"Children love to lose their temper" is a problem that almost all parents encounter on the road to parenting.
In order to decode the deep-seated causes of children's tantrums, parents also need to spend their minds to understand their children's "emotional codes".
When a child loses his temper, his psychological needs are not met.
In addition to eating well and dressing warmly, children have many psychological needs. When we can't meet the psychological needs of our children, they often express their resentment by throwing tantrums and crying.
When a child loses his temper, he feels that he has been neglected.
In the movie "Miracle Boy", Auggie's sister Via is a well-behaved girl who is heart-wrenching. Before her brother was born, she had all the love of her parents. But since having a younger brother Auggie, the younger brother has become the sun in the family, and everyone revolves around the crippled Auggie. As a children's illustrator, her mother created many works, but the protagonist of all works is Auggie. The lonely Via once said to the puppy Daisy, "Does anyone want to know how I'm doing today?"
When the mother realized her neglect of Via and took the initiative to chat with her daughter, she received a call from the school: Auggie vomited. So she hurried to school again. Looking at the back of her mother leaving, Via felt her brother snatch her mother again, which made her emotionally broken, and she angrily threw the remote control board out. On the eve of Via's theatrical performance, her dissatisfaction with her mother finally reached its peak in anger: "When did you ever pay attention to me?" Is it because now that Auggie is in school, you're bored and start caring about me?" The daughter's questioning made the mother remorseful. Once upon a time, Via was her only heart, the only princess in the family. The daughter's rant and dissatisfaction are all due to his neglect of her. Thinking of this, my mother burst into tears.
The child loses his temper because he feels that the share of love is not enough.
Psychological research has found that the biggest source of anger in children's hearts is their deep-seated belief that they are not loved. It's really "the same world, the same baby", and even the way to open up for love is so similar.
In short, children lose their temper because they are seeking love.