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After watching an old movie "Groundhog Day", this movie is mainly about the male protagonist Phil is a weather announcer, has never met, has not been able to broadcast major news opportunities, and for four consecutive years and sent to report on "Groundhog Day", the story also began from this day.
Although this is an inspirational movie that tells people that it is not time that repeats, but that you are repeating, and that the only way to change this dilemma is to try to change yourself, the love part of the movie is also worth pondering.
Phil unexpectedly stayed on "Groundhog Day", waking up every morning on this day, as if everything had stopped, and he had to repeat this day after day.
After the initial surprise, he began to be ecstatic, so that he could casually pick up the woman he liked, and he did not have to be responsible, he could use this repeated day to first inquire about each other's preferences, and then talk to each other the next day, and use this method to try and fail, but also let him have some fluttering.
His frustration comes from the colleague he wants to pursue, the producer Rita, when he uses the same routine to pursue the goddess in his heart, but finds it invalid, he knows all of Rita's preferences, he reads her favorite poems in front of her, he builds snowmen with her, but no matter how hard he tries, he can't get her pleasure.
Phil thinks he's done a perfect job, but why can't Rita like him, it makes him feel like a failure, and it makes him start to reflect on himself.
In fact, a woman's intuition is very accurate, although you know her things very well, it seems that you know her very well, but she just can't feel the sincerity from what you do, too perfect things will have flaws, which is also Rita's cleverness.
02
When Phil uses the same routine but can't impress Rita's heart, he begins to understand that there are some things that he can't do what he wants, and he begins to reflect on himself, how to get through this repetitive day after day.
He began to change himself, no longer self-abandonment, no longer use routines to pursue women, but began to learn what he was interested in, he learned ice sculpture, piano, he also learned to write poetry, medicine, he began to take everyone around him seriously, he took the grandfather he once hated to eat food, he bought the insurance salesman's insurance, he helped passers-by change tires, when he treated everyone in the town with sincerity, he naturally got everyone's admiration.
Everyone sees him as a friend, everyone sincerely thanks him, he lives out of himself, and his every day is meaningful.
And at this time, he does not need to use routines to get Rita's attention, the one who plays the piano on the stage, everyone has to thank him when he comes, such an attractive man is radiant, but also can attract women's eyes.
There is a saying that "the routine wins the hearts of the people", but in fact, it is not like this, the routine can only be exchanged for the routine, if you want to get the love of the beloved, or rely on attraction, when you become better and better, your personality charm will impress her, let her feel that you are the best man in the world, she will not be able to help but approach you.
At this time, you just need to be yourself, wait for her to come to you, and think about it, is this more lasting and more heartwarming than the love that comes from the routine?
And just after he sincerely treated his love, his life also underwent a miraculous change, he walked out of the dilemma of time and began a new life.
03
Simply relying on routines to pursue a girl will not succeed, and only by attracting love can it last.
Chen Xiao had a crush on a girl in college, this girl was a school flower level goddess, and at the beginning, he was not confident that he could catch up with her.
There are many boys chasing school flowers, but the methods they pursue are the same, the same love letters and gifts, so that none of the school flowers can be seen, although he also knows that this is the most direct method, but he did not do this, but chose to love her silently.
During this crush time, he did not let himself idle, but worked hard to study, to get closer to her in terms of grades, and he also formed a band of his own, hoping to play a complete song for her.
When the school flower needs someone to accompany her, he will appear next to her, chat with her, send her back to the girls' dormitory, and the two people will get along like friends.
As his grades got better and better, the guitar played better and better, and the school flower gradually became fond of him, and the two were naturally together.
If Chen Xiao is also like other boys who use routines to pursue school flowers, it is estimated that before he catches up, he has been hated by the other party, and he has chosen to pay silent attention and strive to improve himself, wanting to rely on his personality charm to win her likes, and he did.
Love is simple, the more complicated the routine, the more disgusting, only sincere treatment can make her really heartbroken.
04
There is a saying in psychology called the "law of attraction", which means that when you have a certain personality charm, when you become better and better, you will naturally attract the eyes of the other party, love, not by routine, but by attraction!
In the relationship, some men will always make such a mistake, using routines to pursue women, he will find some earthy love words on the Internet, and then learn some ways to quickly catch up with women, but not all women eat this set.
This also reminds men that when dealing with loved ones, it is not to win the hearts of the other party by stalking, but to learn to make yourself excellent, and when you are more and more excellent, the light on your body cannot be blocked.
Just like Phil in the movie "Groundhog Day", when he changed from an arrogant man to an elegant man who could play the piano and do ice sculptures, Rita's eyes were unconsciously attracted to him, and even exclaimed again and again, only to find that he was a treasure, and because of this, she finally held out her hand to him, which was something that Phil did not dare to think about.
Therefore, instead of relying on routines, it is better to sincerely do something, cultivate her own personality charm, let her be deeply attracted to you, so that love can be long-lasting, and beautiful love must be mutually attracted to each other, mutual achievements, may you also have such love!