for a long time. Such a simple and beautiful mind, which girl has not?
Desperately loving to death and living is something that many girls, at that age, have done, right?
Song Dandan failed the college entrance examination without suspense. But Yuan Gang was admitted to the law department of Peking University. Song Dandan was also very happy, just like he was admitted. At that time, in her opinion, everything yuan gang had was everything for herself. She willingly did the little woman behind him.
Yuan Gang actually loves Song Dandan very much, including after Song Dandan failed the college entrance examination, he also actively planned for her future way out. In 1981, the Beijing People's Art Theater recruited students, and Yuan Gang's sister-in-law was Jiao Shihong, the daughter of Jiao Juyin, the old dean of Renyi, so he knew the news very early. He was very supportive of Song Dandan to apply for the examination, and he also trusted the relationship and found many teachers for Song Dandan to train her.
Before this, Song Dandan had no acting experience, but this Beijing Renyi exam opened an incomparably bright window for her. She never thought she was so suitable to be an actress, as long as she was on the stage, as long as she faced the camera, she felt very right. She soon found a sense of success in Beijing Renyi. Among them, of course, yuan gang's credit is indispensable.
However, just when she was about to spread her wings in her career, her beloved Yuan Gang, who she thought she would love for a lifetime, was leaving.
The news that Yuan Gang was going to go abroad was not told to Song Dandan in advance. So when she overheard about it, she felt extremely shocked, like five thunderbolts. Later, Song Dandan said that what she cared about was not Yuan Gang going abroad, what she cared about was that he was going to go abroad, so why not talk to herself? She's the one to marry him!
When a person realizes that the person he loves has not planned his future into his life, what kind of blow and frustration should this be? Especially for the person who is wholeheartedly engaged in a relationship, what kind of harm should it be?
Song Dandan decisively proposed to break up. Even though her heart was dripping blood. But she had no way back. She felt that the only thing she could do was to maintain her dignity.
After the two broke up, Song Dandan of course still missed him and couldn't let go of him. In this case, many little girls may lean down to find him again. But Song Dandan no, even if she was reluctant in her heart and couldn't put it down, she also gritted her teeth and told herself that she couldn't turn back. She washed her face with tears every day, but she didn't want to give in.
In 1983, Yuan Gang went abroad, and Song Dandan felt that his sky was about to collapse.
Three
Marriage, for every woman, is a very important thing. Song Dandan is certainly no exception.
But maybe the failure of her first love hit her too hard, maybe she wanted to use marriage to heal her wounds, in short, in 1986, she and a man who had only been in love for 3 months entered the marriage hall. But it was clearly a sloppy marriage. Song Dandan still refuses to mention it. A year later, the two broke up, and no one knew the name of her first husband.
After that, Song Dandan was more cautious about love and marriage. During this period, many people pursued her and expressed their love to her, but they were all rejected by her. Because in her opinion, she hopes that the person who can enter her life in the future must be both talented and stable, and the most important thing is to have a sense of responsibility to the family.
This should also be the common idea of all women who have experienced pain, right?
It was in this situation that Indah walked into her sight.
Yingda, the son of Ying ruocheng, an older generation of performing artists and translators in China, was born in 1960. In 1983, just as Song Dandan and Yuan Gang broke up, he graduated from the Psychology Department of Peking University. He then went on to study abroad, and in 1987 he graduated from the Drama Department of the University of Missouri in the United States and entered the Beijing Renyi Work.
At that time, Song Dandan had already stood out from the young actors of Beijing Renyi by starring in the drama "Red and White Happy Event", the TV series "Looking for the World to Return" and the movie "Crescent Moon", etc., and won numerous awards and became a popular star. As a "turtle" who has just returned from abroad, Yingda is also in the stage of being full of spirit and full of talent. Both are excellent people, and it is perfectly normal to look at each other. And in Song Dandan's view, Yingda has no choice regardless of family lineage, knowledge and cognition of performance. In addition to the appearance is worse than Yuan Gang, the others are all worse than it, and the appearance is almost almost the same, what is the great? And you can't eat it as a meal.
In fact, before this, Indah had already had a marriage. His first wife was a classmate of Peking University, and the two later went abroad together, but when they returned home, Ying reached a person.
At the Spring Festival Gala in 1989, Song Dandan first appeared on the CCTV stage, and in the sketch "Lazy Man Blind Date", he appeared as a village girl with a bad eye, which was quite popular. On July 13 of the same year, she and Yingda registered their marriage at the Dongcheng District Subdistrict Office in Beijing. In 1990, when she participated in the CCTV New Year's Day party sketch "Super Life Guerrilla", she was already pregnant with her and Yingda's baby in her belly, that is, Yingbatu.
Yingda, Song Dandan, Andu, this family of three once had a very good and happy time. In those days, Song Dandan and Yingda's acting careers also developed by leaps and bounds. Song Dandan has successively starred in film and television dramas such as "Silly Manager", "Male and Female Director" (partnered with Zhao Benshan), "Good Man and Good Woman", and Yingda has also played roles in the film "The Last Nobleman" directed by Xie Jin and the TV series "Siege of the City" directed by Huang Shuqin. In 1992, they also starred in the TV series "Love You Are Not Negotiable", in which the cooperation between the two was also quite tacit.
In 1993, Yingda prepared to shoot the first sitcom "I Love My Home" in China, and the heroine He Ping played by him, of course, was not his wife Song Dandan.
Song Dandan fully demonstrated his talent for comedy performance in this play, and he was quite in place, and Yingda became famous for this play, and confirmed his status as the "godfather of sitcoms" in China.
But who would have expected that it was this "I Love My Family" that made their otherwise happy family fragmented.
Although "I Love My Home" is a work directed by Yingda and starring Song Dandan, members of another family in Beijing have also contributed a lot, that is, the Liang family. The family's parents are also celebrities, the father Fan Rongkang, formerly known as Liang Da, has served as a reporter for Chongqing's Xinhua Daily, a reporter for people's daily, an editor, director of the commentary department, deputy editor-in-chief, and an adjunct professor at the Graduate School of the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences. And the mother Chen Rong is more famous, pan Hong starred in the movie "Man to Middle Age", which was written by her. The Liang family has three sons and daughters, the eldest son Liang Zuo, the younger son Liang Tian, and a daughter named Liang Huan.
The main screenwriter of "I Love My Home" is the talented Liang Zuo, and Liang Huan is also one of the screenwriters. Liang Tian, on the other hand, joined in as the main actor and played Song Dandan's brother-in-law.
It is said that during the filming of "I Love My Home", Yingda and Liang Huan secretly had a love affair, and the two talked about everything, and they had the intention of meeting each other and hating each other.
When a person has a heart to belong to, it will naturally snub the people around him, and even produce a sense of boredom. Song Dandan soon became aware, and the two began to quarrel frequently. , a good home, every day is made of chickens and dogs jumping. In this case, she did a stupid thing, she met the fourth man in her life, and also had an extramarital affair.
However, that extramarital affair did not bring Song Dandan a sense of security. So she took the initiative to call Yingda and asked about his relationship with Liang Huan, but Yingda did not admit it. This made Song Dandan feel that this man did not have the responsibility he should have, so she filed for divorce. And Indah agreed almost without hesitation.
In 1997, the two divorced. Become a stranger ever since. Song Dandan was 35 years old.
Four
Less than two months after Yingda divorced Song Dandan, she married Liang Huan. His operation has been bombarded by many netizens as a "scumbag".
Song Dandan, on the other hand, was more miserable. Although the divorce was proposed by myself, once the marriage was really divorced, my heart was always empty. And the former extramarital lover could not bring her the warmth of the family, which made her even more sad. That was supposed to be another gray time in her life. The previous paragraph is when he broke up with Yuan Gang.
Fortunately, Song Dandan has many friends in the circle, including su Xiaoming and Zhang Shumo, who also became famous in the 80s. During Song Dandan's saddest period, these two good girlfriends took turns to accompany each other, reflecting the deep sisterhood. And women seem to be born to love to be matchmakers, especially when good sisters are single, it should be "shot when it is time to shoot". It was under such circumstances that Song Dandan met the fifth man in her life, Zhao Yuji, who had served as the general manager and vice chairman of the steel company, and was a low-key but dignified and successful person. He became Song Dandan's third husband.
Song Dandan registered his marriage on the 28th day of knowing Zhao Yuji. This seems to fit her style of doing things, acting decisively and vigorously. The day they got married was August 25, 1997, which happened to be Song Dandan's 36th birthday. I think that she chose this day, maybe she wants to throw away all the unpleasantness and start all over again?
In fact, Song Dandan's life has indeed entered a state of opening and hanging since then - she has become a regular visitor to the CCTV Spring Festival Gala, occupied the Spring Festival Gala stage for several consecutive years, and cooperated with Zhao Benshan to launch "Wife", "Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow", "Hourly Worker", "Telling Things", "Planning", "Torchbearer" and other popular sketches, becoming one of the best sketch queens in China.
In life, she is also extremely happy, spoiled by her husband, as if she has become a young girl again. Song Dandan, who has high emotional intelligence, not only gets along harmoniously with Zhao Yuji and the daughter of his ex-wife, but also becomes a good friend with Zhao Yuji's ex-wife Huang Tao.
On July 28, 2014, Song Dandan posted a photo of himself and her husband on his social platform, and wrote affectionately: I met him today seventeen years ago, and married him twenty-eight days later... Time flies, grateful for life!
Five
And to see if a woman is happy or not, not to look at anything else, to see her mental state is right. A woman who lives unsatisfactorily, her eyebrows are full of sorrow, and she cannot stretch her eyebrows and smile one by one. But Song Dandan is different, she lives easily and freely, even if she is more than half a hundred years old, she is still open-minded and frank, and maintains her true self. Whether it is in the film and television crew or on the scene of a variety show, as long as there is a place where she is, there will always be laughter, as long as there is a place where she is, as if there is always sunshine.
And all this is because she met the right person. Before with Yuan Gang, with Yingda, it was just an episode in life, right? Or is it all paving the way for this last happiness?
And I think that the 60-year-old Song Dandan can make people sincerely impressed, and another reason is that she has personally cultivated an excellent and good man - her son Batuu. This should be the most important person in her life, mother and son are connected, and most of her happiness comes from her son. She fulfilled her mission as a mother and was proud of it.
Batuu was very naughty when he was young, and as a "black sheep" in the class, he once made Song Dandan feel very nervous. But Song Dandan is very methodical, she is very supportive of Batuu's hobby, but she does not tolerate Batuu's errors of principle. Batuu tells you one thing about in this issue of Aces to Aces. When he was a child, he once went to his uncle's house to play, and he took a set of stereos in his hand, and when Song Dandan knew about it, he sternly told Batuu that this was absolutely not something to do. I think it was Song Dandan's kindness and sincerity that gave Batu the best way to teach him, making him a man with a sense of justice and responsibility and a sense of filial piety.
In the show "Ace to Ace", we see that Batuu looks at his mother's eyes, always full of love, and I think this is the result of Song Dandan's cultivation.
Song Dandan said that the best work of her life, one is the characters she has created, and the other is Batuu.
When Batuu pushed the elaborate cake onto the stage and sincerely wished his mother a happy retirement, Song Dandan cried with joy.
Today's Song Dandan really wants the wind to be windy, the rain to be rainy, and to live incomparably moist. And what is the cost of this happiness? I think the most important thing is that she has not given up on herself for so many years. Even though she had met five men in her life, six if batuu had been added, and had been married three times, she had never given up her obsessive pursuit of her career. And her career development is no worse than any of these men.
A woman who is strong in her inner self will eventually be respected. And a woman who can live a more exquisite life will definitely gain the favor of a good man. I think Song Dandan is a good example of this.
So I keep saying that maybe marriage is very important for a woman, but definitely not the only one. In marriage, a woman must first live a quality, live a quality, and live attractively, in order to make the feeling of happiness more long. And a woman who pins everything on a man, the usual fate, is to be rejected. Therefore, women, living out their own style, is the last word.
This article is original by DJ Yaqing, please do not copy without permission! Violators will be prosecuted!
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