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Money is a test stone.
Whoever has you in their heart, borrow money once to know.
Therefore, do not borrow money from relatives and friends until you have to.
What cannot withstand the test is the human heart, and the most elusive is human nature. Most of those who test people's hearts are chilled.
Of course, if someone borrows money from you, you either refuse or agree bitterly, don't grind.
Of course, the money, lent out, just "don't rush it."
02
Not to "urge" is to save face.
The writer Sanmao once said: "Don't have money with friends, don't lend money to friends, if you lend money to others, just like Mr. Hu Shi, if I borrow it, I don't ask for it." ”
In 1919, Lin Yutang borrowed money from Hu Shi, who was teaching at Peking University.
Lin Yutang wrote: "Can my brother guarantee that others will borrow 1,000 US dollars and return it with my schoolwork?" ”
Later, Lin Yutang achieved success in his studies, and in life, he slowly got out of trouble. When he was ready to repay the money, he found that hu shi had never told outsiders about the money he had lent him, nor did he intend to urge it.
A person is not depressed to a certain point, and he will not open his mouth to borrow money. If someone else asks you to borrow money, you are mostly poor to the limit. If you urge others to pay back the money, others can't afford it, and the scene is very embarrassing.
Those who have a conscience, even if they do not urge, will take the initiative to repay the money. In case he can't afford it for the rest of his life, at least this kindness is still there, and he will remember your goodness.
Borrow money, and from the very beginning, you have to have a "charity" mentality. Whether the other party pays back the money or not, you must "resign yourself", and everything is left to the other party, that is, you give up the initiative to collect debts.
"People want faces, trees want bark", most people, they want faces.
Because of the borrowing money to make a face, there are really a lot of things.
One of my cousins, the year before, borrowed two thousand yuan from my aunt because his father was hospitalized.
My aunt's family needed to spend money to build a new house, so I urged my cousin to pay it back as soon as possible. At that time, my cousin was in Dongguan and lost his job.
When my cousin received a call to collect debts, he immediately said, "Auntie, I am an unemployed person, and you asked me for money. ”
The cousin's words made the relationship between the two sides freeze suddenly. At the Time of the New Year, the cousin did not go to the aunt's house to pay respects to the New Year, and it seemed that the two families had "formed a vendetta".
In fact, the cousin has the intention of repaying the money, but he has more than enough and insufficient strength. The face of the poor is also the face, but he has no way to "save it."
If a person has a good heart, then he will definitely find a way to repay the money. You won't ask a good person for money, he'll appreciate you and feel guilty inside.
03
Those who borrow money and do not repay it, it is useless to urge.
Those who have no conscience, you go to ask for money, no doubt to "touch a nose of ash".
In these years, there are always some people, when borrowing money, they are very well-behaved and can say a basket of good words. But when the money arrived, he immediately turned his face or hid, and no one could contact him.
If you ask him for money, he is more high-profile than you are, making you "flatter" him.
For people who borrow money and don't pay it back, you insist on collecting debts, and once you go, you will be uncomfortable once and hurt yourself.
In the early years, our family lived in the countryside.
The neighbor's child is going to Dongguan to work, and there is no travel fee. When my mother heard about it, she took two hundred dollars and gave it to him.
My father was very angry: "Their family, in the village is famous Lao Lai, when did they see him pay back to others?" You also lent him money, really less than a tendon. ”
As the saying goes, "Borrow from the anxious, do not borrow the poor." ”
There is nothing wrong with the mother's approach. After all, when borrowing money, the neighbor's family is also "poor in donkey skills".
After three or four years, the neighbors have not paid back.
The mother did not care, but the father was very angry, and scolded: "The person who borrows money and does not repay it should take the money to buy medicine to eat." ”
My father's words were hard to hear, and they quickly reached the ears of my neighbors. Since then, the relationship between the two families has become more and more frozen. It wasn't until my family moved to the county town that it was peaceful.
For the sake of an old lai, you have been angry for several years, is it necessary?
Ask the heavens and the earth, ask the conscience. You lend money to others, that is your good deed, others will not pay back, that is someone else's business, believe in their hearts, is "a thief with a weak heart", life will not be peaceful.
As the old saying goes, "Peace of mind is bliss." ”
How can a person who borrows money and does not repay it be happy? He has not paid back the money, you have been making him uneasy. Perhaps, evil has evil retribution, and he himself will be punished by God.
04
Debt repayment is a matter of course.
Of course, not urging the money to be lent out is not the same as "aiding and abetting abuse."
It must not encourage unhealthy practices in society.
In the Tang Dynasty, those who borrowed money and did not repay it, as long as the borrowed money exceeded the price of a piece of cloth, they would be beaten twenty times. If you continue not to pay back, you will add sixty boards and slowly double.
Since ancient times, there has always been a corresponding way to deal with those who borrow money and do not repay it.
Therefore, those who maliciously owe money, you should take up the legal weapon and make him bow his head. Since he is unkind and unjust, why should you be kind to him?
When it's time to turn the other cheek, you still have to turn the other cheek. However, you don't take this matter too seriously, otherwise it will become a heart disease. Think about it, your heart disease, is it "spending money" to buy, how cost-effective?
Comfort yourself with words like "borrowed money, spilled water" to comfort yourself, in order to have a good attitude, so as not to be angry.
Sanmao also said: Pay money, and the things you buy will not be equivalent. The spirit of giving, the money earned is not worth it. Borrowing money from others always wants the other party to give generously. Most of the people who return their debts are distressed and unhappy. ”
Borrowing money and wanting to borrow more, and repaying money and wanting to play tricks seems to be the "selfishness" of the poor.
People with real poor families, you help him, whether he repays the money on time or not, this grace is still there; those who are poor, you lend him money, no doubt "meat bun beats the dog, there is no return."
Borrow money to look at character, and pay back money to see conscience.
Borrowing and borrowing to become a vendetta, why bother?
Since you are willing to lend money to others, you are willing to fight and a wish to be beaten.
Don't rush until you have to, so as not to be sad.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
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