I remember when I was in college, my roommate asked me the same question countless times:
"On social software, is there really love?"
At that time, the audience of social software was not as wide as it is now, and no development company in the market really studied the social psychological relationship between people, social software still had the stigma of "about * software" at that time, plus I did not have the experience of online dating, so every time my answer was:
"Nothing."
But after I graduated from college, I happened to do new media in the development company of social software, out of the needs of work, I began to use social software seriously, and I gradually found that the experience brought to me by Baixiangsheng social networking was completely different from the social software a few years ago.
If someone asked me the same question again, I think my answer would be different.
So today, what I want to share with you is some of my experiences in the social life of BaiXiangsheng over the past year.
01
Match in the constellation and meet "Nagano Bud"
Shortly after I was playing Bai Xiangsheng Social, I met Nagano Yayu.
My first reaction at that moment was:
All have encountered Nagano buds, is it necessary to ask if there is love? Isn't love coming! (Just kidding)
We met on the constellation match, and I was really surprised that capricorn and Libra (actor Nagano Bud Yu constellation), which are completely opposite personalities, can also match together.
At first, I thought she was an avid fan of Nagano Yata, so the ID name was Nagano Yata, and even her avatar was her.
But when she asked me to click the head like a large picture to look closely, I realized that she was not "cheating", but using a photo of herself.
I couldn't help but exclaim to her, "That's too similar!" ”
She said that a long time ago, a friend said that she was a bit like Nagano Yayu, and after she learned to make makeup, she began to try to make Imitation makeup of Nagano Yayu, and gradually found the pleasure of makeup.
So she registered the account of Bai Xiangsheng Social, tried to Po out some of her own imitation makeup photos, did not expect to get a lot of people's likes, was invited to enter the beauty interest group, simply changed the ID to the current Nagano Yayu, will also come out some imitation makeup tutorials.
We paid more attention to each other, and as I browsed through her past posts, I found that she was not the same as the beauty up master I remembered, and although her reproduction of Nagano Bud Yu had reached the pinnacle of perfection, she never wanted to live as a shadow of Nagano Bud Yu.
She really likes makeup, she has imitated Komatsu's eyeshadow, learned Yang Chaoyue's girl group style, cos over the two-dimensional comic character...
She will also follow other beauty lovers to learn how to make beautiful nail art, try the recent popular braiding, see the praise of her comments will be very excited to reply to thank you, and then marked a lot of ~ ~ number.
Back on the home page, I clicked on the matching interface I met with her again, and I suddenly found that the constellation in her personal information was not a copy of the scale filled in by Nagano Yayu, but a Taurus.
Capricorn with Taurus is indeed a match made in heaven.
She is Nagano Bud, but more than herself.
02
Among those nearby, the first rush
In the nearby people matching function, there was a girl I remembered the most, when the app showed that she was only 1km away from me.
I was impressed because her profile was very politely written:
"I have a very narrow social circle, I want to meet more friends, it's a pleasure to meet you."
Compared to the fancy or cool introduction, this "nice to meet you" made me want to talk to her more.
As we talked, I found that we had a lot in common, such as we all lived in the same neighborhood, she lived in 15 buildings, I lived in 20 buildings.
Our favorite singer is Jay Chou, I have a collection of vinyl from "Seven Mile Fragrance", and the first album she bought was "Still Fantasia".
She said she knew that there was a bar that always played Jay Chou's songs, and asked me if I wanted to go to drink together after work on the weekend, which I gladly accepted.
In the clear bar, we listened to "Snail", listened to "Dandelion's Convention", and I still don't know what to say in the first sentence.
"Ask the man across from me if you don't know what to say to me."
"Uh, yeah, I'm sorry," I scratched my head.
"It's okay, I'll just say it."
She began to tell her story calmly:
She studied media in college, and after graduation, she has not looked for a job, and she has gone to photography to participate in some competitions, and more will take some job as a photographer.
This seemingly free profession is actually not free, because it is really difficult for an unknown photographer to make money, and the party A who is willing to look for her to shoot generally has very strict and cumbersome needs, and most of her photos cannot pour their feelings and soul.
But if you desperately use the family's supplies to do artistic creation, you may not really be able to achieve a small reputation.
She didn't dare to gamble.
"I was cleaning up the pictures in my camera one day and suddenly I didn't know what I had been doing for the past two years."
She said she had heard a saying that if a watch was wrong in time, then every second was wrong, but if the watch was stopped, it could be right at least twice a day, so it would be more preferred to stop if it wasn't done correctly.
"Then one day, I saw a police propaganda video on the Internet, and a shot of a policewoman flashed by, and I thought it was so cool. Then the next day, I urgently repaired the film in my hand and packed it up and sent it over, and told the old customers that I didn't plan to do this line anymore. ”
She said she had photographed the world for too long and now wanted to protect it.
The lights in the bar were warm yellow, but I don't know why, when she said these words to me, the light refracted from her eyes again, and all turned into dazzling gold.
I think of one of my favorite movies, Journey of the Mind: Every soul can only be human when it finds the spark of life.
When I said goodbye, I said to her, I hope that the next time we meet, you are already a policeman.
She replied firmly, "I will definitely get in." ”
That was the first time I felt the rush offline, and I thought maybe it wasn't the particular person who rushed, but the state of being fascinated by the flash in the dark, such a state.
03
In the matching of the three views, we see another kind of beauty
Generally speaking, I only match girls.
But once, I also matched a boy in the three-view match.
The question he left in the paper airplane was: "What do you think of boys wearing skirts?" "The accompanying picture is a picture of myself wearing a skirt.
As a boy, he managed a neutral skirt very well, and I wrote in my answer:
"You are really handsome!"
After a while, he added me as a friend and replied, "Thank you." ”
I thought at first he might be LGBTQ, but his profile reads: Heterosexual, wears skirts only because they think they look good.
I've always admired this kind of person who dares to express my preferences, so I couldn't help but send him a message again: "You look really good in a skirt." ”
I thought the chat with him was over, but two hours later, he suddenly told me that the social software he used to use was a certain detective, and there were often many people who swiped him right (right stroke means like, left stroke means dislike).
"But did you know that the vast majority of people swiped me right just to scold me for being a pervert?"
He was scolded a lot, and he also felt that there was no need to find abuse on the Internet, so he uninstalled a detective.
He also said that in fact, the skirt he used to wear was not so neutral, and it was also because he was scolded a lot that he "reined" himself, which was also a kind of protection for himself.
He generously sent me a picture of my former skirt and added a sentence that looked very cautious:
"It may be a bit presumptuous and I don't know if you can accept it."
I suddenly felt a little sad, I don't know how many people he has been scolded into, so that a boy who dares to wear a skirt to go out, send a photo will become trembling.
So that day, I gave him all the praise I had learned all my life.
My compliments did work, because within a few days I was in the Square of Record Life, and I brushed up on this picture he sent me, and he generously decided to share it with everyone on the Hundred Phases.
I also secretly made up my mind that if I met someone like him again in the future, I would also like it a lot, encourage it a lot, and I knew that every sentence I said, "You are beautiful", is a kind of kindness.
Aesthetics are divided into the masses and the minority, but there should be no high and low.
I believe what he needs is not to find a partner on social software who feels special to him, but to make more people feel that he is a person on social software, and there is nothing special about it.
At last.
This year in the experience of social interaction, I realized that social relationships are unknown, social software is a microscopic world that can meet each other by relying on big data, and social relationships are full of uncertainty.
You can't accurately predict what kind of personality and occupation the next person you match will be.
Until social relationships take place, you don't know what confusing stories and choices you'll share with each other.
I realize that social relationships are also free, and many times we think that "It's a match" is equivalent to "It's a lover", but if you feel that it is not so appropriate when you get along, you can also leave very freely.
Most importantly, these make social relationships destined to be beautiful, sometimes we have a story with each other, there is a point of intersection, maybe not every one of them has a way to a black ending, but the process that happens is the beauty itself.
If you go back to the question at the beginning of the article: Is there love on social software?
My answer will change from "no" to "maybe there will be."
Because someone meets the right person here, there must be some people who are not suitable.
This may also correspond to the name of the hundred social life: in the condensed version of life, we will meet many different people.
They appear in your life, let you see more than one way to live, choose more than one, maybe you can meet true love quickly, maybe slow down.
But the process of socializing, it's actually already beautiful in itself.
The meaning of social life is here, and it is not impossible to try it.
Tips: For privacy reasons, the protagonist's information has been altered or blurred.
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