"A Different Sky": What is a man's sense of responsibility?

What exactly is a man's sense of responsibility?

I once talked about this topic with a man from 96 years, his parents divorced when he was still in the womb, because his father cheated, and his mother had been angry about it to prevent him from having any contact with his biological father, until after graduating from college, he got his father's WeChat from his aunt and began a monthly underground party meeting between father and son.

He said that he did not know what his father's role was in the family since he was a child, his mother's accounting skills were very narrow and he had not remarried, and in his mother's eyes, his father was a cheating bastard, a man with no sense of responsibility at all.

In the family, the mother is the existence of the dual role of father and mother, and she is strong enough to suffocate him often, but he has not found a better way to communicate at present. And the role of the father is seriously missing in his 24 years of life, the father, to him, is a code name, does not represent any meaning, the current father is at most a man who gives some money every time they meet, and is hated by his mother.

He's been in a relationship a dozen times in 24 years, but each time it ends in vain, and he tries to talk to his exs about why, and the most answer he gets is, you don't have a sense of responsibility.

What is a man's sense of responsibility?

Perhaps some answers can be found in director Russ Holstrom's 1993 "Different Skies", the male protagonist Gilbert.

"A Different Sky" is a movie that deserves to be felt slowly with heart.

Take responsibility for the family and don't pick a fight

The mother chose to be autistic because of the stimulation of her father's suicide, stayed at home all day, her weight soared, from the original beauty to a bloated and fat, the size was like a whale, she collapsed on the sofa in the living room all day, everything needed the help of the children to complete, eating to move the dinner table next to her, completely lost the ability to take care of herself, not to mention expecting to go out to earn money to support the family.

His younger brother, Yali, was a low-energy child who was declared by doctors to live only to be ten years old, and although he lived to be eighteen, he was a child who would die at any time. There is no sense of danger like to climb into the clouds and fall down the tower that will undoubtedly die; moody, angry will frantically hit his own head; self-care ability is zero, eighteen-year-old bathing needs the help of the male protagonist; Yali is a three-year-old child who needs to be watched all the time, and the male protagonist Gilbert must be taken with him when he works, let alone let him earn money to support the family.

The younger sister is a child who has not yet grown up, in the rebellious period of youth, in addition to the stinky beauty is to resist, part-time work can alleviate the financial burden of the family, but taking care of the mother and brother is no play.

In this family, the male protagonist's helper is only his sister, who is the only pillar in the family, and he has to worry about everything.

And he himself is just a boy who still needs to take care of himself.

Respect each member of the family, do not abandon and do not give up

In addition to the financial pressure, the most fatal thing is that this family is too inattentive.

Mother is so fat that she is treated as a monster, children will open the door to visit her huge body, and she herself is also very inferior in her heart, unwilling to go out, see people, very afraid of different eyes.

The male protagonist rarely mentions his mother to strangers, not because he feels that his mother is humiliating himself, but that he is caring for his mother's self-esteem.

When anything happens to the family, the male protagonist will rush to the front line, even if the younger brother climbs the tower and is detained by the police and needs adults to come forward, he will rush to the first place and try to let his mother stay at home.

He respected his mother from the bottom of his heart, and his mother died in the second-floor bedroom of the family, because the size was too large, he needed a crane to carry the body, in order to avoid being watched and discussed by people after his mother's death, the male owner decided to burn down the house and let the mother go decently.

Younger brother Yali has low intelligence, will not express his true thoughts, even if he is bullied, he will not fight back, the male protagonist told his brother, if someone hits you, you will come to me, I will solve. He would accompany his brother to hide and cat, to soothe him when he was crying and emotionally unstable.

He never wanted to give up on his mother and brother.

Because they are family.

The male protagonist's wish list is all for the family

The female protagonist asks what is the ideal of the male protagonist?

The male protagonist answered: First, build a new house for the family, and the current house is so bad that it can no longer be repaired.

The second is to hope that the mother can dance the gymnastics and be healthier.

The third is to hope that my sister will grow up soon.

The fourth is to hope that his younger brother Yali will not be like this anymore, and his illness can get better.

And I just want to be a good person.

No one gives the male protagonist a good example for a man, he has no example to follow, but when the burden of life comes, he does not choose to escape like his brother and father, and he walks away; when love comes, he can also withstand the temptation, or choose home; he does not complain about the world, although there are also times when he is breathless.

The female neighbor said that the male protagonist was the kind of man who said, "I know you must be there, I know you will never leave the man." ”

This may be the greatest manifestation of men's sense of responsibility.