In 1997, before his death, Zhang Yimou's father instructed him:
There must be a boy who will pass on the generations, hoping to have many children and blessings, and children and grandchildren.
But the one-child policy made Zhang Yimou prohibitive.
It was not until the age of 51 that he finally ushered in his first son.
The person who gave Zhang Yi a son was Chen Ting, who was 31 years younger than him.
How did this seemingly unremarkable woman defeat Gong Li and capture Zhang Yimou's heart? How to stabilize the position? She was never as simple as it seemed.
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In 1981, Chen Ting was born into an ordinary family in Wuxi, Jiangsu Province.
Both parents were working-class.
She has been learning dance since she was a child, obedient and diligent.
At that time, the route that the family planned for Chen Ting was to become a dance teacher after graduation in the future and live a simple and happy little life.
As everyone knows, after 18 years, Chen Ting's life will be completely changed because of a man, and from then on, she will "fly up the branches and become a phoenix".
In this year, 31-year-old Zhang Yimou was separated from his wife Xiao Hua and studied in his junior year at Beiying.
Zhang Yimou and his original wife, Xiao Hua, are also a past that must be mentioned and cannot be avoided.
The two people were junior high school classmates, and at that time, they secretly had feelings for each other, but they did not make their feelings clear.
After graduating from junior high school, Zhang Yimou chose to go to the countryside to work in the queue.
Xiao Hua's family is very well-off, and his father's family is the richest man in a village in Beijing.
Her parents were both college students and had a high social status, so she could have suffered without going to the countryside.
But she couldn't bear to be separated from Zhang Yimou, so she desperately went with him.
The 3 years of living in the countryside were very hard.
Working in the fields in the summer is like going into a steamer, sweating and suffering.
The arms were often scratched by wheat stalks, and with the soaking of sweat, it was painful and astringent.
Xiao Hua once felt desperate and collapsed, and he was so tired that hepatitis.
She often washed Zhang Yimou's dirty clothes and mended her socks, and because of love, she never complained.
After going to the countryside, the two men were assigned to different factories.
50 kilometers apart, Xiao Hua often visited Zhang Yimou and took care of his daily life.
Xiao Hua also gave up going to college for Zhang Yimou.
She had long wanted to go to college, and in 1975, she got a place in the factory to study at Shanghai Jiaotong University.
However, at that time, Zhang Yimou was not very willing for Xiao Hua to go to college, for fear that it would affect the feelings of the two people, so Xiao Hua took the initiative to give up this opportunity.
After resuming the college entrance examination in 1978, she wanted to register many times, but remembering her promise to Zhang Yimou, she gave up.
But for Zhang Yimou's dream, Xiao Hua was fully supportive.
Zhang Yimou fell in love with photography during his work, and after resuming the college entrance examination, he was bent on taking the photography department of Beiying.
Xiao Hua tried everything possible to borrow books and sort out materials for him.
But at that time, Zhang Yimou was already 28 years old, and he was past the recruitment age and could not register for the exam.
At that time, Xiao Hua's brother-in-law worked as a reporter for a magazine in Beijing and had some connections.
He met a painter who happened to know Huang Zhen, the minister of culture at the time.
So he handed over Zhang Yimou's portfolio and cover letter through this painter, hoping to give real talents a chance.
Minister Huang looked at Zhang Yimou's work and knew that he was indeed talented.
We can't discriminate because of age, and I hope that Beiying can break the admissions.
In this way, Zhang Yimou finally realized his dream of North Shadow.
It can be said that without Xiao Hua's support and connections, Zhang Yimou may be difficult to enter The North Film, let alone realize the dream of directing in the future.
In 1979, Zhang Yimou and Xiao Hua received a marriage license.
In 1983, he and Xiao Hua's daughter Zhang Mo were born.
When Zhang Yimou went to school, the two people were in different places and did not see each other several times a year.
When Xiao Hua gave birth, Zhang Yimou was also busy with work and did not accompany him.
Later, Xiao Hua fell ill, and so did Zhang Yimou.
Xiao Hua complained in the book: "How many times can a woman need her husband around the most in her life?" My heart is so wronged! ”
Zhang Yimou's career gradually started, getting better and better, the photography of "Yellow Land" won the award, starred in "Old Well" won the Golden Rooster Award for Best Actor... And Xiao Hua is a competent xiannai helper.
Until the woman named Gong Li appeared, Xiao Hua's peaceful life was completely shattered.
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In 1987, Zhang Yimou transformed into a director and cast a national cast for Mo Yan's novel "Red Sorghum".
The 22-year-old Gong Li thus entered Zhang Yimou's vision.
Looking bright and atmospheric, hot and straightforward, he directly finalized Gong Li to play the nine children in the play.
For such a superb beauty as Gong Li, Zhang Yimou "fell" in this regard.
His wife, Xiao Hua, also found the clue, and found a letter from Zhang Yimou's pocket while washing clothes.
It was written by Gong Li to Zhang Yimou.
The first sentence is "You're gone, and you've taken my heart with you." ”
"You look so cute in my arms!"
"I want to get married, and I hope to get an answer from you."
After the matter was revealed, Zhang Yimou did not hide it and proposed a divorce to Xiao Hua.
Xiao Hua was heartbroken, washed his face with tears several times, and could not imagine that he had paid so much in exchange for her husband's betrayal.
However, Xiao Hua still chose to let go in the face of Zhang Yimou, who had an iron heart.
In 1988, Zhang Yimou and Xiao Hua officially divorced.
In the days when he was accompanied by Gong Li, Zhang Yimou shined in his career.
From "Red Sorghum" to "Ju Dou", "Qiu Ju Fights a Lawsuit", "Big Red Lantern Hangs High", "Alive".
It is still a classic, and the awards are uncountable, and Gong Li has also become a first-line actress because of him.
Once Gong Li went to do the math, the other party told her that her career development is very good, it is best to get married before the age of 30.
Seeing that she was about to turn 30, she ran to ask Zhang Yimou what she thought.
As a result, he said coldly, "Married? I never thought about it! ”
After a few months, Gong Li pulled the second brother to find Zhang Yimou again to talk about marriage.
But Zhang Yimou still refused:
"Didn't think about it! Isn't marriage just a piece of paper? Why do you have to value this piece of paper? ”
In 1995, the two men broke up.
The following year, Gong Li married Huang Hexiang, president of British American Tobacco Asia Pacific, who was the same age as Zhang Yimou.
Gong Li's behavior seems to be telling Zhang Yimou:
You don't marry me, someone marries me!
Age difference is not an excuse to get married at all!
In the 8 years of love, Gong Li gave Zhang Yimou the best youth of a girl without reservation.
And Zhang Yimou, with his talent, spared no effort to win Gong Li' popularity.
They have regrets, but they don't owe each other.
So even after the breakup, there was no trouble.
Gong Li's departure also gave the two women the opportunity to "ascend to the throne".
One is Zhang Ziyi, who bears the name of "Little Gong Li".
She starred in Zhang Yimou's "My Father and Mother", "Hero" and other movies, and quickly became popular and became a first-line actress.
The other woman was Chen Ting.
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In 1999, the film "Happy Time" recruited actresses across the country.
At this time, Chen Ting was just 18 years old.
Goose egg face, big eyes, traditional Chinese woman appearance, feminine and noble.
Although it is good-looking, Chen Ting does not conform to the "aesthetic" of Zhang Yimou's selection of actresses.
Not surprisingly, Chen Ting was not elected.
Dong Jie, who became popular with Xie Tingfeng at the Spring Festival Gala, was selected as the heroine and has officially entered the entertainment circle since then.
But Zhang Yimou chose Chen Ting as his love object.
At that time, Chen Ting had just been admitted to college, and Zhang Yimou discussed the issue of having children with her very formally.
You know, Zhang Yimou is exactly 31 years older than Chen Ting, 8 years older than Chen Ting's father, and 11 years older than Chen Ting's mother.
But Chen Ting didn't care about this, she promised him.
So Chen Ting chose to drop out of school halfway and concentrate on being the woman behind Zhang Yimou.
In 2001, at the age of 20, Chen Ting gave birth to her eldest son, Zhang Yinan.
Then, in 2004 and 2006, she gave birth to a second son and a young daughter.
In fact, Chen Ting must have heard about Zhang Yimou earlier:
Divorced from his wife who has supported each other for many years, fell in love with Gong Li in marriage, and was with Gong Li for 8 years, but finally did not marry her.
No matter how you look at it, this is not the "human design" of a perfect good man.
But if Chen Ting did not choose Zhang Yimou, she would live an ordinary life that could no longer be ordinary.
There are not many opportunities in life to change her destiny, and she chooses to firmly grasp them.
From this point, it can be seen that Chen Ting is definitely a smart woman with a poisonous eye.
Also, Chen Ting is also very tolerant.
Chen Ting gave him 3 children in a row, but Zhang Yimou never got a marriage license with her.
Because they are supernatural, the children have not opened a household registration and belong to the "black household".
The eldest son and the second son studied in Wuxi, Chen Ting's hometown, and paid a sky-high sponsorship fee to go to school in the form of "borrowing".
The family is hiding in tibet and cannot be "exposed" to the sun at all.
During the child's schooling, the teacher has never seen the child's father, and his real name must be concealed.
Regarding the existence of the child and Chen Ting, even the assistant who had followed Zhang Yimou for more than ten years was unaware.
Zhang Yimou and the children went out, but also to pull away more than 200 meters away.
The issues of taking care of children's living and schooling were basically handed over to Chen Ting.
It wasn't until December 2011 that the two officially received their marriage licenses.
Presumably, the reason for obtaining the license is also for the children to go to school and live more conveniently.
Chen Ting has been an underground wife for 10 years, and finally got the certificate that Gong Li has in mind.
She sacrificed her studies for Zhang Yimou and had children out of wedlock.
Living a life of anonymity, hiding everywhere and not daring to make it public.
Presumably, he has also suffered from the cold eyes and criticism of others.
But after years of hidden patience, he got a marriage license.
Lived in a villa worth forty or fifty million, with a valuable luxury car.
From an ordinary girl to a broad lady, this wave, Chen Ting did not lose.
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In addition to obedience and forbearance, Chen Ting is also very sensible.
In 2006, Zhang Yimou filmed "The Golden Armor in the City", and Gong Li played the queen.
This is another cooperation since the breakup, the former love.
In 13 years, Zhang Yimou directed "Return", and it was also Gong Li who was the heroine.
If it is an ordinary woman, I am afraid that she will fight and make trouble against the contact between her husband and her ex-girlfriend.
But Chen Ting looked very open.
For his stepdaughter Zhang Mo, there has never been a disagreement for so many years.
Since 2009, Zhang Mo has been filming with Zhang Yimou, serving as an editor and assistant director of the crew.
The upcoming "Sniper" is co-directed by Zhang Mo and Zhang Yimou.
They also participated in the film promotion activities together, and the whole family seemed to be happy.
Treating the daughter of his ex-girlfriend and ex-wife so generously, such a Chen Ting, how can Zhang Yimou not love?
What made Chen Ting officially enter the public and completely open was a storm in the past 13 years.
An actress named He Jun reported Zhang Yimou for being super-born.
At that time, the policy was very strict, and Zhang Yimou, as a public figure, naturally became the target of public criticism.
Chen Ting's various materials were pulled out, and they were all scolding.
Later, Zhang Yimou issued an apology and admitted the facts.
And in accordance with the regulations, paid a sky-high fine of 7.48 million.
Although controversial, Chen Ting and her 3 children can finally be open and active under the public.
In 2014, Chen Ting released her first Weibo.
She said she wanted to share real life and break the false rumors.
The certification is written about Zhang Yimou's wife, and the background picture is the back of a family of five.
She posted a group photo of her family here.
The joy of the holidays.
Share the glory of your son's award.
A family visits Zhang Yimou.
There is also a small daily routine of insisting on doing yoga.
368 consecutive days uninterrupted, it can be said that it is very disciplined.
All kinds of beautiful photos are also very good-looking, and it is completely impossible to see that she is 40 years old.
The 3 children Chen Ting was also very well trained.
The eldest son, Zhang Yinan, tried to become a director, and before he was 18 years old, he won the best film at the Shanghai Student Film Festival.
It also won an award at the Asian International Youth Film Festival.
When my youngest daughter was 12 years old, she published a book called "Food Diary".
Books are in the form of diaries and paintings, and the covers and back covers are designed by themselves.
The second son attends boarding school abroad and is a warm man.
Bring your sister a card when you get home.
Keep your own puppy and cook it in a variety of sizes.
Chen Ting said that she would not blindly spoil her children and cultivated their independent spirit from an early age.
In addition, Chen Ting did not forget to improve herself.
After giving birth, she finished college and went to graduate school.
Also took the yoga instructor certificate.
Relearn ballet and read in your spare time.
The years are quiet, there is no scramble, Chen Ting's superficial cloud is light, in fact, she is the woman with the most means.
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Not long ago, the three-child policy was announced.
Chen Ting forwarded it, saying that "the task was completed ahead of schedule."
Between the lines is pride.
The illegal supernatural life that was once criticized by everyone has now become a beautiful talk.
The original Xiao Hua did not get a good beginning and a good end.
Gong Li, who was vigorous, did not marry Zhang Yimou as she wished.
At 56, she has not yet had a child.
On the contrary, Chen Ting, all aspects of the conditions are mediocre,
But through sacrifice, forbearance, tolerance, and giving, she became the woman who laughed to the end.
In fact, she has never been stupid and sweet!
It's just that such a bet is too risky for the average girl.
If you are not careful, you may be ruined and ruin your life.
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