Studies have found that after the age of 25, people's ability to make friends will inevitably deteriorate. /"Kai's New Life"
It's like someone taking advantage of the emptiness of life and punching the sorest place.
Are you getting fewer and fewer friends?
Recently, "loss of friends" has become a hot topic on Weibo. Behind the tens of millions of readers, everyone shared their lives and talked about their inner feelings and thoughts.
Some people think that life is a separation after another. Graduation, internship, work, marriage, pushed by life, involuntarily.
Some people analyze their own reasons. I am tired of going to work every day, and I don't want to spend energy on socializing anymore, which is really the "human reality" of workers.
Some people, although they have less contact with their friends, still love them very much. In the heart, always retain a silently missed position.
Good friend, is it really lost? Behind the "amicability" is actually a rethinking and discovery of intimate relationships and self-growth.
Aphasia, a major hallucination of contemporary youth
When it comes to friendship, many people will immediately think of "Friends".
This year is a year of well-being for Friends fans. First Lego launched the second "Friends" limited set, and then the "Reunion Special" was broadcast, and the melody of "I will be there for you" sounded, and everyone couldn't help but feel excited.
Pushing the door into the set of that year, memories came to me.
The living room for chatting, the dinner table, the sofa, the curtains, the cabinets, the coffee cups... Everything is the way it is.
Wantonly laughing at each other's old age and fat, naturally taking over the second half of the sentence, a few people over half a hundred years old, gathered to play games like children's excitement - once accompanied by time, can be found in a second. Times have passed, but they have come to the present with a memory.
"Friends" reunion special
The support and companionship of friends is indeed very precious.
Psychologist E.H. Erikson points out that 18-25 years old is the so-called "early adulthood" that mainly "resolves the conflict between intimacy and loneliness." We need the intimacy of our friends, to overcome our inner loneliness, confusion and uncertainty, and to break through the barriers of life.
Just like in the beginning of "Friends", Rachel ran away from marriage to work in the big city, Joey is still a small actor who has repeatedly encountered a wall, and Rose has just experienced marriage failure.
The so-called "rely on parents at home, rely on friends when going out", studies have shown that the most important factor in making friends in this period is "proximity".
Stills from Friends
Married, in love, with children, "Friends" to the end of each have a new life encounter. The high mobility of modern society also undermines "proximity" and the loss of contact between friends. But over time, adult friendships have changed.
We are more aware of what we want and can make decisions independently. At this stage, "similarity" becomes a more important deciding factor. Ohio University professor William Rawlins believes that mid-adult friendships no longer need to be with each other all the time, and relationships are defined as "knowing that They are there."
Therefore, "aphasia" is actually an illusion of contemporary youth. We just have a different way to maintain friendship and face life more maturely.
What you don't remember, he remembers
We are trapped in the chicken feathers of the present, of course, there will be a momentary "loss of friends" loss. But now I am closely related to the former me.
The friend of the year was the partner who witnessed all this. What would happen if you were asked to see them again? They've been through something like this—
Hanfu blogger @ Lao Ba Wei is now a well-known "national style trumpet" in the circle. This cute Changsha girl began to do Hanfu sharing 4 years ago. Not content with simple imitation, she tries to incorporate her own thinking into the video.
The theme of "Millennium Fashion" produced by her expresses history in one breath with the seamless switching of Hanfu. For example, the video "240 seconds to unlock the millennium female fashion burst liver dress up at a glance for a thousand years", reflecting the changes in women's social status, beautiful and atmospheric and deep, and suddenly got millions of hits.
Old Eight "Millennium Fashion" theme dress-up video
Hanfu crossed the circle, and Lao Badao was also using his whimsical ideas to create more possibilities.
She tried to combine Hanfu with science fiction: first she made a story of a robot girl shopping in Hanfu, the national style of steampunk is very interesting, and later she also did a cyberpunk-style Qing Dynasty appearance, and the high-cold fantasy look surprised the whole network.
Ji QingJin Cai Hai Yan He Qing Zun anthropomorphic makeup
Lao Ba li accidentally saw an old photo, which was the way she had just started playing Hanfu. Following the photo, she re-saw the photographer, who was the first partner Xiao Meng to do Hanfu with her.
On that day, after they finished filming the Hanfu style, they did not want to take a taxi when they went back. Very far away, can only ride all the way, very tired but very happy.
Love and persistence, support the old eight to today.
Unlike Lao Ba, instead of reliving the familiarity of the common possession, @Bian Que Chun once again met the girlfriend of the dance troupe, but harvested a fresh surprise.
Bian Que Chun turned out to be a dance teacher, but the physical pain forced her to leave the stage. It was the "darkest time" of her life, she said.
In the good friend Zhang Xiaoxian, the story has a different version. It was raining that day, and Bian Que Chun officially bid farewell to his dance career and chose to run to the next stop in his life. The friend who secretly took a picture of the back of the moment believed that she would become a different version of herself.
After that, Bian Que Chun found a job opportunity when he was sorting out his wardrobe. The beauty of art is transformed into the aesthetics of daily life. She founded the Chinese-style spatial planning management concept "Retention Road" and became the founder of the finishing and storage industry.
Bian Que Chun collected and sorted out the cases
In the past 10 years, Bian Que Chun has a company he founded and has published books. She has held numerous trainings and public speeches, which have been reported by domestic and foreign media such as CCTV, "Everyday Upward" and even NHK in Japan.
Bian Que Chun wrote in his writings: "Retention is not hoarding, but cherishing and accepting, accepting all kinds of unsatisfactory things in life, accepting the imperfect self, because all the things that flow through the years of our lives are all practices." "Bian Que Chun himself, that's it.
Even in the darkest hours, friends can see your light. Even when you don't believe in yourself, they still choose to believe until you fall in love with yourself again.
Friends don't have to accompany us to the end, but the attention is always there.
Fashion blogger @Affy is cute and so is.
Former partners, early to change careers. She remembered it vividly, the dinner. Ah Fei said that no matter how tired and difficult it is in the future, he will insist on walking.
Later, Ah Fei really began to learn boxing, find his own strength beauty, confidently and bravely try various styles, and become a full-time fashion blogger.
@Affy classmate is very cute everyday wear
Last year, Affee moved to Shanghai and officially transformed into a fashion blogger. "Almost 30 years old to start to change, more fortunately, everything is not too late", Affie is still on the road of life, "every day of struggle is harvesting, healing, this year is still very good, just as good as every year".
Ah Fei did not know that her friends had been silently watching her live broadcast for so many years.
"You did it."
A word of recognition from a friend has dissipated the bitterness of many years.
In fact, we didn't really lose friends. Every friend is an important index in life, leading us to see ourselves clearly.
What you don't remember, good friends remember.
It doesn't matter, you're born to look good
A friend's words deeply touched Ah Fei, "He told me that I am still so good-looking, the same as before."
Looking back, time has never faded friendship. In my eyes, you have always been four words:
Born good-looking.
In the eyes of friends, Lao Babao is full of love for Hanfu, and his serious appearance is the best;
In the eyes of friends, Bian Que Chun firmly transforms the track of life, and his bold appearance is the best;
In the eyes of friends, Ah Fei always adheres to the original intention, and the pure appearance is the best;
Even if they are very bitter and tired, the world is fickle, and they still have to face setbacks and separation, they also adhere to their innate characteristics, firmly believe that their own charm and light can always be seen. This is just in line with xiaomi civi's core concept of "naturally good-looking".
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In the newly released brand video, Lao Babao, Bian Que Chun and Ah Fei were invited to share the story between them and their good friends, telling their unique interpretation of "born good-looking"——
In Lao Ba's view, Hanfu is a sophisticated art. Texture, fabric and color convey emotions and stories.
Just like Xiaomi Civi, the color matching corresponds to the "Xilan" in the traditional Chinese color system, and there is a fluffy texture, giving people a gentle touch.
You, who have renewed your traditions, are naturally good-looking. The identity hidden in the genes of aesthetic culture, the delicate intuitive touch, is the innate sense of intimacy.
Bian Que chun believes that the core concept of storage and finishing is "retention of the Tao". Keeping the really important parts of your life is the only way to gain inner peace and pleasure.
The same goes for the Xiaomi Civi's design philosophy. Thin and light body, carrying a narrower width of 6.55'' large screen and strong battery, in the limited space, as many important functions as possible.
You who go to complexity and simplicity are born to look good. There is no need for superfluous Mannerism, its own connotation, is the innate unique temperament.
Ah Fei believes that there is no single standard of beauty, and everyone has their own merits.
She appreciates Xiaomi Civi's imaging technology, front autofocus + double soft light with pixel-level skin renewal technology, algorithmic beauty at the same time, to maximize the preservation of true beauty, respect for everyone's natural characteristics.
Returning to the true you, you are naturally good-looking. Embracing individuality and bold interpretation is innate beauty.
In the face of "friendlessness" anxiety, each of us deserves a warm response.
In this era of uncontrolled acceleration, people's hearts need to be stable. The most precious bondage, the most authentic emotion, the most comfortable expression.
As it should be, there is no need to blindly follow.
It doesn't matter, you're born to look good.
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6. Sina Weibo @ Lao Ba Bao, @ Ah Fei classmates are very cute, @ Bian Que Chun
✎ Author | Nuclear Jenny
✎ Proofreading | Yang Chao
✎ Typography | Mochi
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