More and more do not understand what politeness is all about. As a courtesy, sometimes we say to people, "I'm free to go to tea."
As soon as I said it casually, the topic changed, every day was very idle, and there was no time, and when I had time, I thought: "Is it worth going?" In the end, I still reluctantly socialized, and I felt that it was not interesting.
Therefore, the phrase "have time to drink tea" will be said less in the future. If you don't have the heart, what do you say? Find your own bitter food. It's like everyone rushing to pay the bill after eating, and if they want to pay, let the family pay well, anyway, they have learned to accept this way.
In fact, the worst thing is that if you want to be treated, you will first hand over your credit card to the counter, but the other party insists on paying and returns your card to you. The only way to cope with this situation is to let them go to the checkout and wait for the opportunity to make up a heavy gift later. Everything goes naturally, and life should not stop at such small details.
So we try not to do what we don't want to do, even if it offends the other party. If they are so stingy, don't be friends. There are many polite pedantics in China, but not everyone. There is a sentence in the poem, "I am drunk and sleepy and go", which is really remarkable, and it is the highest state of life.