In love, we should think differently
Wu Qin and Zhuo Fan were college classmates, the two came together because of a debate competition, graduated and stayed in the same city to work, and unconsciously a few years passed.
In Wu Qin's heart, marriage is already a natural thing, watching the girlfriends around her put on the wedding dress one by one, and Zhuo Fan seems to be indifferent all the time, Wu Qin inadvertently said to Zhuo Fan one day: "Let's get married" What was unexpected was that Zhuo Fan did not think about it and refused.
Wu Qin had more confusion than shock and anger, why? He was different from what he thought. Did he have someone else, but after a period of investigation, this situation did not exist.
Maybe he is committed to a career in order to provide himself with a good life, Wu Qin comforted herself, and said it later. Unexpectedly, two years later they broke up.
In this failed relationship, the girl failed to empathize. In love, we think that men and what we think and want are the same, fall in love, and after a long time, we will have a deep dependence, and when the love is strong, we will consider being together for a lifetime, and naturally enter the palace of marriage.
In fact, men and women are very different individuals, and how can we use women's way of thinking to speculate on men's behavior and psychology?
Women are emotional, marriage will make women feel secure, a sense of belonging, and means to be affirmed and appreciated by men, feeling that it is a source of happiness.
Men like a free state of life and do not want to be controlled by anyone, marriage is undoubtedly a greater responsibility for them, this responsibility is a load in men's eyes, this burden is more huge because of the constraints of marriage.
Men always think that better is next, and they don't want to stop there for the sake of the better.
The American humorist James Shelbah wrote that whenever a man was engaged to him, he would think that if he could wait another 24 hours, he might find the ideal woman.
For men to fall in love is not a happy thing, for marriage is sometimes just a helpless, so try to commit, and then indefinitely delay the commitment.
If women can think differently in love, they can hint or explicitly indicate that men should enter the marriage hall at the right time in their opinion. If the other person has been pretending to be deaf and dumb, women should learn to let go, even if the loss is stopped.
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