1. There are a few classic lines in "The Godfather":
(1) It took me a lifetime to learn to be careful, and women and children can be careless, but men can't.
(2) I will give you a condition that you cannot refuse. (3) Don't let others know what you think.
(4) Don't let people know what you're reaching out for.
(5) When you speak from time to time, you have to make it sound as good as it sounds.
(6) Let your friends underestimate your strengths and let the enemies overestimate your shortcomings.
(7) The best threat is to take no action,- - and once action is taken without effect, people are no longer afraid of threats. It seems to be controlling yourself, but in fact, you are also controlling others. No matter how complicated the relationship is, it is so easy for him.
2. "Back to Back, Face to Face"
The characters in this film are portrayed very vividly. The performance in the play: before doing things, people are close to each other, and people save face with each other. See through and don't say it through, is a good friend!
3. "Enemies of the Whole People"
No money is not handsome, how to make a girl? That' a routine, of course! First of all, you must first learn to empathize, know what the opposite sex wants, and then throw in its favor and grab it! Since ancient times, deep affection cannot be retained, only routines win people's hearts. Also in the movie Pride and Prejudice, knowing how to think differently is also the key to success.
4. "Smell the Fragrance and Recognize the Woman"
The male protagonist of the movie Pacino is blind - like a bubble girl, and most of the people who can't find the object after growing eyes are heartless eyes. In the movie, through his wisdom, he uses the art of language to easily solve the problems encountered, and also uses the art of language to play the technology of bubble girls to the fire.
5. "In the Clouds"
Ryan, a layoff expert, whose job is to bring bad news to people. This kind of work that harms others and harms oneself has been rewarded.
He knows how to understand the other person's heart, and avoids a lot of unnecessary trouble by knowing the reason and moving it with affection. He also often used insidious little tricks to make his work more "beautiful", such as using the phrase "We haven't finished the conversation between us, I'll contact you", and in fact he will never contact the person again.
6. I still remember a passage that an elder said to me:
If a friend has a second child and you visit, it is considerate to buy a gift for the boss, and communicate with the boss more during the visit, so that he or she feels the attention and love of his uncle and aunt - as always. At this time, the eldest is the most sensitive and vulnerable in the family, and your little thoughtfulness may make his or her attitude towards the second eldest completely different. Reducing the hostility of the boss is the best gift you can give to the second boss.
7, the real emotional intelligence is not a kind of technology, skills, but a cognitive strength of a pair of talking to the deep cognition of the psychology of the conversation partner, the strategic cognition of event processing.
In these aspects, the deeper the understanding, the more clearly you can see, and when you deal with it, you will naturally have on-the-spot tricks and do just right. What if there is no deep cognition? It is equivalent to shooting before they see where the target is, and expect to hit the bullseye. Then, no matter how good your technology is, you can only be obscene to hit the target.
8. Emotional intelligence consists of five main aspects:
(1) Understand the self, be able to perceive the emergence of a certain emotion, observe and examine their own inner experience, and monitor the changes in emotions from moment to moment. It is at the heart of emotional intelligence;
(2) Self-management, regulation of their emotions, so that they are timely and moderately expressed;
(3) Self-motivation, the ability to mobilize and direct emotions according to a certain goal of the activity;
(4) Recognize the emotions of others, and be able to feel the needs and desires of others through subtle social signals and sensitivity;
(5) Skills in handling interpersonal relationships and regulating emotional reactions with others.
9, can talk≠ high emotional intelligence
Many people think that people who can talk are high in emotional intelligence, and people who do not understand sleek and sophisticated, who will not please and climb, are low in emotional intelligence, this concept is not correct, and the real high emotional intelligence is by no means sophisticated. Rather than flattery, hypocrisy, and attachment, sincerity and kindness from the heart are the real high emotional intelligence.
10, high emotional intelligence is not deliberately pandering, but mutual tolerance.
People with high emotional intelligence know how to read people's hearts, and what you need, he will give. But they do not do this to control you, but to tolerate you on the premise of equal communication. Understanding people's hearts + equality and tolerance = true emotional intelligence.