A Different Sky gives up on ourselves or regains a new life depends on the people and things we meet
We will always meet many people and things in our lives, and these people and things determine the direction of our lives, some to fall into darkness, and some to new life to light. No matter where we go, they are inseparable from our encounters, some of which are our own choices, and some of which are predestined and which we can only accept. Whether we are destined or choose to meet us, we cannot change others or the environment, only ourselves.
We can not choose to meet the family and family, whether they are rich and poor, true good and evil, plain or interesting to meet can only accept, maybe we can turn poverty into happiness, evil into true and good, plain into interesting, but this requires a lot of insight and effort, whether these conditions can be achieved depends on our new encounters, many times can change the direction of our lives is often the person or thing we inadvertently meet, some of them give us direction, some give us help, some give examples, some give hope, In short, such an encounter is our luck.
Most encounters in life are our own choices, but it does not mean that the encounters we choose are ideal, even if we choose to be ideal, many of them will become imperfect over time. Such an encounter cannot change others in the same way, only ourselves can change. Like what kind of object we choose to marry, what kind of profession to do what kind of work is our own choice of encounters, but looking at the divorce rate and the happiness of each family, we will find that the meeting we choose is also less and more unsatisfactory.
Gilbert could not choose his own family and family, he could only accept, had to work hard to support his mother, take care of the mentally handicapped brother and rebellious sister, he could not leave his family one step, the pressure of life had long made him forget his dreams, forget himself, wake up every morning only his mother, younger brothers and sisters, and perhaps the mistress who did not love. Although he is young, he has become numb, indifferent to his mother's obesity, and his brother is on the verge of collapse, and may be only a small step away from his own depravity.
Gilbert's father did not appear in the play, my personal point of view in the play has been obviously implied, his father and the husband who sold insurance slipped into the abyss because of the encounter he chose, his father and the uncle who sold insurance met a beautiful wife, it was this encounter that brought them into the darkness, they could not bear the pain and shame of their own encounter, and could not let go of this pain and shame, only to choose to go to the darkness. Gilbert's mother, too, could not face her husband's death and the pressure of life, and chose to indulge herself and let herself slide into the darkness.
Gilbert was luckier than them, he met Becky on the verge of collapse, Becky was attracted by his care for his brother, and he was yearning for Becky's attitude to life, she was like a free bird, carefree in the sky, no worldly bondage, no anxiety about the future of the past, full of wisdom and kindness, patience and courage. She did not dislike the mentally handicapped Yali, but patiently guided him to overcome his fear of water. There was no ridicule for the fat old mother, only sympathy and understanding, a word from each other: I was not like this before. Let us know that the person who slides into the darkness is not useless, and she has also had hopes and dreams and even pride. And the glowing she once had unbearable and dark, only because of the encounters are different, some go to the dark, some get a new life to go to the light. Just like Gilbert, Becky's appearance made him think about himself and let him see the problems he could not solve with violence, but Becky easily solved them with love and patience, and Becky's comfort to her mother also made him more understanding and tolerant of her mother, and aroused her love for her mother. Only because he met Becky was he able to wipe away the dark clouds and usher in a different sky.
I don't know how many books to read, how many roads to walk, how many people and things to meet to become a person like Becky, who has no sun on him, but can shine and warm those who hide in the darkness.