Originally published in China Youth Magazine, No. 18, 2021
"How cool it is to work in a small city" has once again become a hot topic.
Time flies so fast that in the blink of an eye we bid farewell to the university campus and make key decisions that will determine the future. In the blink of an eye, we are floating and sinking on the sea of life, a few are enviable, and a few things are contrary to wishes. But the growth of people can not be summed up only by a "cool", sour, sweet and bitter, hidden in the thick cocoon that only we know.
No matter which city or industry you choose, no matter what stage of your life you are in, when you encounter problems and then solve them, we are on both sides of the river, looking at each other, and our hearts are far away.
Is your obsession an obstacle?
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When I graduated in 2016, compared with other students who were still struggling with work and a way out, I had already signed the three parties, and I only needed to get the double certificate step by step and return to my hometown to honestly join the job.
For the two factions of "going out to work" and "going home to develop", I actually prefer the latter. There are two reasons for this, one is that I have a stable social circle in my hometown, and if I want to completely open up a territory in a new field, I am very resistant in my heart. Second, there is no "unattainable" house price in the hometown.
The desire to "be able to develop in Nanning" was broken because I was assigned to work in Qinzhou, a hundred kilometers away from Nanning. I thought that I could "go home" after two or three years, but it is still far away, and the "goal" has become a vision, and finally it has become an obsession.
In the past five years of work, because of the nature of the work, the change of the work location is commonplace, Qinzhou, Beihai, Fangchenggang these coastal cities, I am basically a regular customer, plus now the railway transportation is developed, playing a "moving drop" is a routine operation.
During my work, I also actively performed and fought for the honor of the unit, but for various reasons, when I wanted to "go further" in the workplace, I always had a little meaning. I don't have that mentality of not meeting talents, but I bought my own house in Nanning, and when I go home every weekend, I count the car, subway ride and other distances, which is enough for me to play a script to kill.
"Returning to Nanning" became my obsession. Over the years, my parents saw me tossing and turning back and forth so hard, and once advised me: "If you don't find someone to settle down in Qinzhou, it is not a matter of running around all the time." "Maybe I've been really tired of running these past few years. When I first joined the company, I vowed to make some achievements, but now I feel that it is good to let go of this obsession and settle down with the encounter.
After the Spring Festival in 2021, I was transferred to the office to assist in the work, and I fell into mental anxiety under the high-intensity work rhythm every day, coupled with lack of sleep, and for a time my whole person was in a state of collapse. Friends say, "You now feel unkind." ”
I wanted to return to my original post in July to "get out of the sea of suffering", and I also made a small short-term plan in advance. However, a notice pushed my small plan over and over again--my superiors told me to hurry up and go through the business trip procedures and leave for Beijing in two days to study and report.
A week before receiving the notice, the leader asked me if I would like to have the opportunity to study in Beijing for three months. In fact, I was very confused in my heart at that time, if it was before, I faced such an opportunity, I must agree without saying a word, even if I need to post money to go out, I am willing. But the longer you participate in the work, not only does it smooth out the sharpness, but it also wears out the enthusiasm.
I know in my heart that of course it is a good thing to go, but after I go, if something happens in the middle and I miss it, then isn't it worth the loss? When I was hesitating, I called the elders of the family and spoke out my concerns and the "pros and cons" I considered.
"Young people, don't care too much about gains and losses, instead of grasping uncertain things, it is better to grasp what you can grasp." 」 The words of the elders made me feel like a ship lost in navigation and met a lighthouse. Instead of staying at sea for the "treasure of legend", discover a new continent through a lighthouse.
After being civilized by my elders, I actively prepared relevant materials. Finally, with my efforts, the superior leaders sent me to Beijing. After learning the news of going to Beijing, many friends around me congratulated me, and I also joked: "Hey, we are also 'Drifting North'." ”
In order to "return to Nanning" this goal, my vision is gradually limited, missed a lot of wonderful life, I actually do not have to be so tired, just because I can't put it down.
Just like the words of the elders, the road of life is still very long, and the things that cannot be grasped can only be called obsessions, and these obsessions make people fall into a situation of torment and difficult to break through for a long time. It is good to break through, if not, then it will only continue to consume its own will and heart, and finally it can only be forced to "lie flat".
Maybe by letting go of attachment, we can suddenly be enlightened, fade away from obsession, and many things will be opened. The current life is also very exciting, and your shore may be the other shore of many people.
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