[If you can't go in love, you must at least be able to choose in both directions]
Ajan
I was in the neighborhood and asked me several times to help her daughter find a suitable partner. It just so happened that my husband had a friend who was not yet married, and his age and appearance were also matched, so he agreed to a Sunday and arranged for the two sides to meet.
But in less than half an hour, the girl returned. Before I could ask "how it felt," she grinned at me with embarrassment: "No play!" Nothing to want, like a stupid goose, but also quite tough! ”
I was a little upset. Leaving aside the coldness of such talking, I don't like to hear it just by saying that the boy is like a "dumb goose". When he was 16 years old, he was admitted to Fudan, and he studied MBA at the National People's Congress, and until he graduated from graduate school, his grades were all first-class. There are a few times my home computer problems, but also he came to help with the conditioning, not only smart and enthusiastic but also funny and humorous, how to get to the mouth of this guy, it has become a "dumb goose" who "wants nothing"?
Her mother did not care about my dissatisfaction, and only asked her daughter what she thought of the man. The daughter said sadly, "You can see that head—one meter and seven meters is not enough!" The big nose is not small, hanging on the face like a scale, and you have to fall on your head when you walk! The annual salary is more than 100,000 yuan, but there is no house and no car, so in addition to rent or mortgage, is not it extremely poor? ”
I suppressed the evil fire that was on the top of my head, and asked her with a solemn face, "Then what kind of one do you want to find?" ”
She said without hesitation: "What's the matter, you have to find a look and a good life, right?" ”
"What kind of 'looks and days' are 'passable'?" I asked.
She probably thought I still had a few candidate backups on hand, and counted with infinite fascination: "Tall, how can I be more than one meter and eighty thousand?" Don't be cold to your facial features; you have to have your own house, you have to have a car - I can't get married, and I have to squeeze the bus to work, right? ”
"Hmm. What else? What are the requirements for income? I must admit that when I asked this question, it was already obviously ridiculous. But the girl didn't open her eyes or raise her head, and she didn't care about my attitude at all: "In a year, there must be two or three hundred thousand." For so many years, I was also poor and afraid, and I didn't want to live a hard life in the future. ”
I was angry that her mother hadn't given me this bottom beforehand. I had repeatedly finalized the girlfriend's mate selection conditions with her, and she insisted that there was nothing special, as long as the person was good, the other was almost enough. I don't know if she is carrying her daughter's big bag and talking to herself, or if she thinks that this "almost" includes the configuration of having a car, a house, and a high salary.
I looked at the girl's pearl-like expression and regretted taking care of her business. Love and marriage, the "conditions" are mutual - a small fat mound of 1 meter and 5, 30+ years old, the educational background of three graduates, the bad habit of speaking out... Such "conditions", why do you require the other party to have height, image, and a car and a house?
It's not that I'm talking coldly, if the other party is really such a stylish, eight-sided line, and also a small abacus to pull the thief essence, not a "dumb goose" - can that person see her?
Relying on marriage to change the existing survival status quo and embark on an upgraded version from this day, such a thing, of course, is not nothing.
However, the emotional intelligence requirements for the parties are relatively high - not to say that the water is not leaky, at least not to overturn a boat of people.
For girls with mediocre qualifications, unless they catch up with the opportunity to have a long-term relationship with talents, they will catch a talented golden turtle son-in-law by blind date in a straight line for no reason, and from then on, like Cinderella meets a prince, sparrows become phoenixes... Such a good thing is like buying a lottery ticket and winning the lottery, which is obviously a low probability event.
It is not impossible to make it as a dream, and if you really want to follow this, you will mislead others and yourself.
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