Why do so many women in real life feel that their lives are miserable, and they slowly become resentful women?
In fact, people are the same, no one is born with a good life. Everyone comes into this world to suffer all kinds of pains and setbacks!
People with good lives just know what they want and are willing to work hard for it!
And the woman with a bitter fate feels that the whole world owes her, and the whole world has a bad life for her! In fact, in the end, this is all your own, you can't complain about others, and you can't complain about heaven and earth! There are three reasons for this!
1, too much trust in men's love
It is not wrong to love a person, what is wrong is that many people when they are women, in addition to bringing a "love brain", they can't see anything else, and there is only the love of men and men in their eyes!
As everyone knows, the most unreliable thing in this world is men! Not to mention the sincerity of men!
I believe that when you are in love, the heart that the man loves you at that time should be real! But the man's sincerity can't stand the test of time!
You know, people have a nature of liking the new and tired of the old! Just like when we buy clothes, when we buy them, they are definitely beloved, dismantled and liked. But after a year or two, this dress was left in the depths of the closet by us, and we never wanted to look at it again!
There are many reasons for not liking, for example, the style of the clothes is outdated, stained with oil, simply worn for a long time, the color is old-fashioned, and so on.
In fact, men's love is the same! Don't believe it, the truth behind it is so heartfelt!
But many women are blinded by love, their minds are occupied by sweetness, they can't see the underlying logic behind things, and they think that if men say they love you, they will love you for a lifetime!
Many women believe it, thinking that a man's love can last a lifetime, even white-headed and old. However, when a man changes his mind, the sky suddenly collapses, and he will feel how he is so fateful!
As everyone knows, all this is expected! Because people's hearts are unpredictable and more volatile, this is doomed to be risky, and it means that not all love will bear fruit!
Women, wake up, don't see only love and love all day, don't believe too much in the true heart of men who love you!
2, there is no ability to make money independently
There is no ability to make money independently, that is to say, the palm of the hand is up, many women are like this, being housewives at home! Although they are exhausted every day, doing housework, raising children, and paying for the family, they still do not get the respect and sincerity of men!
For this reason, you feel that your heart is unfair, so you start to complain, and the more you complain, the more unsympathetic the man is, but instead takes your efforts for granted!
We often have a lot of men saying, "What am I going to do with you?" If you don't do it, don't do it! "As a result, you have done a lot of work in the family, paid a lot, but in the eyes of men, you are worthless!"
The reason is the problem of the economic base! A person's status and respect in the family is largely determined by the economic base!
If you have the ability to earn money independently, even if the housework is not done so well, men will not say anything, after all, you can earn money to support the family.
On the contrary, if you don't have the ability to earn money, even if you do more work at home, it is easy for men to despise you, not respect you enough, dislike you, and slowly feel that everything is deserved!
As a result, many women have become resentful women in marriage, feeling that they are the ones who suffer from fate!
Therefore, no matter when, women must have the ability to make money independently, even if they earn less!
Even as a housewife, you have to have the ability to earn money independently!
Because money is your confidence and capital, the palm of your hand is always dependent on others, then you have no independent control over your own life!
You know, how can a person put his life into the hands of others?
Therefore, women, stop complaining about their own fate, complaining about their encounter with scumbags, instead of relying on others, it is better to start to act and learn to support themselves!
3) No real change has been made
Many women feel that they have had a very unfortunate life in marriage, and whenever they say that they are painful and tragic, they are like the "Xianglin sister-in-law" in "Blessings".
Many women have a hard life, they are self-seeking, don't always feel that a family can't turn away from you, think that women should do housework, take care of the family, eat and live, and be a good housewife!
You know, women aren't superhuman! A family needs two people to run and pay together!
If you encounter this situation, women, do not only care about complaining, only worry about complaining about their own fate, a happy life is created by themselves!
If you don't change, you deserve to live like a resentful woman!
Women, we must know how to let go appropriately, do not cling to all the big and small things in the family and do not let go, do not always make a big package, learn to let go appropriately! Many things are not something that everyone is born with, but learns slowly!
Combine your own situation, make real changes, put them into practice, and create opportunities for others to participate in family affairs!
Maybe at the beginning, men will not do it, do not want to do it, we will create opportunities for him to do it!
Remember, anything is possible! Many things are habit problems, when men slowly get used to paying for the family, you will find that in fact, you can live better, life will be more and more happy!
Finally, I want to say to women: Don't frame yourself, feel that your life is not good, you must learn to change your life against the sky!