When we are young and ignorant, we will always write joys and sorrows on our faces, and as we grow older, we have a deeper understanding of society, and slowly, we will know how to hide our emotions, even if there are waves in our hearts, our faces are still a light and breezy look.
Adult interactions involve too many interest relationships, and the adult world mixes too many hypocrisies, so many times, sincerity may not be exchanged for sincerity.
In interpersonal communication, mastering these three laws can win a place.
01: Keep your mouth shut
In interpersonal communication, the relationship between the two can be seen from the topic discussed, and the trust relationship between the two can be seen from the depth of the topic.
Generally speaking, when we talk to people we only know, the topic often stays on the surface, even if we have different opinions in our hearts, we may not be able to say them.
If someone is willing to talk to you about private things, such as promotions and salary increases, marriage and family, etc., it means that the other party has regarded you as an important existence.
At this time, it is particularly important to keep your mouth shut, which is not only your feedback to the trust of others, but also your cherishing of this friendship.
No one wants to be stabbed by someone they trust, no one wants to be trampled by someone who treats them sincerely, a betrayal is a permanent injury, no matter how it is later remedied, the relationship is no longer the same.
When getting along with relatives and friends, keeping your mouth is a return to trust and keeping each other, and when you get along with colleagues, keeping your mouth is a kind of protection for yourself.
After all, our relationship with colleagues is often only a general exchange, the problems that can be involved are all about work, and the problems of work are problems of interests, once they are not handled well, they will endanger their own interests.
02: Maintain boundaries
Teacher Zhou Guoping once said: "Even the best friends should have distance, and friendships that are too lively are often empty." ”
In interpersonal communication, the most taboo is that you can't find your own positioning, can't distinguish your own boundaries, arbitrarily interfere in other people's affairs, and ignore other people's feelings.
As the saying goes, there is a difference between relatives and estrangement, and there is a difference between inside and outside. Even people who are close to each other, such as relatives and lovers, will keep their own secrets, not to mention that outsiders, if they can't maintain boundaries, they will only disgust each other.
Many friends, even if they are small in identity, know the roots, but when they are faced with important choices in life, we are best not to meddle, let alone make some suggestive choices, but should let them be responsible for their own lives, take responsibility for their own choices.
Maintaining boundaries with others is not only to protect yourself, but also to protect this feeling.
It is said that distance can produce beauty. The so-called distance, in fact, is the boundary, keep the boundary, avoid giving all the good to the other party, because that will only make the other party more dissatisfied, avoid exposing all the shortcomings, because not everyone is willing to accept all your shortcomings.
03: Fate
The adult world is not so simple, and many times, even if you hold a true heart, you may not be cherished.
You regard others as indispensable friends, others may just regard you as dispensable, so for fate, don't be too real, don't be too attached.
The beginning of a relationship may be a late meeting and hate without saying a word, and the end of a relationship may be mutual disgust without words.
In this world, nothing is set in stone, feelings will fade, love will disappear, but many people firmly believe that they are the exception, but there are so many exceptions!
Zhang Ailing once said: "You give me cherish, I still deserve you; you give me distance, I give you a measure; this is the highest respect between people!" Life is like a drama, drama is like life, everyone who decides to turn around has stood in the wind for a long time! ”
We can't leave a person who decides to turn around, can't remedy a broken heart, and in the face of fate, we can only follow fate, cherish fate, and let go of fate.
Do not force a broken fate, do not force a heart to leave, should always come, should always go, let the crowd surge, time will always help us to screen out worthy people.
Those who have always stayed with us are the ones who are worth paying for. For the rest of your life, may you and I cherish the people around us.
I am Aya, a warm-hearted emotional writer, and I am so fortunate to meet you in this life! Click a note, let's grow knowledge together!
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