Idle turned over the "Golden Powder Family", watching TV dramas or things when I was a child, unconsciously blinking my eyes for many years.
For the plot of the TV series has been very vague, only remember the few starring people, and the general plot.
Because I don't remember the plot of the TV series, when I read the novel, I don't know the detailed plot at all, and it looks very fresh.
There are many characters in the book that people can't help but want to discuss, and the most discussed is Jin Quan, the old man of the Jin family.
Old Master Jin is the top pillar of the Jin family, and it is he who supports the young masters of the Jin family to spend days and nights, and it is he who can sound and color dogs and horses.
The Jin family has always been a strict father and mother, and as long as Jin Quan sits there, several sons of the Jin family have to accompany 120,000 people to be careful.
Jin Quan is the premier of the State Council, and his wealth and power are enough to make everyone look up to him, but none of his sons can handle it.
Old Master Jin is not only the pillar of the Jin family, but also the most understanding person of the Jin family.
When Yanxi wanted to marry Qingqiu, when it came time to open the level of Jin Quan, Jin Quan only looked at Qingqiu's poems and photos, and guessed the beginning and end of Yanxi and Qingqiu's love.
As soon as he thought about it, he knew that his son saw that Qingqiu's temperament was outstanding, and he fell in love at first sight, so he tried to get close to Qingqiu, and in order to know Qingqiu, he did not hesitate to spend money to rent a house and be a neighbor with others.
Old Master Jin saw it very clearly, he felt that although Qingqiu was good, it was a pity to marry Yanxi, so a talented woman could not withstand the temptation of a stupid child, and she was also a woman who was not sober enough.
This golden old man is really cute, not to help his son sneak a smile, in turn hate other people's good girls by their own pigs arched.
Obviously, he looks like he is in a good mood, but he knows everything that the family has done.
The eldest son, Feng Ju, rented a house outside, married an aunt, and lived his own little life, and when the East Window incident was impossible, he begged Jin Quan's aunt Cui Aunt to say good things for him.
Aunt Cui's tongue can be said that the head is the Tao, but Jin Quan does not say much harshly, only asking Feng Ju what benefits fengju has given her and asks her to intercede.
There is only honesty to get along with such a smart person, and no one wants to be weird under his eyes, so if Jin Quan has been there, the Jin family will always be stable.
Old Master Jin's understanding is even more reflected in the fact that he knows that his sons are all goods that only know how to play and play outside with their own faces.
Once something big happens, no son is the one who can resist it.
It is reasonable to say that what parents should do is to become a good person, good enough to be an example for their children, so that children can be proud of it, so that they have the direction to catch up.
Mr. Jin is good enough, he has also stayed in the ocean, he also has a broad enough vision, people are kind, and the family style he has established is generally good, enough to become the pride and example of his children.
Cruelly, it is not enough to work your own.
Behind every good child is the parents' hard work.
The most valuable and indispensable quality of a child is independence.
Mr. Jin understands independence as letting go and letting children grow freely.
I can understand The kind of thinking of Mr. Jin, one is that he is really too busy and too tired, and the premier of the State Council cannot manage the acres and three-quarters of his family all day, in addition to work and socializing, he also has to deal with various complicated relationships. There are so many children, one by one, to educate in person, and they really don't have the energy and time.
Second, there are not too many requirements and expectations for children, he feels that he has worked so hard for his children, he will not need children to come out alone for a while and a half, everything still has time, with life experience and age, they will always grow up on their own.
He didn't ask much of his children, and he didn't expect them to achieve more than himself. In the future, even if it is not as good as themselves, there is no big mistake in the character of several children, and compared with other ordinary people's families, it is already enough to eat and wear.
Therefore, although he was broad-sighted and powerful, his sons were more useless than the other.
There is no standard answer for parents, and each child has different personalities and different education methods, so the older generation will always say: having children is not a master, and teaching children is a master.
Some parents struggle to lift their heads, thinking that if they do not work hard, their children will not be able to catch up, and once they are thrown down, the gap will become wider and wider, and their anxiety will make their children anxious, and adults and children will be tired.
Some parents feel that their children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, whether they will read is innate, as long as the big things are not wrong, do not endanger the society, the Buddhist system is scattered to let the children grow freely, raise a body of problems.
In the beginning of man, nature is good.
A child is born like a blank piece of paper, and deciding what color to paint on that paper depends on the guidance of parents.
Although there is no standard answer for parenting, we must hope that our children will have a good life in the future after we become parents.
Although there is no standard answer for living well, we must not want our children to grow up and not be able to feed themselves.
Life is so cruel, we certainly don't want the wind and waves to hit our children on the ground and rub them, afraid that the children will not even have the strength to fight back.
It is not okay to ask the child for nothing, and it is even more impossible to ask too much of the child.
If there is no requirement for the child, everything is left to him to grow freely, and there may be deviations in the future in the child's right and wrong.
Too many requirements for children, everything must be disciplined, so that children and adults both have a hard time, not to say, children can not bear things.
We are first ourselves, then the parents of our children. If you want to cultivate excellent children, you must first become an excellent person.
The cruelest truth about parenthood is that when you are good enough, you have to squeeze out more precious time to accompany and guide your children.
Excellent parents are a warm lamp, always illuminating the way forward for children, when the children are young, we guide in the front, and when the children grow up, we watch from behind.
"The Golden Powder Family" and "Dream of the Red Chamber" are somewhat similar, and the interpretation is a prosperous end.
Jin Quan and everyone in the Jin family probably did not expect that death would come so suddenly, Jin Quan knew that his sons were not up to the task, the women of the Jin family also knew that these young masters could not support the portal, and several young masters also knew that Jin Quan was the jin family's dependence.
Everyone thought that coming to Japan was long, but in addition to the long days, there were many caught off guard.
The people who can catch these caught off guard are those who are independent and have experienced the wind and waves.
These young masters of the Jin family had not experienced the storms alone, so the sudden death of Jin Quan, several young masters had to stand up hard, and even the funeral was done in a hurry, and it was not strange that after Jin Quan's death, those who had been stubborn in the past immediately turned their faces and were ruthless.
Assuming that even if there is a young master in the Jin family who is capable, others do not dare to underestimate the Jin family without Jin Quan.
Since we love our children, we should understand that we cannot hold an umbrella for our children for a lifetime, and what we can do is to teach him to learn to hold umbrellas on his own as soon as possible.
Behind every excellent child must be the parents' hard work, no matter how high your achievements, will not be directly inherited to the child, what we have to do is to familiarize ourselves with the road first, and then guide the child to go.