When it comes to "face, vanity", the first thing I think of is the "spring sign", and when it comes to "self-esteem", then it is definitely the "winter sign".
So what is the difference between "face, vanity" and "self-esteem"?
The difference between the two is that the former is for others to see and the latter is for oneself.
And in the winter zodiac sign, the strongest "self-esteem" is "Capricorn",
And what is the biggest problem with Capricorn?
Just like we said: "The more afraid of what the more you are", The biggest problem of Capricorn is "strong self-esteem, but can not maintain their self-esteem very well".
This is where he hates himself the most.
Let's analyze the personality of "Capricorn" in detail, and take you to understand why such a "tough" winter king can't protect his "self-esteem" very well.
<h3 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > the most down-to-earth, the most seated, but also the most "stuffy"</h3>
As a "Capricorn", I may not have too deep a memory of coldness, but this "coldness" is deeply imprinted in the deepest part of the heart.
Therefore, hard work, no matter what he does, is diligent and down-to-earth, which is his way to "resist" the coldness of his heart.
However, in this kind of logical thinking for a long time, although "Capricorn" can achieve good results in work, career, and learning, it is difficult to develop in "making friends and feelings".
Why?
Because"feelings" are not careers, as long as you work hard, you can get gains, it requires a lot of "spirituality" in addition to effort, because "feelings" are not a book, a task, a goal, it has "life", and it is also the most "magical" existence in human thinking.
However, "Capricorns" apply their "Capricorn thinking" to their feelings, but they are not "aura".
As we all know, the best way to get along with people is to "empathize", and Capricorns who "everything lies in reality", even if they think in empathy, they are ultimately "practical", which always makes people feel that they lack romance.
There are many "Capricorn" readers who often say in chats with the author: "I really don't understand romance, and the romantic acts I make are all learned from TV series and movies." ”
This is definitely not funny, nor is it modest, because the author has seen with my own eyes that more than one Capricorn has sent 999 roses to girls, such a big hand, and it is just an "office worker".
At that time, even the author thought it was "very romantic", but looking back, in fact, under the economic conditions of this "Capricorn" "office worker", could he use this money to make girls more "happy"?
Moreover, this scene, whether it is "sending flowers" or "language", how to think is "god-like" with the bridge section in a movie.
Therefore, in the work, Capricorn's idea is: "Everything according to the book, step by step will not be wrong, and there will definitely be results in a down-to-earth manner."
The idea in the relationship is: "I have seen everything that the girl is most touched by in the movie, copy it and use it, it will definitely be full of benefits."
However, after all, "movies" originate from life, but they are higher than life, you are a working class, and the movies you watch may be "small times".
Therefore, in the end, "999 roses" did not retain the girl's heart.
<h3 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > most eager to be respected, but "passive" and unprotected</h3>
After a long time in the relationship, "Capricorn" finally found a partner who felt "stable and down-to-earth".
Here, I would like to emphasize that the "Capricorn" aspect of looking at people, the author personally believes that like their "academic brains", they attach great importance to "first impressions".
Maybe they think about "work" when they look at people, or maybe when they look at people, they recall the hero and heroine of a certain "martial arts novel" that he read when he was a child, but he is not a "matter of fact" viewer.
Anyway, as long as "Capricorn" feels solid, she will naturally think - it is "him".
There are still so many things to do, don't waste time on "auditing".
Therefore, no matter how much "Capricorn" cares about "appearance" at the beginning, it is possible to find a "fat man" in the end, writing here, "Capricorn" friends, you can recall that your beginning of the desire for love, and the final love is not the same thing?
Moreover, "Capricorns" are basically married late, and in the relationship, they have too many ideas, but the final direction of each idea is "passive".
In the beginning, it seems that they can all dominate, but in the end, they are always the most "passive" one.
Just like the love they want, it is ultimately difficult to get, so the self-esteem they want can be protected in this situation?
They are married because of their pursuit of steadfastness, in the process of getting along with each other, others will feel that she is boring, think she is not flexible, and at this time, basically "Capricorn" will choose "patience".
This is the same as their attitude of work and learning, once determined, they must do a good job.
But when they endured, and even began to do a lot of things that they did not want to do in order to be able to barely maintain, they found that they had strong self-esteem, but they were less and less respected by each other.
Everything she does, she begins not to be understood by the other party, and asks her to revolve around "herself".
The person with the strongest self-esteem has been repeatedly hurt to self-esteem, it seems that "Capricorn" is still silent, no different from before, in fact, deep inside has been "full of holes", but even at this time, she will still tell herself: "Other people's lives are like this, other people's feelings are also like this." ”
Because, this is the last "excuse" she can find for herself.
But as long as there is repression, there will be an outbreak, so Capricorn generally does not have a problem, but a problem must be a big problem of "scary".
Therefore, if you want to "release" yourself, you must first find the "emotional initiative".
How do I get it back?
First of all, Capricorn likes to deny others in language, because this is a "Capricorn characteristic" that Capricorn embodies self-worth.
Therefore, when you start to talk to people, stop saying things like "no, no, no", because once you are still in your "Capricorn thinking", it is difficult for you to really "understand others", and to understand others, you must first change your "Capricorn thinking" to a certain extent emotionally.
Second, it is to let yourself maintain daily regular and quantitative exercise, the happiness of exercise, will make you more willing to contact others, and more contact with people, you can appreciate why so many people are willing to "make friends", willing to say the words of the heart, but also slowly after "confiding in the heart" to feel the "deep brain" ease.
Third, don't define things as "useful or useless," try something new, for example, occasionally drop your work to make tea, and "copy the sutras."
Things that you used to think were meaningless, when you do it, you will feel meaningful or meaningless, you think you have been in a "slow rhythm", in fact, your overly focused nerves have always made you in "rapid operation".
And diverting some of my attention, this part of the energy, may no longer think about "Musk's spaceship, a physical problem in "The Three-Body Problem", but become, how can I find my love, how can I maintain my self-esteem.
Therefore, when a Capricorn friend reads this article, if you also have feelings, please do not hesitate to "say" and say the deepest "about feelings" in your heart, the author is very welcome.
Here, I also wish the friends of "Capricorn", feelings, careers, and double pride.