4. Why is my life a "control group"?
When doing experiments, it is usually necessary to prepare two samples, one called the "experimental group" and one called the "control group". The only role of the "control group" is to test and set off the "experimental group".
Some people's lives, live and get rid of is the "control group" - the only value of his existence, as if it is to set off another person's life.
The life of the "control group" is not necessarily the arrangement of fate, and some people are actually self-inflicted.
The Italian movie "Little Hero Toto" is one of my favorite movies, with a Douban score of 8.5.
Little Toto is a little boy who lives in an ordinary and welcoming family with the love of his parents and a beautiful older sister.
But he wasn't satisfied, because he had a wealthy neighbor— Alfred, who was born on the same day as him— and what he didn't understand was:
Why is my family so rich and my family so poor?
One day, Little Toto said to Alfred, "Actually, your parents are mine, because on the day we were born, there was a fire in the hospital, and we were both held wrong." Your house, your car, it's all mine. ”
From that day on, Toto positioned himself as Alfred's "control group" and held a grudge against him:
"You stole my life, and I never lived."
3. The "control group" has a tragic moment in life
Little Toto blamed alfred alfred for the series of tragedies that followed.
First, Toto's father was hired by Alfred's father to transport goods, and as a result, he was killed, causing the Toto family to fall from the ordinary family to the poverty line;
Then little Toto's sister fell in love with Alfred, and as a result, under toto's threat, she committed suicide;
Little Toto grew up and became a civil servant, and he fell in love with Alfred's wife.
In this way, the little toto became the big toto, and the big toto became the old toto.
The taciturn old Toto, who lives in a nursing home, is finally determined to take revenge on the opponent who stole his life and is nearly dying.
2. The revenge of the "control group"
The revenge of the weak is sometimes devastating, and if you can't destroy others, then destroy yourself.
When toto, the elder Toto learns at the nursing home that the killer group is preparing to assassinate his lifelong "imaginary opponent" Alfred, and he is once again angry, and Toto feels that this person has killed him all his life, and this right belongs to him.
So he went to Alfred's house, took his ID card, and disguised himself as Alfred.
He finally fulfilled his lifelong dream and became Alfred.
If you can't be born with this name, die with this name!
His ashes, remembered as Alfred, floated off the plane, and the film ends in Thomas's voiceover:
"I always wanted to have a Chevrolet, I always wanted to be able to get on a plane, and now I've done, Alfred, I've flown, I've flown!"
1. How to get rid of the "control group" mentality?
Whether it is people living in the "control group" state or people living in the "control group" mentality, their biggest problem is to live in the shadow of an imaginary "enemy".
When old Toto wants to take away what he "should" belong to, he finds that Alfred has experienced similar pain to himself and is now in the same loneliness of life.
Apart from money, the two were so similar that they were even in love with the same woman and couldn't be together.
Even Alfred has always envied his "free ordinary life" that does not need to think about others.
Why do we blame others for our unsatisfactory lives?
Because we always have a vulnerable side, some are not enough, some are blinded by fate, and some are controlled by self-esteem.
Under the pressure of fate's ups and downs, an imaginary enemy in a fantasy world is enough for us to find the best excuse to "protect" ourselves.
How can we get rid of the "control group" mentality?
In A Song of Ice and Fire, there is a true "control group" – Tyrion Lannister.
His brother was the leader of the Imperial Guard, his sister was the queen, and he was only a dwarf.
In fact, his heart was even more angry than the above three: my sin was to be born as a dwarf
How does he see his destiny?
"Never forget who you are, because the world will not forget that you have to turn resistance into help, so that there is no weakness, and if you use it to arm yourself, no one can use it to hurt you." 」
(This article is for God to read the Red Chamber series 22)
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