In life, there are always a few moments in the past that make people feel scared or afraid in retrospect.
This fear can be big or small. The larger ones can be due to natural and man-made disasters, diseases and deaths, or strange ghosts; while the small ones come from the separation of relatives and friends, work frustration, family disputes, emotional breakdowns, or darkness and helplessness.
Browsed the memories of many netizens on Zhihu for the "scared moment", although most of the reasons are nothing more than this, but there are always some unexpected replies that are shocking. Even if the reasons are similar, the complex emotions contained in them are still very emotional.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > the first category: fear + helplessness</h1>
Fear arises, and much of it stems from helplessness. A very typical case is that a respondent who is just learning to swim, swimming to the central area to stand in the middle of the pool to rest, suddenly due to the ripples of the water standing unsteadily, at the critical moment of continuous choking, the respondent's mind is blank, forgetting the correct posture of swimming, the limbs flutter wildly, but the body can not move forward or float.
In the critical moment when there are no supporting facilities around and no one to rescue, the greatest fear in people's hearts stems from this inner helplessness.
The other respondent had the same sense of helplessness and even despair because of a dream. In the dream, he becomes Jerry the mouse in Tom and Jerry, followed by a Tom cat, chasing him around a shrinking square route. The situation itself may sound like a laugh for a sane person, but in the nightmare of isolation and helplessness, this endless, tense and suffocating chase will become a terrifying moment that the dreamer will never forget.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > the second category: fear + grievance</h1>
This kind of response mixed with grievances is also very common, and it is especially related to the hearts of people who are wandering alone in big cities. A respondent replied that the most frightening moment in life was once working overtime until midnight, suddenly feeling breathless, on the way to the hospital by taxi, she opened the car window and gasped for breath, but when she arrived at the hospital door, her legs were weak and she almost fainted.
In the same way, when a person is hospitalized with a bloody wound, or when a left-behind child faces the background of his parents' distant departure, he or she will have such a sense of fear that accompanies grievances and self-pity. Their so-called fear, the solution, only needs to have enough love in the future to fill and soothe.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > the third category: fear + fear of loss</h1>
The author's experience of this kind is also more typical, and I am still afraid to look back on it. At that time, the baby who was less than 5 years old went to the subway station to pick me up from work accompanied by the elderly, and after seeing me, he ran happily and wanted to race with the author. The author was wearing leather shoes, how could not catch up with him, shouted loudly to make him stop, but the baby ignored it and ran madly to the traffic intersection. At this critical moment, a little boy suddenly came on a bicycle and knocked the baby to the ground. He was bleeding from his hands and face, and he was crying.
But imagine, if there was no little boy riding a bicycle at that time, the baby might have run directly to the middle of the road. Or is it not the kid on the bike who hits first, but the private car that rushes to turn right? The consequences were unimaginable, and I almost lost my most precious person!
A doctor also recalled that he was accidentally pricked by a needle used by a patient, and even thought about how to arrange it after his death. Another recall is that ex-boyfriend used to say break up, and she had a premonition before every time she mentioned it, and she couldn't help but feel her heart beat faster, her fingers trembling, and she would even vomit when she ate.
The infinite love for someone or something makes people feel a great sense of fear when they face the risk of losing it. But it's not all bad, and sometimes it can even inspire extraordinary power. For example, there are many similar media reports that an ordinary woman lifted the car with her bare hands and saved the child under the tire. This extraordinary energy comes from the work of adrenaline. If used properly, it will help to play beyond the norm. For example, legendary athlete Bob Beamon raised the world record from 8.35 meters to 8.9 meters when he jumped long in 1968, known as the jump of the century, and also created the largest world record jump in the history of athletics.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > the fourth category: fear + unknown</h1>
There is also a type of fear, which is actually related to the unknown. For example, the fear of ghosts, the fear of pain when giving birth, and the fear of being called home at school and not knowing why.
Another respondent said that when she was in junior high school, she was found by her parents for sneaking out on a date at night, and her parents broke up with her boyfriend after crying and educating her. But three or four years later, when I suddenly found out that my ex-boyfriend was asking for a picture of himself from a friend, the answerer was terrified at the thought of how his parents would not be able to lift their heads and how others would chew on the root of their tongue if he told him what happened when they went on a date at night.
These frightening things did not happen, and they did not necessarily happen. The reason for this is the unknown, in the uncertainty. If people who are afraid of the "ghost fire" of the cemetery know that it is just a "phosphorus fire" formed after the chemical reaction of human decay, then the fear of walking to the cemetery in the middle of the night will be greatly reduced. Even if there is a psychological shadow, it is relatively easy to eliminate in the future.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > fifth category: fear + uncontrollable evil thoughts</h1>
This last type of fear is the most shocking and unexpected when browsing, because these respondents are afraid of uncontrollable emotions and evil thoughts of resorting to violence.
For example, one respondent mentioned that after the gym class, he accidentally touched a person with a chair, and after apologizing, the person still did not forgive and kept saying dirty words until he heard a "roll". The answerer was afraid, but not because he was afraid of being beaten by the big brother of society, but because he had reached the limit of patience at that time, his hand had pressed to the handle of the knife, and the electric shock device was installed in his waist. If the man utters another swear word, the Answerer is sure that he can kill the man twice before anyone else arrives. Moreover, he also thought that if he wanted to go to prison, he would rather die, so he could only ask for the death penalty, and if he wanted to be sentenced to death, he must be cruel enough, and since it was too late to divide the body, he could only rely on bloody methods such as going out of his eyes and cutting the flesh on his face.
Another, because his own border herder was shot by a poison needle, first raised the three liability insurance of the car, and then directly stepped on the accelerator at night and hit a person in front of the dog meat shop, but it turned out not to be a dog poisoner. After that, he spent the last month, in the middle of winter, every night from 9 pm to 2 o'clock in the evening to wander around the neighborhood, and finally caught the poisonous dog man, he saw the last axe thrown over, and immediately threw out a hammer. What he feared most was not that he would be killed, but that he had no fear of what he had done at that time, and since then he has regarded life as a straw.
For such deep-seated fears, non-ordinary persuasion can be alleviated. The author does not believe that "human nature is inherently evil", but some people have demons in their hearts because of certain circumstances. Once these "devils" have the opportunity to erupt, they will certainly pay an incalculable price.
The causes of fear, all these, cannot be exhausted. From a biological point of view, fear is a very important evolutionary legacy that can effectively guide us to avoid risk and is of great value for survival. No matter what kind of fear, finding an appropriate way or channel, or deep in the heart to be vigilant and introspective, or self-motivated to learn from this, there are many ways. The only thing we can do is to control ourselves with reason as much as possible, so as to better adapt to modern life.