There are many accidents in life, but there are also many surprises. However, whether good or bad, After becoming a mother, Waa Wei Ruxuan knows more and more how to cherish the small and beautiful things in life.
Life will always encounter sudden accidents, but accidents are also accompanied by surprises. Although for Waa Wei Ruxuan, it was inevitable to be caught off guard at first. Last year, she happily won the Golden Melody Award for Best Female Singer, happily announced at the beginning of the year that she would open a concert, release a new album, and the concert was sold out in an instant, and she couldn't wait to share this joy with her fans. Unexpectedly, during the period of publicity in full swing, the third-level vigilance unexpectedly fell from the sky, and all activities must be canceled.
"Huh?" How can this be?" Recalling what happened in mid-May, Wei Ruxuan still had a lot of question marks on his face. "Well, we are not alone, because it is not only us, but everyone is like this." I remember posting at that time that who was still releasing new albums during the epidemic? I don't know what to do with the publicity work?" Talking to herself and laughing at herself, so now you can come out and shoot the cover, really have to sneak a smile, her personality is grinning, she sounds like she is very open-minded. Only without miles, Wei Ruxuan's eyes instantly turned into a coward, afraid of death! "Every mother is afraid, and when she turns around, she is a girl, but they have to put on the look of me and no problem in front of the child." 」 During that period, she still worked on the radio, but every time she went out, she was nervous, and she was vigilant at any time and place, testing whether the people in front of her were obediently wearing masks, afraid of epidemic prevention and breaking.
For your sake, be afraid and pretend not to be afraid
I still have to go out to work! Parents know best that everyone is living under pressure. Because the income of the epidemic has dropped sharply in an instant, it is not only facing the threat of the virus, but also the belly of a family. "Now it's not just me who's full, it's for the sake of the whole family." The old attitude towards money was, oh well, there's money. But under the epidemic, it would be very grateful to have an income (laughs). Because it's really practical and important." That longing was so simple and small that Waa didn't dare to think about the future too far away, only hoping that she could quickly do the things that were not yet done in front of her.
"Everything is for you (child), I'm working hard over there, it's all for you, I can do whatever you want, I'm not afraid." Even if I'm scared, I'm going to pretend I'm not afraid. "For the mother is strong, but I didn't think to be strong like this, all the hero characters only the mother is always very sloppy." 」 Quoting the lyrics of the new song "Transformers", the doll accurately expresses the mood of the mother.
It is also very surprising that the album title "Have a nice day" that was first taken for the concert has become a super healing sentence at this moment. "At that time, the songs of the album had not yet been written, and I only felt that this sentence could contain many different emotions in it, which could be a blessing or a polite greeting, a very direct expression." 」 The songs written by the dolls for this album are still full of intimate emotions, but unlike in the past, the proportion of family affection and life accounts for the majority, and there is only one masochistic love song.
"When you have a child, you will put my position behind the child, and no matter what decision you make, you will give priority to the child." 」 So for the doll, a good day is that as long as the child laughs, she laughs; when the child is happy, she is happy, and her requirements become very low and low. After becoming a mother, I will be grateful for many small things. As long as the child is safe and healthy, it is happiness.
Everyone is in circles, independent and bonded to each other
When it comes to the biggest accident and adventure in life, Wei Ruxuan did not hesitate, of course, it was with little Louis. She opened her eyes widely, remembering that the doctor had told her that it was difficult for her physical condition to have a child, and she only tried it once. How can it be so fast? Her psyche was not ready. Coincidentally, at that time, the Little Dome concert was also scheduled, "but because of the sudden pregnancy, I had to pull it off", the agent added with a lament. However, the doll still has a big belly, works until eight months of pregnancy and does not rest, and the body is also taking risks from beginning to end.
The whole process is still throbbing! The doll uses the waterslide to hilariously describe pregnancy is when you sit down and go down the slide, there is no way back. "Do you want to skate?" I do not know. But you can only slide down, because the waterslide is all the way down. Are you afraid? I'm afraid! Elderly women are super afraid during the obstetric examination, afraid that if the child has a problem, he will not be able to detect it. Even after finally sliding onto the water and giving birth to a child, I am still taking risks. I was wet all over my body, wet until now (laughs)."
But the most surprising thing was his own transformation. In the past, a doll could live a very arrogant life, fly without buying insurance, and even not be afraid of death. But when I woke up after giving birth, I immediately turned to my agent and said, Buy, buy, buy! Buy all the insurance back! Anything risky is never wanted, because Mom is afraid of death. In order to take care of this child, the mother must live well. She knew that this little person would be a lifelong concern.
"Life is like time, every minute and every second is in the past, there is no way to stop. Although I had my child, he was not mine, he was his own individual, and in the future whatever he wanted was his choice, I could only accompany me or give me advice, and the final decision was still his business. Life is like this, everyone is like a circle, independent and bound to each other."
Regarding love, she understands more deeply what it is to love without expecting anything in return. "Some people may think that this is emotional blackmail, but emotional blackmail also has an element of love in it. Love is not a gift, a gift should be bought with money. But love is not, for me, love is what I am willing to give for you is love. To sum up, it is the love that is willing to give him, whether he wants it or not is his business, but you are love."
As long as there is love in the heart, you know how to love better. The accidents of life are sweet burdens. Even if you fall into a dog and eat, the doll thinks, Whether the day is good or not, in the end, it is up to you to define it. So believe it, Have A Nice Day! Tomorrow is another day.
After the age of 30, there is a feeling of unity between inside and outside
ELLE: The new song is inspired by "Grandma", did Grandma influence you a lot?
Wei Ruxuan: Because my parents divorced, my sister and I were brought up by my grandparents since childhood, so our feelings are very close. Grandma is very good, she is very good at growing vegetables, and the dishes we ate when we were children were all planted by her. She is also very good at knitting wool, not only using wool to help our whole family knit small shoes, but also making a lot of money with wool to buy a house. Her biggest influence on me was by example, teaching me to rely on myself in everything and not to reach out to others. If we want something, we'll find our own way to make money on our own. Therefore, when I was a child, my personality was also very independent, more like a boy.
ELLE: I heard you were eager to have children when you were young, why?
Wei Ruxuan: I am the eldest grandson of our family, and I am also the first eldest daughter, and when I was a child, I played with a bunch of children and thought that children were so cute. Later, my father remarried and had a child, and he liked children even more. Of course, because my parents divorced very early, I also want to get married quickly and have my own family.
ELLE: So you've been taking care of other people since you were a kid?
Wei Ruxuan: Since I was a child, I have been told to take care of my sister, and taking care of this matter has been deeply rooted in my mind, and I always want to help and take care of others. So if a friend has a problem, I will not comfort others, I will feel that we have to find a way, see how to solve it? But sometimes people just want to be comforted (laughs).
ELLE: It's ELLE 30 this year, remember when you were 30?
Wei Ruxuan: At that time, when I was almost 30 years old, I was a little worried and afraid, but when I was really 30 years old, I found that it was not the same as I would have acne, I was 30 years old! But I should be 32 at my happiest. Because when you reach the age of 32, you feel like things are a foregone conclusion anyway. Scared? Nor does it. On the contrary, it is because at this age, I know better what I like and what I don't like, and I may still be looking for it before. Before the age of 30, I felt that the inside of me and the outside were very different, full of contradictions, until now in my 30s, I finally have a feeling of unity inside and outside.
ELLE: How do you feel about being almost 40 years old?
Wei Ruxuan: I'm about to become an adult (laughs)! I used to think that 30 is an adult, but now that I have been in the 30 stage for so long, I feel that 40 is an adult, but maybe I will say that 50 is an adult when I am about to be 50 years old.
ELLE: What advice would you give to a 30-year-old woman?
Wei Ruxuan: Asian society still has the idea of whether to get married at the age of 30. But I think, everyone should not be afraid of being single, there is nothing wrong with being single, we should enjoy it! Maybe everyone will feel that they have to have a companion, or they want to make up for the pain of the previous relationship, hoping to find the next one quickly. But I think that there is no problem in leaving blank space in a love relationship, but you can precipitate yourself more and know what you want. So don't be afraid to be single, it's nice to be alone!
Reprinted from ELLE International Chinese Magazine