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In some temples and Taoist temples, people pray for peace, fortune, and incense and treasure for children and daughters, especially in important festivals and ancient temples, incense is endless, and even the first incense of the festival is fought. Ordinary people also worship their ancestors every Qingming, Zhongyuan Festival, the first day of october, and the first day of the first lunar month, and the city offers tribute and burns incense in front of the ancestral tablets; the countryside offers tribute in front of the grave, burns paper money, continues incense, and prays for the prosperity of the people.
Children are the incense of the family, in the past people preferred sons to daughters, can not give birth to boys is to break the incense, how many families in order to give birth to boys racked their brains. Those who have given birth to boys want girls, and those who have given birth to girls want boys, and many families work hard. On the first day of the Chinese New Year, at the Xi'an Eight Immortals Nunnery, believers from all walks of life competed for the first pillar of incense, and the incense reached an unprecedented climax; in the Three Madonnas Hall of the Yuquan Courtyard of Xiyue Huashan, there is a statue of the Three Virgins of the Mother of the Mother, which attracts the good men and women of the five lakes and the four seas to ask for their children, the love between the three virgins and the scholars, and the story of saving the mother with agarwood touching the heavens and the earth; in the Water and Land Nunnery in Lantian, every year on the three days of the twenty-third to twenty-fifth day of the first lunar month, tourists and believers rush here from all directions, burn incense and pray for peace, and the incense in front of the Buddha in the temple is also continuous.
As the old saying goes: "There are four kinds of family, people are prosperous", "people are prosperous, children and grandchildren are full of halls", "Ding" refers to "boys", in the ancient patriarchal traditional society, farmers and families have more men, more people have more power, farming and work are convenient, ten people always have a successful career. In the generation of grandparents, almost all children are many, at least six or seven children in every household, four or five boys and one or two girls; in the generation of the fathers, in the eighties, the national policy of family planning was implemented, advocating late marriage and late childbearing, and fewer children and eugenics, and the popularity of one son and one daughter was a living immortal; in the twentieth century, when people of our generation became parents, it was difficult to find employment, high housing prices, expensive medical treatment, and difficulty in education.
Jia Pingwa said: "How many couples in the world have gone to great lengths to renew the incense, which is actually meaningless!" "The total refusal to procreate is, of course, irresponsible to human beings, but except for those who must have children and daughters, who must have children and do not have children, it is a spiritual need for couples in modern society to have children, to have fun, such as raising cats and dogs, perhaps to maintain the family. After two years of marriage, parents are looking forward to holding their grandchildren, and it is very difficult to marry and have children at an older age. When I went back to my home, the villagers asked: Is the daughter-in-law pregnant? Father anxiously said that you still don't go to Huashan to give incense to the mother-in-law, my heart is inexplicably not the taste, only married for two years, father: people have been married for a year. Nephews at the age of eighteen or nineteen all said: "No filial piety has three, no queen is greater", in fact, we also think so in our hearts, giving birth to boys and girls must have a baby, a baby is a spiritual sustenance, but also to maintain the feelings of family members. Chinese medicine conditioned Western medical examinations, spent money to buy uncomfortable, but still willing, and finally fulfilled his wish.
In the nineties, there was a family in our hometown, and there were two boys in the family, who probably wanted to have girls, and ended up having another boy. Coinciding with the most stringent period of family planning, the commune's family planning department demanded that family planning not be ligated, grain and furniture, and even detained people. The woman of this family heard the noise and ran, the result was that the man was tied to the pole to show the public, and then the man was forcibly tied, and never did heavy work, the woman had no way to support the burden, the eldest son became a soldier, the second son later learned to repair the mobile phone, set up his own portal, and took the third son out. In recent years, with the rapid development of society and the advent of the inner volume era, although the government encourages the second child and advocates the third child, most of them still have only one child, and people have a descendant as long as they continue to have incense in their hearts.
In the traditional culture of the Chinese people, there is "no filial piety and three nothings are greater". "No posterity is greater", not following the responsibility of the descendants is the greatest filial piety, Shun did not tell the parents to marry a wife, so that there is no responsibility to follow the descendants, the gentleman believes that it is still necessary to inform the parents first, the original meaning is that the descendants no one to the ancestors to burn incense to worship the ancestors is not filial piety; now people understand that not marrying a wife and having children is the greatest filial piety, the current refined self-interested Dink people, have their own set of theories, live their own life, filial piety to parents, do not have children can also; there are also for the successors, for incense, Spending a lot of money to borrow seeds to give birth to IVF; there is also an unusual path in order to have a later, do more than super identification of the sex of the baby.
In the twentieth century, the elderly in cities and rural areas have provided for their own old-age pensions, and they are not willing to disturb their children until the last moment. The elderly in the city do not want to trouble their children in nursing homes with pensions; the countryside now also has a little pension, a little thin field to plant some grain and vegetables, and is not willing to trouble their children, so there is no filial piety and there is no longer a problem of inheritance of incense.
2021.6.23