Liu Peiqiang chatted with his father.
Liu Peiqiang wiped the potion for his father's legs and feet.
It is said that the daughter is the father's "intimate cotton jacket". But for the 84-year-old Liu Shuncai, his 56-year-old son Liu Peiqiang is his "intimate cotton jacket". After a stroke 12 years ago, Liu Shuncai was paralyzed in bed, and he also suffered from Alzheimer's disease, and even his son did not know.
Since then, Liu Peiqiang has eaten and lived with his father, taken care of his father for 12 years, and has not fallen a day, nor has he ever complained. Liu Peiqiang's neighbors saw him doing the work of carrying and pouring urine every day from morning to night, and they all gave him a thumbs up. What is less well known is that Liu Peiqiang is also an entrepreneur and collector who runs 6 catering companies. Why not ask a nanny to take care of the father on your behalf? Liu Peiqiang said that it is a matter of course for children to honor their parents, and it is not at ease to ask the nanny to be at ease. "I used to teach my children to be filial, and now I have to make a show." Liu Peiqiang said with a smile.
Text, photo/Guangzhou Daily all-media reporter Xiao Huanhuan Intern Li Yuanmeng
At 8:00 a.m., when the reporter came to Liu Peiqiang's home, he had already cooked a lean porridge of skin eggs for his father. Although Liu Shuncai, who is in a wheelchair, cannot move, his face is rosy. In order to let his father drink a bowl of hot porridge, Liu Peiqiang often had to get up at 6 a.m. to prepare breakfast, and he has maintained this habit for many years.
My father suffered a stroke and was paralyzed
He became a "caring cotton jacket" to double care
Liu Shuncai, an 84-year-old man, fell into a stroke one day in 2009, when his wife Chen Juan was cooking downstairs, he shouted his name several times without a response. Chen Juan hurriedly ran to the roof and found Liu Shuncai lying on the ground, unable to speak, and not very conscious. Although after hospital rescue, Liu Shuncai recovered some consciousness, but because of the brain damage caused by severe ischemic hypoxic cell necrosis, Liu Shuncai's spirit became significantly worse.
At that time, Liu Peiqiang was very sad. The steely father of the past seemed to have completely changed after a serious illness. Since that stroke, Liu Shuncai not only has a poor memory, but also a sharp decline in language expression. He often couldn't remember whether he had eaten breakfast, brushed his teeth, gone to the toilet, and even his children began to recognize him. "I used to tease him and ask 'Who am I?' But my father couldn't say his name, and when he was in a little better spirits, he would remember me as another child's name. "It was then that the children realized that it was impossible for the father to return to the state of sobriety he had been in.
Although others do not understand what his father is saying, Liu Peiqiang, who is with his father every day, can understand. "I spend time with him every day, and of course I understand his mind." Liu Peiqiang smiled and said that he felt honored to be his father's "translator".
Although Liu Shuncai did not have much consciousness now, even if he was basking in the sun in the courtyard, he could not leave the people next to him. In addition to the full-body muscle massage, Liu Peiqiang also had to pinch the time to feed his father water and food. Before each feeding, Liu Peiqiang first fixed his father to a wheelchair, and then moved a small table to feed his father a mouthful of food with moderate temperature consistency. Because my father could only eat a little at a time, feeding a meal as short as half an hour and as long as more than an hour, and feeding several times a day.
"Sometimes, I ask him to open his mouth, but his mouth is motionless, and when I feed it, it will be spilled everywhere, and then I will wrap an apron around him like a child to prevent his clothes from getting dirty. Sometimes, I laugh and say to him, 'Old Bean, you're back to old age now.' He smiled happily, not knowing whether he understood my words or saw me laughing, and he laughed along with them. ”
Nowadays, Liu Shuncai is inseparable from people for 24 hours, and in order to take care of his father, Liu Peiqiang moved to live next to his father. Every night he had to wait until his father was asleep before he could find time to do his own thing. As soon as his father moved slightly at night, he would get up and check it out.
Liu Peiqiang laughed and said that he was his father's "nutritionist". Because his father has been paralyzed in bed for a long time, affecting digestion, in order to supplement nutrition for his father, he always finds ways to carefully prepare his father's three meals a day, eat vegetables today, eat fish tomorrow, and eat meat the day after tomorrow. Change the pattern every day. His father's teeth were not good, So Liu Peiqiang chopped vegetables and meat and cooked porridge for him to eat, and even the fish meat was all picked and fed one bite at a time. "Someone told me that you just let him eat less at each meal, so that he can urinate less often every day." I said, how can I make my father run out of food for the sake of my own efforts? ”
On the balcony of Liu Peiqiang's home, there are folds everywhere to dry and prepared diapers, due to the old man's incontinence, sometimes just changed his clothes and immediately pulled again, Liu Peiqiang always patiently scrubbed his father's body over and over again. Seeing her son's hardships, her mother Chen Juan was a little distressed. "He's in his 50s and already has a lot of gray hair." Chen Juan choked up.
In recent days, due to the sudden drop in temperature, Liu Peiqiang's task of changing his father's clothes is extremely heavy, and at the end of the day, his father has to change his clothes and pants six or seven times, and these clothes are washed one by one and dried and dried, which has become an important part of Liu Peiqiang's daily work. This small home of more than 50 square meters looks clean and tidy, and there is no smell at all. But because he stayed up late for a long time and had to help his father wash his clothes and wipe his body, Liu Peiqiang not only grew white hair on his sideburns, but his hands also became rough.
People who have been bedridden will have long bubbles if they do not clean their skin every day, and their bodies will have bedsores after a long time, but Liu Shuncai's body is well maintained. Behind this is Liu Peiqiang's "intimate cotton jacket" who takes meticulous care of his father.
To take better care of the father
He put the business in the hands of others
In order to take better care of his father, Liu Peiqiang also took the initiative to learn some traditional Chinese medicine rehabilitation knowledge, he specifically learned moxibustion, sometimes some parts of his father's body appeared red and swollen, or his father "babbled" pointing to a certain place in the body, Liu Peiqiang understood that a certain part of his father's body was sore, and he would take moxa for his father. Now, every night, he has to turn over for his father every two hours.
In front of his father, Liu Peiqiang is like half a doctor: back patting, sputum removal, moxibustion, as long as it is related to his father's rehabilitation, he takes the initiative to learn. The blood circulation in his father's legs is not smooth, Liu Peiqiang massages his father's legs every day, and his father's legs have red rashes, and Liu Peiqiang will take the ointment every day to apply it to his father.
As long as the weather allows, Liu Peiqiang will pick up his father to the yard to bask in the sun and breathe fresh air. Her mother, Chen Juan, is also 85 years old this year, her body is relatively weak, and she herself has a variety of geriatric diseases that need to be taken care of, so she does not have the energy to take care of her wife.
In order to take care of his father wholeheartedly, Liu Peiqiang made great sacrifices. In fact, he is an entrepreneur who runs 6 companies and is also a jade collector. But for the sake of his father, Liu Peiqiang has now resigned from the position of general manager and handed over these enterprises to others. Since he moved in with his father, the time spent with his wife and children has also been greatly reduced, which makes him feel guilty. "Thanks to my wife understanding my choice."
Liu Peiqiang said frankly that when he decided to hand over the company to others to take care of, he hesitated for a long time. "I'm not yet 60 years old this year, and it's the age of energy for people who run a business, but my brother and sister, who also have their own families to take care of, can only come to visit occasionally, think about it, take care of my father or I myself to do better." 」
Why not hire a nanny to take care of the father full-time? Liu Peiqiang admitted that he had also invited several nannies before, but he felt that the care effect was not ideal. "No matter how well the nanny takes care of her, she is certainly not as careful as her own son, or she is more accustomed to taking care of her children."
Liu Peiqiang said that respecting the elderly and loving the old is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and he has only done what a son should do. Nothing to brag about. My parents grew up with a handful of and a handful of urine, and now he is paralyzed, and I honor him as a matter of course.
The sentient "Uncle Liu"
Tell Cantonese jokes to make my father happy
After more than ten consecutive years of caring for his father who was paralyzed in bed, Liu Peiqiang also summed up the secret of making his father happy. One of his secrets was to tell his father stories and jokes about his childhood in Cantonese. "Whether or not father understands it, tell him about it." Sometimes he laughs and doesn't know if he understands it. ”
In Liu Peiqiang's memory, his father was particularly harsh on several of his children, especially to him. "Because I was a little naughty since I was a child, sometimes when my father was angry, he would beat me up. But every time he hit me, he would be very upset. Ask me 'Does it hurt?' And coax me with something delicious." In Liu Peiqiang's eyes, although his father was strict, he now recalls that he is full of love. He said that his father had been a soldier, had been diligent all his life, and had always been a moral model in his eyes.
In order to take better care of his father, Liu Peiqiang has never traveled for 12 years. Sometimes because work requires socializing, he will definitely rush back to his father before 9 p.m. "Because my father used to bathing him every night at 9 o'clock. Although he may not recognize me as his son, he understands that the person in front of him must be very close to him. When Liu Peiqiang is mentioned, the residents of the community will sincerely sigh: "This Uncle Liu is really filial piety, with affection and righteousness!" ”
Liu Peiqiang said that perhaps in the eyes of others, it is a difficult thing to take care of his father who suffers from Alzheimer's disease and is paralyzed for more than a decade, but he has long been accustomed to such a life. "It's a blessing to have an octogenarian father by his side, and a son to be able to take care of him every day." Liu Peiqiang said.