Woman and Marriage //Liu Qing

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One day writing, writing about the two words of marriage, looking left and right look at it is very interesting, marriage is next to the two words of marriage; marriage is so important for everyone, why are these two words not next to the word but next to the word woman?

I tried searching on Baidu, but I didn't find the answer I was looking for.

Since ancient Times, China has had the ancient adage that "women are afraid of marrying the wrong man", in the past thousands of years of feudal old society, the status of women has always been very humble and low, as long as they enter marriage, it is a lifelong binding. So is it not from this reasoning that marriage has a more important meaning for women? The research related to marriage and family is set in the Women's Federation, which makes me think that it is a wise, far-sighted, and historical mission setting.

The profound significance of the marriage relationship is the most intimate and intimate relationship of human beings, and the profound significance of this statement illustrates the great difference between human beings and other animals; it is not difficult at all to love a person who is related to him by blood, it is almost an instinct among thousands of animals, and there are countless stories of mothers and sons in the animal world who can sing and cry; but it seems that only human beings can spend their lives with an unrelated person for decades.

Marriages are good and bad... Two people with completely different growth environments, family upbringing, hobbies, etc., to live intimately under one roof for decades, it is indeed necessary to have great courage and patience, so marriage needs to be impulsive, with age, thinking tends to be rational, and the probability of entering the marriage hall will be proportional to age. Born in the 70s, the marriage education we received from childhood is hidden, the only education is to rely on their own understanding to secretly witness and observe the marriage of the elders, but because the elders are in a special era, the marriage must be obeyed by the orders of the parents, and the combination is for the purpose of passing on the generations, and even the political needs, resulting in a large number of marriages that are passed away and of too low quality. Many women, including me, have been educated from a young age to take care of all the housework and educate their children in marriage, and my sister and I have been forced by my mother from a young age to learn to make wine, make tofu, take soles, knit sweaters, cultivate the land... She stubbornly believes that these are the basic skills that every woman who enters marriage must learn, and only a woman with these basic skills can find a place in her husband's family.

However, with the change of the times, reality has given modern women a blow, and before they can understand the true meaning of marriage, they have entered the workplace of the weak and the strong, working hard in the workplace like men during the day; taking off the mask at night to fulfill the duty of motherhood. In the name of the people, Gao Yuliang's wife, Teacher Wu, said at the end: "Whether a marriage is happy or not has never had anything to do with whether a woman is virtuous and capable. "It's completely different from the education I was raised.

Marriage, as the smallest social unit, plays out day after day like a complete society. There is a confrontation of big fights, there are also cold wars like gold, from nothing to say, after years of washing, passion has receded, contradictions have been revealed, friction is bound to arise, understanding and concession are lubricants, and we are forced to learn to tolerate and retreat. What is difficult to understand is that there is no school that can systematically teach us how to get along with each other, and there is an old Chinese saying: men should marry when women marry. It seems that men and women will naturally grow up, and everyone is a master of self-mastery.

For most people, they have experienced cold wars, quarrels, and dislikes to varying degrees; after that, there are those who return to peace and are like strangers. Sanmao said: If love cannot be implemented in the trivial matters of chai rice, oil, salt, eating and sleeping, it cannot be long-lasting. One day, we may finally wake up: marriage is really a rice tank of reality, and all the flowers before and after the moon can not only not be filled, but also show the ultimate embarrassment;

I believe in the lines of the palm of the hand, that it contains all the secrets of a person, but I believe more in the power of the palm plus the fingers. I've asked many people, "What does the ideal marriage look like?" The answers were varied, but the most common was: "A good man and a good woman, in the days of common suffering, although they have two hearts and two brains, they have only one thought--the same boat." This is the ideal state of marriage. ”

Since it is an ideal state, it means that there are very few. I prefer a term called "like-minded," which people often use to refer to career partners, but I think it would be better to use it as a metaphor for marriage.

As a woman, shouldering the arduous task of human reproduction, she has a natural motherhood. I don't remember where I read an article saying that women should not only learn to take good care of men and children, but also learn how to love themselves, do not take all the meat on the plate to the child's mouth; do not leave out their own names on the list of planned holiday gifts; Bi Shumin also said: "Women should read more, books are not rouge, but they will make women's hearts stay permanent, and they will also make women become sonorous and powerful, and in countless ordinary days, build their own spiritual granaries and reserve grain and grass to cope with great changes." "Once a spiritual calamity does not come according to the will of man, it will not collapse.

Marriage exists in a variety of ways, but the core is destined to be the same, that or a few blood bonds make us in the marriage become each other's relatives, in the world to care for and support each other. But it must be understood that marriage is realistic, and it must be given chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea.