There are three kinds of things in this world: your business, other people's business, and God's business. Your mission is simply to take care of what you have to do.
I've heard a story like this:
A small child was eating ice cream, and an aunt came over and said to him: It is not good for a child to eat ice cream for his teeth.
But the child said: My grandmother lived to be more than 90 years old. The aunt asked curiously: Does your grandmother eat ice cream too?
The child said quietly: No, my grandmother, she never cares about things.
Hahahahaha, I can't help but be amazed by the cold humor of children!
The Southern Tang Dynasty Book of Feng Yanwei's biography has a saying: "When the wind rises, it creases a pool of spring water, what is the matter with Qing Qing?" ”
Indeed, it is better not to be willing to pay attention to the matter of Qing Qing.
Human nature is the pursuit of freedom, do not like to be constrained by others, and do not want to be pointed out by others, should do this or should not do that.
This is true for a small child, let alone an adult. Moreover, people are very stubborn and cannot be easily changed.
Instead of trying to change others, it's better to run yourself.
Many people feel that laborious and unflattering, good intentions can not be well rewarded, that is, to manage things that should not be managed.
I used to have a friend who was such a person. She gives the impression of being fiery and warm and thoughtful.
But she is warm and thoughtful, often makes others look useless, and often thinks that she is all-round, and enjoys the praise that comes with this.
Once, she told me that her female neighbor seemed to be out there, and once the husband of the female neighbor called her and asked if his wife was with her.
She made herself clever, gave her a round field, she said, she is in so-and-so, with so-and-so...
But later, the female neighbor confessed to her husband where she was, and the two reconciled as before, so that she was not a person inside and out.
She was very aggrieved, very angry, and felt that she was trying to please her.
I didn't say much more, except to suspect that there was something wrong with her IQ, and in addition to being speechless, there was dumbfounding.
Examples of this abound in life.
He (she) is still single in his 30s, and must have a strange personality and high vision;
They have been married for so long, and they do not want children, and they are sure that the man or woman has a problem;
She drove such a luxurious car at such a young age, she must have leaned on a big money and made a small third child for others;
I just want to say, people don't get married or not, it's a matter of your hair? What do people have to do with you if they don't have children?
People drive a good car, I see that you are envious and jealous, and only then make up the story behind it.
Even if people really become little three children, it is also their own business, do you think that little three can be anyone? Why don't you try it?
Whenever I hear eight wives talking about people's rights and wrongs behind their backs, I always think of that sentence:
"The wind rises, blowing a pool of spring water, what is the matter?" ”
With the time of others, it is better to do your own things well, to worry less about other people's leisure, and to make your youth permanent.
A piece of advice for you in life: Start now and be smart. Don't be nosy, don't be overzealous, don't be self-righteous, don't ask others if they want you, love you or not, never care too much about some people, care too much about some things, go with the flow, and face it with the best mentality. Because the world is like this, often in front of the things that care most, we have the least value.
Just concentrate on running your own life well, take care of your own life, and live a leisurely and free life.
I like a passage in Jia Pingwa's "Free and Alone": introverted but not sluggish, quiet and powerful. Flat waves on the water, the waves are hidden.
Be a person who has strength on the inside and peace on the outside. Even if the dark tide in the heart is turbulent, the surface is still light and cloudy.
Follow your feelings, follow your heart, and live a life that suits you.
Don't look at others, don't be someone else, because others have already been done, just be yourself.
As Kitajima says, the extent a man walks is his world.
May your world be peaceful and beautiful, and do it according to your own plan.